Posted by Jesses Girl
Posted by FutureMrs.T
I would be shocked, but would not make a big deal about it or tell anyone else in the family to embarass them. Like I said before, you never know when someone who may or may not have money is having financial hardship. I would not want the family to start gossiping about how little money they gave at the wedding, because it also would make me look ungrateful to my family. JMHO.
ok but my problem is...that they GAVE ME more at my eparty...which is a party that really..who cares if u get a gift. that was a party to just come and celebrate...no gift required
i didnt want to post that but thats the problem! even tho it wasnt much more..it was more. and that is my problem.
Posted by Teamhurldon
i gave 50 at my friends wedding last year, but i spent over a grand on dress, airfare, hotel, and rental car to be there, so i hope there werent any hard feelings.... people give what they can give. Im tired of reading these 'money' posts, its not about the money at all, i wish nobody gave gifts at my wedding so nobody would have to feel favored or not or deal with politics...
I think we should all agree to disagree. It is my opinion, that you should never really discuss the gifts or the amount of money you receive as a gift. That is personal between the person that gave you the gift and you. Still to this day, I dont know how much my sisters 'made' on their wedding day. It is just not something that is discussed. A gift is a gift no matter how you look at it. Be grateful, send a thank you and move on....dont hold grudges. Just my opinion...I know people probably hate me for it, but it is what it is, it is how I was raised.
Posted by Jesses Girl
you kno what.
fine..all of you who would be happy with not receiving a gift at all..no money at all...
would you ever go to a wedding empty handed or with 20$ from u and ur fh?
Posted by Mizzdimple
Posted by angl2001
Posted by ChristineAaron08
Posted by Jesses Girl
Posted by Mizzdimple
are you sure they have money.....you really never know sometimes...
my one cuzin is a park ranger...her husband is a teacher. they gave 20$
my other cousin sold her bar...works in the medical field and bartends when she has time.
the other adult that my cousin (bartender) paid for...works FULL TIME
I agree, if u know u are going to a wedding, you should be prepared to give a gift. ESPECIALLY since you gave these people $100 pp. Don't people write these things down. I will keep track of what I ppl give to me b/c I want to give an equal gift at least at their weddings.
It doesnt even seem like its a matter of not having $ with them. I think they are just clueless on etiquette.
YEAH!! Payback is a bItcHH
I disagree...
If my cousin comes to me (which has already happened) and says Im sorry but I really cant afford to come to your wedding, financially I cannot attend. Im definatley 100% hands down going to say ARE YOU NUTS< you better be there you are my family.
I dont expect money from people. And I think every bride will have a big wakeup call once they count their envelopes.
IMO
Posted by FutureMrs.T
I think we should all agree to disagree. It is my opinion, that you should never really discuss the gifts or the amount of money you receive as a gift. That is personal between the person that gave you the gift and you. Still to this day, I dont know how much my sisters 'made' on their wedding day. It is just not something that is discussed. A gift is a gift no matter how you look at it. Be grateful, send a thank you and move on....dont hold grudges. Just my opinion...I know people probably hate me for it, but it is what it is, it is how I was raised.
Posted by Jesses Girl
Posted by Mizzdimple
Posted by angl2001
Posted by ChristineAaron08
Posted by Jesses Girl
Posted by Mizzdimple
are you sure they have money.....you really never know sometimes...
my one cuzin is a park ranger...her husband is a teacher. they gave 20$
my other cousin sold her bar...works in the medical field and bartends when she has time.
the other adult that my cousin (bartender) paid for...works FULL TIME
I agree, if u know u are going to a wedding, you should be prepared to give a gift. ESPECIALLY since you gave these people $100 pp. Don't people write these things down. I will keep track of what I ppl give to me b/c I want to give an equal gift at least at their weddings.
It doesnt even seem like its a matter of not having $ with them. I think they are just clueless on etiquette.
YEAH!! Payback is a bItcHH
I disagree...
If my cousin comes to me (which has already happened) and says Im sorry but I really cant afford to come to your wedding, financially I cannot attend. Im definatley 100% hands down going to say ARE YOU NUTS< you better be there you are my family.
I dont expect money from people. And I think every bride will have a big wakeup call once they count their envelopes.
IMO
that is NEVER a problem. had they come to us FINE! we woul dhave been you are nuts just come...the fact is..they didnt..bc they dont have $$ problems ..and im tellin u...i kno they dont have money probs. not that i think i kno..i kno they kno.
but my aunt has done that and i told her dont be crazy...u better be there.
Posted by FutureMrs.T
I think we should all agree to disagree. It is my opinion, that you should never really discuss the gifts or the amount of money you receive as a gift. That is personal between the person that gave you the gift and you. Still to this day, I dont know how much my sisters 'made' on their wedding day. It is just not something that is discussed. A gift is a gift no matter how you look at it. Be grateful, send a thank you and move on....dont hold grudges. Just my opinion...I know people probably hate me for it, but it is what it is, it is how I was raised.
WOW i could never go to a wedding and do that...even for myself i wouldn't leave $50
Posted by ant n tilde
Posted by Jesses Girl
you kno what.
fine..all of you who would be happy with not receiving a gift at all..no money at all...
would you ever go to a wedding empty handed or with 20$ from u and ur fh?
diane you better bring money to my wedding that is all i am saying bc i am not as nice as everyone else on here![]()
Posted by Jesses Girl
Posted by ant n tilde
Posted by Jesses Girl
you kno what.
fine..all of you who would be happy with not receiving a gift at all..no money at all...
would you ever go to a wedding empty handed or with 20$ from u and ur fh?
diane you better bring money to my wedding that is all i am saying bc i am not as nice as everyone else on here![]()
haha im gonna get u the deviled egg dish!
