I am really upset and dont know if i should be but, my fiance sister just got engaged this past week and she already going to book a hall this weekend. She is planning a wedding right before mine 2 months. I feel since I got engaged first, we should be married first. His family does not fell the same way. I feel she is rushing on purpose just to be married before us. She knew what the date was why did she need to jump right in front ughhh???
ITALIANBELLA
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no she said not really saying alot i kind of have to ask my fh what he heard she being very quiet about it
Fall BZ 2009
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Don't sweat it....it doesn't matter who get's married first.............just enjoy planning and your day will be GREAT!
lizzie217
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We are getting married at the same church,,,you must also be from whitestone, so hello neighbor!
Getting back to the issue...honestly your wedding is going to be great, focus on your planning and how exciting and fun this time is. My bro and FSIL are getting married in July and we have had a ball over the last yr planning together! I really would not get worked up over it....its a happy time for all of you
MEMEJOR
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Dont be upset... U will have ur day and it will be beautiful... dont let anything get u upset
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Posted by WinterGrl09
Think about it this way... you'll have more time to prepare for your wedding. Also you'll be able to see what she's done... and you can make things better.
i agree with the above...unfortunately you cant tell fsil that she cant get married til after you...at least she isnt getting married on the same day!!!! in the end it doesnt matter when either of you get married, bc when its your day, its all about you, so who cares if shes married or not...and plus if you book the same vendors you can get a really good deal!
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This happened with me and my sister. She got engaged in 2004 and I got engaged this past December. I started planning my wedding right away. When she saw that I set plans into motion and had a date set I think she got jealous and she automatically set a date for 2 months after my wedding. I find it weird that after having such a long engagement and being in no rush to get married, all of a sudden she wanted to jump on it. Honestly, I wouldn't let it bother you. I would however send out Save the Dates so everyone knows that your wedding was planned first.
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IMO! It's really not that serious to get all worked up about. A person can plan their wedding whenever they want. Just because you were engaged first doesn't mean anything to another bride when they are planning their wedding.
Just worry about your planning and let it go!
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Don't let it bother you! All that really matters is that your marrying the man that you love! Your wedding is going to be better no matter who gets married first because it is your wedding! BTW: LOVE your RH...I'm getting married there too!
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Sounds like someone feels the need to one-up you! My cousin did the same thing. Got engaged 2 weeks after me and decided to have a destination wedding to Vegas this June so she could get married before me. I was really annoyed at first, and now I don't care that much because I know my wedding is going to be 100 times better.
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I have no advice, I just wanted to say it would bother me to no end as well. Dont feel bad about being angry. I would too.
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look on the bright side--at least they're during diff seasons (summer vs. fall). yours will be totally unique regardless :o) i had a similar prob that has fortunately resolved itself, but i nevertheless understand your frustration. you just shouldn't let it ruin your big moment.
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It would bother me too but, it doesnt seem like there is anything you can do about it. MY FSIL is getting married 3 weeks after us.
Summertimegal424
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look at it this way...you can have a 10 times better wedding then her!
DonnaPWhite1124
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Really it wouldnt bother me. My sister is getting married 2 months before me and I had to s u c k it up (even though she got engaged months after I did). I'm very happy for her.
It depends on the other person(meaning the other bride to be) if she's doing it on purpose and being a little bit overzealous with the wedding planning (ex. booking her hall the week she got engaged), then yes I'd be bothered by it. If not, just move on.
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i understand what your saying but both weddings will be amazing. We are getting married a few months after FH'd brother. Both of our weddings will be special. Just do what you wanna do and have fun. Dont let it bother you it is your special day no mattter what
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Ehhhhh I feel your pain, I completely understand how you feel bc I would probabaly feel the same. However, think of it like this, it is better that she is getting married right before you than right after you. This is because, after she gets married, the only thing to look foward to is your wedding. What I am trying to say is that if it were the other way around, while you are basking in your wedding glory having been the most beautiful bride ever, looking at proofs, laughing and talking about the wedding, you would have to be talking about her wedding which is coming up. This way, her wedding is over and done with, and all the glory is left to you!
Keep us posted on what happens!
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I'm on the other end of a similar situation - FH's BIL got engaged before us and set their date for August 2009. We got engaged a couple of months later. Because I'm starting an accelerated program for one year, non stop, without a break, in September 2009 we realized we either needed to get married right after his BIL in Sept 2009, before his BIL in 2009, or wait until at least September 2010, which we really didn't want to do. We spoke to them about wanting to plan our wedding before theirs, in May 09, and they were COMPLETELY understanding and happy for us. The families are extremely close and are both affected by our weddings so we were worried they would be upset if we got married before them, but they were sooo sweet and encouraged us to have our wedding before theirs and not wait until 2010. The bride was especially understanding. I guess this all depends on what you think of the whole situation and if you're taking it personally.
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In the grand scheme of things, this will not matter. Don't start off on the wrong foot. We don't own the year or month we get married in and people will do whatever they want regardless of other peoples' feelings. Worry about YOUR wedding and let her do whatever she wants.
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Two months before isn't such a big deal. It's actually a long time. One of my friend's cousins planned her wedding for three weeks after my friend's!!!
Seriously though, unless she's blatantly trying to steal your thunder, I think this could be fun. I wished I had someone close to me going through the same thing at the same time... that's why I love LIW! Try not to worry about it too much.
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Posted by ITALIANBELLA
no she has no significant reason she works in office so she can pick any date she is booking a 09 wedding I feel that she should either do it sooner or later then ours !
i respectfully disagree with you, I like to belive in the good of people and unless she is just a mean awful person who has nothing better to do than get you upset than I wholehearltdly believe that her date that she chose was just convenient for her. Try to remember in this process that not everybody thinks like you and may not even realize when they are doing something to upset you.. I can be totally wrong but it shouldnt matter when people get married just focus on important issues like how lucky you are to be able to have a beautiful day, health etc
