Honest opinions wanted...

Original post by OctGroom

Aug 13, 2004 04:38 PM

Right now..

My Mom is sick and in the hospital.
My Dad has been by her side everyday for hours upon hours a day.. all the while trying to fit work in.. and other responsibilites.

My Dad planned a fishing trip 6 months ago.
He doesn't want to go on Sunday because of this.. but I told him he had to. He needs a break from this. It's a total strain.

Well.. my FW had her B-Day on August 5th. For her B-Day, we went to the vineyards out on LI with her friends. Next day, her Mom had a BBQ for her.

Her parents are divorced.

So her Dad and Step-Mom want to clelebrate her B-Day on Sunday. I said I would go for a brief time.. but then I wanted to see my Mom.

Mind you... I'm an only child.

She is flipping out on me saying.. how are you going to celebrate my B-Day on Sunday? If you are only going to stay for a hlf hour.. then going to the hospital.'

My attitude is.. This is my MOTHER.

Who would want to be left alone for a whole day in the hospital?

She suggested visiting her 11am to 1.

I said, NO WAY!

No matter what I am going to see her in the afternoon and stay until evening.

She says she needs me to be there.
Well.. My Mom has needs too!

Am I right.. or am I wrong?
Be honest.

OctGroom Posted: Aug 14, 2004 12:17 PM

Re: Honest opinions wanted...

Posted by FeliciaDA

Posted by OctGroom

I hate fighting in general.. but most especially with her. Don't be thinking at all that's she a bad person. She has her reasons for this.. as much as I disagree with them. (And I was not the kindest guy yesterday during our talk.)

There are so many wonderful things that she does. And we usually only fight when we get lost in the car. (I'm the one who always wants to stop & ask for directions.. haha)

We had some bad communication ast night and it got waay too wild for me.

Well.. hopefully there make-up nookie in OG's near future.. LOL

So glad to hear that you were able to work things out with your FW, OG ... I never thought she was a bad person whatsoever , I more or less thought she was just not seeing the big picture and was just being unreasonable.

It did sound like it was mainly a communicaiton problem and that hurt feelings and emotions got in the way.. Sometimes fights or heated discussions start taking a life of their own and then you lose sight of what the REAL issue was to begin with .. i think we are ALL guiltyof this sometimes

Have a good weekend and most importantly best wishes for your Mom's SPEEDY recovery

Thanks Felicia.

I appreciate your warm wishes for my mom.. and my FW.. well.. we let emotions run wild.

janwinterbridejoy Posted: Aug 14, 2004 01:13 PM

Re: Honest opinions wanted...

Posted by Jan05Bride

If I were your FW I'd be canceling the BBQ to spend the day with my FMIL so that my FFIL can finally have a much needed break.

A BBQ could always be rescheduled.

i totally agree