Posted by Mizzdimple
Posted by angl2001
Posted by ChristineAaron08
Posted by Jesses Girl
Posted by Mizzdimple
are you sure they have money.....you really never know sometimes...
my one cuzin is a park ranger...her husband is a teacher. they gave 20$
my other cousin sold her bar...works in the medical field and bartends when she has time.
the other adult that my cousin (bartender) paid for...works FULL TIME
I agree, if u know u are going to a wedding, you should be prepared to give a gift. ESPECIALLY since you gave these people $100 pp. Don't people write these things down. I will keep track of what I ppl give to me b/c I want to give an equal gift at least at their weddings.
It doesnt even seem like its a matter of not having $ with them. I think they are just clueless on etiquette.
YEAH!! Payback is a bItcHH
I disagree...
If my cousin comes to me (which has already happened) and says Im sorry but I really cant afford to come to your wedding, financially I cannot attend. Im definatley 100% hands down going to say ARE YOU NUTS< you better be there you are my family.
I dont expect money from people. And I think every bride will have a big wakeup call once they count their envelopes.
IMO
Posted by ant n tilde
Posted by FutureMrs.T
I think we should all agree to disagree. It is my opinion, that you should never really discuss the gifts or the amount of money you receive as a gift. That is personal between the person that gave you the gift and you. Still to this day, I dont know how much my sisters 'made' on their wedding day. It is just not something that is discussed. A gift is a gift no matter how you look at it. Be grateful, send a thank you and move on....dont hold grudges. Just my opinion...I know people probably hate me for it, but it is what it is, it is how I was raised.
actually you make think this is horrible but its the opposite in my family - we have lists of what everyone gave for my sister's and brother's weddings and my parents consult that list before going to other weddings to see what people gave. . . so they will see what their friends gave and then give that amount when THEIR kids get married. . . half is just pure laziness bc they dont want to figure out what to give . . . but it is also about returning the generosity that was shown to their kids
Posted by ant n tilde
Posted by FutureMrs.T
I think we should all agree to disagree. It is my opinion, that you should never really discuss the gifts or the amount of money you receive as a gift. That is personal between the person that gave you the gift and you. Still to this day, I dont know how much my sisters 'made' on their wedding day. It is just not something that is discussed. A gift is a gift no matter how you look at it. Be grateful, send a thank you and move on....dont hold grudges. Just my opinion...I know people probably hate me for it, but it is what it is, it is how I was raised.
actually you make think this is horrible but its the opposite in my family - we have lists of what everyone gave for my sister's and brother's weddings and my parents consult that list before going to other weddings to see what people gave. . . so they will see what their friends gave and then give that amount when THEIR kids get married. . . half is just pure laziness bc they dont want to figure out what to give . . . but it is also about returning the generosity that was shown to their kids
Posted by ant n tilde
Posted by FutureMrs.T
I think we should all agree to disagree. It is my opinion, that you should never really discuss the gifts or the amount of money you receive as a gift. That is personal between the person that gave you the gift and you. Still to this day, I dont know how much my sisters 'made' on their wedding day. It is just not something that is discussed. A gift is a gift no matter how you look at it. Be grateful, send a thank you and move on....dont hold grudges. Just my opinion...I know people probably hate me for it, but it is what it is, it is how I was raised.
actually you make think this is horrible but its the opposite in my family - we have lists of what everyone gave for my sister's and brother's weddings and my parents consult that list before going to other weddings to see what people gave. . . so they will see what their friends gave and then give that amount when THEIR kids get married. . . half is just pure laziness bc they dont want to figure out what to give . . . but it is also about returning the generosity that was shown to their kids
Posted by AmandaLynn04
Posted by ant n tilde
Posted by FutureMrs.T
I think we should all agree to disagree. It is my opinion, that you should never really discuss the gifts or the amount of money you receive as a gift. That is personal between the person that gave you the gift and you. Still to this day, I dont know how much my sisters 'made' on their wedding day. It is just not something that is discussed. A gift is a gift no matter how you look at it. Be grateful, send a thank you and move on....dont hold grudges. Just my opinion...I know people probably hate me for it, but it is what it is, it is how I was raised.
actually you make think this is horrible but its the opposite in my family - we have lists of what everyone gave for my sister's and brother's weddings and my parents consult that list before going to other weddings to see what people gave. . . so they will see what their friends gave and then give that amount when THEIR kids get married. . . half is just pure laziness bc they dont want to figure out what to give . . . but it is also about returning the generosity that was shown to their kids
Tilde..... my family does the same thing. I'm the first family member to be getting married (immediate family), but, it happens for everything, grad. parties, my sweet 16...... etc. Maybe it's an Italian thing...![]()
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I think I am just going to leave this conversation before I say anthing that may be upsetting to everyone else. I guess I just have a much different opinion on this than most people. I was raised not to expect gifts from people but to appreciate them when I did receive them, whether it was $5 in a card or a new car! I never once complained about a gift that I received nor has a gift I received ever determined what I would buy someone in return. Life just should not work that way.....
