I am really upset and dont know if i should be but, my fiance sister just got engaged this past week and she already going to book a hall this weekend. She is planning a wedding right before mine 2 months. I feel since I got engaged first, we should be married first. His family does not fell the same way. I feel she is rushing on purpose just to be married before us. She knew what the date was why did she need to jump right in front ughhh???
vicky1125
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does it really matter who gets married first?
WinterGrl09
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Think about it this way... you'll have more time to prepare for your wedding. Also you'll be able to see what she's done... and you can make things better.
ITALIANBELLA
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No but I feel she is doing it on purpose because she didnt even discuss it she just told my fiance and that was it i feel short changed
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Oh boy, thats hard. Is there a reason why she is choosing that month?? Like, with me, I can only get married in the summer as a teacher... so i am getting married two months before my cousin, who was engaged first...
I felt terrible though about it. As well as my MOH who was engaged before me. But, they all understand, as a teacher its hard, and waiting another year would cause more stresss....
You have the right to be upset though if she has no reasoning, because then its just rude...
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I totally understand your frustration, I would probably feel the same way. However, there is nothing you can do about it...you don't own the year or anything. Just let it go and don't get too worked up over it, okay?
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aww, i agree just think of it as you have more time to plan. She knew you had a date picked out? Things will work out don't feel short changed it is your wedding day and things will be great!
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i can understand that you want it to be your special time. I would feel the same way.
But try not to worry about it... maybe she always wanted August and didn't want to wait two years. I got the last available date in 09 for my hall besides Nov 28, so who knows if she'll even be able to get the date she wants?
Try to keep your ideas on the hush.... you'll be really upset if she takes your ideas for her wedding! And like others said, then you know how to top hers :)
Not that it's a contest. But you could think of it that way
ITALIANBELLA
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no she has no significant reason she works in office so she can pick any date she is booking a 09 wedding I feel that she should either do it sooner or later then ours !
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HMMM i dont think you should let it bother you. You said she didnt discuss it with anyone but did she really have to? that is a decision she needs to make with her FH. Even if she DID do it just so that she can get married before you, there is really nothing you can do. There hasnt been a wedding in my family in over 10 yrs and all of a sudden I get engaged and set my date and 4 other cousins of mine set their date for 09 as well. I could complain or i could just ignore it and spend the time planning my own FABULOUS WEDDING. Your day is YOURS and no one can take that away from you.
ITALIANBELLA
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thanks you guys are great yea maybe alot of the vendors are booked also so we shall see
BarbieGrl10
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I understand how you feel. This happens a lot! But I would try to not let it bother you!! Your wedding will be beautiful!!
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Posted by ITALIANBELLA
No but I feel she is doing it on purpose because she didnt even discuss it she just told my fiance and that was it i feel short changed
And for this same reason...you shouldn't let this bother you. You're giving her what she wants.
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WOW that is just annoying of her but are you sure that she is doing it on purpose? I wouldn't be bothered until she books or tries to book something and realizes there isn't much available for the summer of '09 ( I think we all booked everything up LOL)
Hopefully her parents will talk some sense into her not doing before her brother, that will be a strain on her parents, two weddings back to back. Is she really that inconsiderate?
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just dont let her find out bout this fabulous site so she doesnt steal ur ideas and vendors lol
thenewmrsharrington
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maybe they just want to get married as soon as possible? i don't think you should let it bother you. my fsil is getting married 3 months before me and when we got engaged she told me we could get married before her if we wanted - she totally didn't care!
ITALIANBELLA
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yea his mother is happy for her so she basically doing whatever she wants its just annoying but to keep carrying on making matters worse and my fh getting upset also so better for me to just ignore it
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Don't let it bother you. This happens so many times to a lot of people- it's not worth getting worked up over it.
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That is annoying but whatever it's not worth a fight over. Just don't tell her all your details or else she will copy you. And you can learn from her wedding and make your's that much nicer. Then she will regret it lol.
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My sister got engaged before me and I am getting married 4 months before her. I know how you feel because I was upset that she got engaged before me. I aske her first if it was okay that I get married berfore her and she said it was ok. But later on I found it bothered her a little. It is like stealing someones thunder. SHe should of asked you if it was ok also 2 months is kind of close. Your FH poor parents. When she is getting married you are going to have your shower. Is she set on a certain day or time?
