Hi Girls! ***UPDATE***
Hope everyone had a great weekend. We had such nice fall weather and yesterday was perfect- nice and warm- can't complain! So I changed my Duet team from Sam to Alberto- YAY! I am so excited. Alberto's work is amazing and I am truly excited.
Now is the vent part and I don't know if this is asking for advice or if I just need to let it out. Here goes: For a little background on my family situation here goes. My Sister got married 5 years ago and moved upstate. Since then, she had a baby over a year ago. Her husband works. She works. And they both need to work in order to pay for their extravegant lifestyle. So, at that point- she couldn't afford daycare (which I know is BS- they just choose to have a large house and other toys) So, my Mom decides to go upstate and take care of the baby. Now, her and my Father are married for 30 something years. They are not divorced but may as well be considering it is now a year later and my Mom is still living there.
Now here I am. Engaged and planning a wedding. My Mom seriously could give two sh*ts about the wedding. And it hurts my feelings. I have talked to my Sister multiple times. I have talk to my Mom multiple times. They don't care. My Sister thinks I am jealous. Which is not the case at all. I have all the things I want in the world and I live pretty nicely. I just feel abandoned. There is the difference. My WHOLE family agrees with me. Everyone thinks it's ridiculous that my Mom is living up there totally abandoning my Father. Forget me for a second. My Dad is 68 and has diabetes. I think he needs my Mom right now to enjoy life with. He is not getting any younger. But for now, he has me to keep him company because I still live at home. I am worried about when I get married. He will be alone. The fact that my Sister does not care, boggles my Mom. She says I am selfish. But in reality- she is being selfish. If she makes a few cutbacks, she can either stay at home or put the kid in daycare.
So fast forward to this past Saturday. It's my Neice's 14th birthday. We are all gathered in the kitchen. My Mom was there and talking about her life upstate. She was saying what she does there during the day. Then she mentioned that she cooks dinner. So of course I![]()
and said 'OMG- she cooks for you too!!!!!' My Sister got MAD. I mean really mad. She stormed over to me and got in my face crying and said 'I am returning all your gifts and dropping out of your wedding party!' Then she said I was jealous and I said 'for the record- I am not jealous. I just wish my Mom was HERE when I need her. She was there when you need her and now you are just milking it for all it's worth!' So she stormed out crying. Mind you. She is 31 years old and she made a complete a$$ out of herself. I just sat there all cool and collected and said 'Whatever. Don't be in my bridal party. I could give a crap less.' For her to cry so easily means that she either knows I am right or she is just being a baby. Everyone at the party felt bad for me and thought my Sister made an a$$ out of herself. So it's now Monday- my Mom hasn't called. And my Sister and I sent nasty emails since but I am down a RB and a MOH. And quite frankly, I could care less. I really don't want a nasty selfish person in my bridal party. She wants everything for herself and meanwhile I and my other Sister cannot stand her. Part of me feels relieved but the other part wishes that for once my Sis could understand how I feel for a change. But I don't think she ever will. So I guess I can't dwell.
Alrighty, thanks for listening ladies. I think this vent is over....
***UPDATE***
My sister just sent me an email. She basically apologized. I wrote back and said accepted and mentioned that I was never really mad at her- more so at our Mother. So, my Mom and Dad are going to a wedding this Saturday and my Mom is coming home this Friday. I will def be speaking to her about everything and hopefully everything will work out.
Thanks for listening as always. I love my LIW girls!![]()
Now is the vent part and I don't know if this is asking for advice or if I just need to let it out. Here goes: For a little background on my family situation here goes. My Sister got married 5 years ago and moved upstate. Since then, she had a baby over a year ago. Her husband works. She works. And they both need to work in order to pay for their extravegant lifestyle. So, at that point- she couldn't afford daycare (which I know is BS- they just choose to have a large house and other toys) So, my Mom decides to go upstate and take care of the baby. Now, her and my Father are married for 30 something years. They are not divorced but may as well be considering it is now a year later and my Mom is still living there.
Now here I am. Engaged and planning a wedding. My Mom seriously could give two sh*ts about the wedding. And it hurts my feelings. I have talked to my Sister multiple times. I have talk to my Mom multiple times. They don't care. My Sister thinks I am jealous. Which is not the case at all. I have all the things I want in the world and I live pretty nicely. I just feel abandoned. There is the difference. My WHOLE family agrees with me. Everyone thinks it's ridiculous that my Mom is living up there totally abandoning my Father. Forget me for a second. My Dad is 68 and has diabetes. I think he needs my Mom right now to enjoy life with. He is not getting any younger. But for now, he has me to keep him company because I still live at home. I am worried about when I get married. He will be alone. The fact that my Sister does not care, boggles my Mom. She says I am selfish. But in reality- she is being selfish. If she makes a few cutbacks, she can either stay at home or put the kid in daycare.
So fast forward to this past Saturday. It's my Neice's 14th birthday. We are all gathered in the kitchen. My Mom was there and talking about her life upstate. She was saying what she does there during the day. Then she mentioned that she cooks dinner. So of course I
Alrighty, thanks for listening ladies. I think this vent is over....
***UPDATE***
My sister just sent me an email. She basically apologized. I wrote back and said accepted and mentioned that I was never really mad at her- more so at our Mother. So, my Mom and Dad are going to a wedding this Saturday and my Mom is coming home this Friday. I will def be speaking to her about everything and hopefully everything will work out.
Thanks for listening as always. I love my LIW girls!
