HELP!!------What to do when a person RSVP no but sends money

Brooklynbride Posted: Jul 11, 2008 07:31 AM

HELP!!------What to do when a person RSVP no but sends money

I have a few guests who RSVP no but sent money (checks). What do I do.......

Do I send them a thank you right away, or do I wait until after the wedding to say thank you?

Do I sent them a thank you now and another one after the wedding (with our wedding photo thank you's)?

Do we deposit the checks now, or after the wedding?

jgourdain Posted: Jul 11, 2008 07:34 AM

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I would send them a thank you now saying something like I am sorry you won't be able to make it but we really appreciate the gift. Cash the checks now.

mls282 Posted: Jul 11, 2008 07:41 AM

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Posted by jgourdain

I would send them a thank you now saying something like I am sorry you won't be able to make it but we really appreciate the gift. Cash the checks now.

I agree 100% After the wedding you can send one with a picture and even a favor if you have extra (thats what I was thinking of doing at least) :)

roan126 Posted: Jul 11, 2008 07:46 AM

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I deposited the checks right away, but waited until after the wedding to send a thank you....wanted to get the pro pics back first so I could send a thank you with the picture.

JJC Posted: Jul 11, 2008 08:10 AM

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send it right away

thenewmrsharrington Posted: Jul 11, 2008 08:44 AM

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send it right away. you can send the pro pic after.

MikeandJess Posted: Jul 11, 2008 08:45 AM

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we deposited the checks and wrote them a thank you

gabbie83 Posted: Jul 11, 2008 08:46 AM

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Do I sent them a thank you now and another one after the wedding (with our wedding photo thank you's)?

thats what i did & i waited wtih the checks - i deposited them all together with the ones i got at the wedding

BeccaJo Posted: Jul 11, 2008 09:08 AM

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We're having the same problem right now. Its still 1.5 months before the wedding and we prob wont get the pro pics back until oct or nov so we sent thank yous to people we weren't too close with just so they knew we got the gift and deposited the checks. We can wait on thanking close friends and family so we can send a picture and those who will actually be at the wedding. Its a difficult situation but i dont think people will be too insulted if you wait to thank them. People know it takes a long time to send thank you cards.

MnM52607 Posted: Jul 11, 2008 09:39 AM

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Posted by roan126

I deposited the checks right away, but waited until after the wedding to send a thank you....wanted to get the pro pics back first so I could send a thank you with the picture.

This is what I did.

MrsInglima Posted: Jul 11, 2008 09:42 AM

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Posted by jgourdain

I would send them a thank you now saying something like I am sorry you won't be able to make it but we really appreciate the gift. Cash the checks now.

Ditto.

Unless you're waiting for pictures of you to arrive to send out Thank You cards it's probably a good idea to send Thank Yous out to everyone as soon as you get the gift. This way it's not as overwhelming as it will be when you have a lot more after the wedding.

Im a Pepper Posted: Jul 11, 2008 09:44 AM

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I read that you should send thank you cards as soon as gifts come in, even if the wedding hasn't happened yet. I'd cash the check right away too so their account isn't in limbo.

littlepixie12 Posted: Jul 11, 2008 10:34 AM

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You send the thank you card right away and go ahead and deposit the checks. Do you have any epics that you can send them? But i wouldnt worry about the pics since they arent going to the wedding

PegaLega Posted: Jul 11, 2008 10:44 AM

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Send them a regular thank you now-and after the wedding send them the TY you get from your photographer

Deposit the checks now-if you dont you can screw up someone banking-definitely take care of this ASAP

lyss0908 Posted: Jul 11, 2008 12:20 PM

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Posted by mls282

Posted by jgourdain

I would send them a thank you now saying something like I am sorry you won't be able to make it but we really appreciate the gift. Cash the checks now.

I agree 100% After the wedding you can send one with a picture and even a favor if you have extra (thats what I was thinking of doing at least) :)

I agree with both ladies. Def deposit the checks now and send a thank you.

Michelle74 Posted: Jul 11, 2008 03:27 PM

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We sent out Thank Yous that kind of matched with our colors and theme right away and deposited the checks as soon as the card was in the mail --that way we don't screw up their finances/confuse them. I also wrote in those cards --in addition to thanking them for their generous and thoughtful gift -- that we were sorry they could not attend, but would certainly send a picture from the big day. We plan to send out second Thank Yous --the one with the photo- to those who declined, but sent a gift.

NYCGirl2008 Posted: Jul 12, 2008 10:33 AM

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I say deposit check now. Send them thank you now and one later.

dazies1011 Posted: Jul 12, 2008 10:47 AM

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Posted by NYCGirl2008

I say deposit check now. Send them thank you now and one later.

I agree

jtgarsik Posted: Jul 12, 2008 12:49 PM

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i made a phonecall to say thankyou & how much we appreciate it....then i sent them our official thankyou after the wedding...hope this helps!

flairforfashion Posted: Jul 12, 2008 01:23 PM

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Posted by jgourdain

I would send them a thank you now saying something like I am sorry you won't be able to make it but we really appreciate the gift. Cash the checks now.

100% agreed.