honestly.

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Posted by ChristineAaron08

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by Shell84

I don't know why people gets upset really.
You choose where to have your wedding and who to invite. You don't do it hoping to get your money back. Maybe it's just me, but I'll be more than happy if anyone decides to give me an envelope, but i am not waiting on it.

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when i read this, the thought that popped into my head wasn't OMG will someone do this to me, it was about me going to a wedding and giving a gift, personally i just couldn't go and give $50 for 4 ppl...yeah its not about money but if i went along with 3 members of my family and i know these ppl paid a couple of hundred dollars for all of us to attend i'd feel uncomfortable...Yes they decide where to have their wedding but i dont know any places that are $50 for 4 ppl.

For my own wedding i always tell Fh dont expect to make money back and im talking about reception only. I said everyones situations are different so dont even focus on the money at all

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You are right Denise, but i have to correct you on something. You can go somewhere for $50 for 4 people...THE DINER...lol (but only if you stick to burgers and chicken fingers)

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lol very true but i meant reception halls for weddings.

ALSO im gonna point out the fact that most ppl thought about themselves and what they'll receive right away shows its a thought, regardless if you said you expect or dont expect certain things.

The first thing i thought about was the fact that I couldnt do that

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Posted by Jesses Girl

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Posted by Fall Bride 2008

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Posted by FutureMrs.T

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Posted by Mizzdimple

are you sure they have money.....you really never know sometimes...

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I agree....people may act like they have money and really be in financial trouble or use a lot of credit cards, etc. You just shouldnt expect things from people.....you will only be let down! Go into your wedding wanting your guests to have a good time, not to bring you gifts and money.

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I agree 100% FH and I are paying for our wedding on our own and we dont care if we dont get a penny back...honest...Some people feel differently

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ok this is ridiculous.

you wouldnt care if you got 1 penny back?
im not tryin to be a bit ch but be realistic..
if u paid say 30grand or higher for a wedding and received nothing in return you would be fine with it?

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HONESTLY YES....totally how I feel about it

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Posted by Jesses Girl

you kno what.

fine..all of you who would be happy with not receiving a gift at all..no money at all...

would you ever go to a wedding empty handed or with 20$ from u and ur fh?

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Absolutely not but as you can see we are all different.

I know u meant reception halls, but yeah- you probably couldnt even rent a community center and have it catered for $20 pp. haha

I think Diane's relatives just dont know the etiquette.

I agree, I know I wont make all $ back on my wedding. But, I think most ppl would expect something back obviously.

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Posted by Mimacat

Who goes to ANY party w/$25 dollars, let alone a wedding??

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thats what im saying!!!! i give more than that to my 11 year old cousin on her birthday!

i guess some people are cheapos - i think that only giving $25 is very rude for a wedding - JMO

but i am sure i will get a few $25 gifts!! my family is CHEAP (and selfish)!!! but at least i already know it hahahaha

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Posted by love2plan1

You have to be kidding. No words

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me or them?

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Posted by AmandaLynn04

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Posted by Jesses Girl

how abotu this..i understand we disagree...some of us.

so we can just end it
i feel like im defending myself but i, too, am allowed to have an opinion...and i just was completely in shock and insulted for my brother..

i kno deep in my heart i still want them there..i just think that it was rude that they gave me more at an eparty...which was important but like..i didnt expect gifts


i just dont want u all to think thats what im about bc im not..TRUST ME! im not mean spirited or greedy or anything of the sort...

edit:
and i too was raised the same way. i wasnt raised any different than u.

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I, for one, do see both sides. Nobody is right or wrong......

Yes, you shouldn't expect ANYTHING from ANYONE..... BUT, when something like you described DOES happen, being surprised/upset/shocked is a normal reaction, IMO.

I'm glad this thread was able to not be DRAMA!! And you girls could express your different opinions w/out fighting!

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i just wanted to say i have to agree with you both.i dont think you were being rude or mean Diane. You do not seem that way at all. And yes although we dont have a wedding to get $$ and make up for what we spent (which i def know wont happen in my case lol) we do know about manners and etiquette.

but also i have family members from out of state and sometimes i think it is bullcrap to say they dont know etiquette of gift giving. but that might because i see it in my family. my grandma yelled at my uncle when he only gave $100 at a wedding once because she knew the plate was $150 a person and he gave $100 for him his wife and son haha But thats my grandma for you. but my uncle did feel bad saying he really didnt realize that plates cost that much and he felt embarresed and even mailed a card to his cousin after the wedding with more $

but anyway....just imagine a Romanian wedding (FH is 100% romanian and his parents came from there). at their weddings the DJ announces each gift given to the bride and groom and who it came from- i bet some people would be embarresed!!!!

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Posted by cbcf

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Posted by AmandaLynn04

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Posted by Jesses Girl

how abotu this..i understand we disagree...some of us.

so we can just end it
i feel like im defending myself but i, too, am allowed to have an opinion...and i just was completely in shock and insulted for my brother..

i kno deep in my heart i still want them there..i just think that it was rude that they gave me more at an eparty...which was important but like..i didnt expect gifts


i just dont want u all to think thats what im about bc im not..TRUST ME! im not mean spirited or greedy or anything of the sort...

edit:
and i too was raised the same way. i wasnt raised any different than u.

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I, for one, do see both sides. Nobody is right or wrong......

Yes, you shouldn't expect ANYTHING from ANYONE..... BUT, when something like you described DOES happen, being surprised/upset/shocked is a normal reaction, IMO.

I'm glad this thread was able to not be DRAMA!! And you girls could express your different opinions w/out fighting!

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i just wanted to say i have to agree with you both.i dont think you were being rude or mean Diane. You do not seem that way at all. And yes although we dont have a wedding to get $$ and make up for what we spent (which i def know wont happen in my case lol) we do know about manners and etiquette.

but also i have family members from out of state and sometimes i think it is bullcrap to say they dont know etiquette of gift giving. but that might because i see it in my family. my grandma yelled at my uncle when he only gave $100 at a wedding once because she knew the plate was $150 a person and he gave $100 for him his wife and son haha But thats my grandma for you. but my uncle did feel bad saying he really didnt realize that plates cost that much and he felt embarresed and even mailed a card to his cousin after the wedding with more $

but anyway....just imagine a Romanian wedding (FH is 100% romanian and his parents came from there). at their weddings the DJ announces each gift given to the bride and groom and who it came from- i bet some people would be embarresed!!!!

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they dont do that anymore, it was done a looong time ago...when i used to go to baptism parties as a kid they did that. I havent seen that done in years. Which i guess explains why romanian ppl always give ALOT, i mean for our e-party we got more than you would even expect at weddings, i was shocked

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by cbcf

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Posted by AmandaLynn04

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Posted by Jesses Girl

how abotu this..i understand we disagree...some of us.

so we can just end it
i feel like im defending myself but i, too, am allowed to have an opinion...and i just was completely in shock and insulted for my brother..

i kno deep in my heart i still want them there..i just think that it was rude that they gave me more at an eparty...which was important but like..i didnt expect gifts


i just dont want u all to think thats what im about bc im not..TRUST ME! im not mean spirited or greedy or anything of the sort...

edit:
and i too was raised the same way. i wasnt raised any different than u.

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I, for one, do see both sides. Nobody is right or wrong......

Yes, you shouldn't expect ANYTHING from ANYONE..... BUT, when something like you described DOES happen, being surprised/upset/shocked is a normal reaction, IMO.

I'm glad this thread was able to not be DRAMA!! And you girls could express your different opinions w/out fighting!

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i just wanted to say i have to agree with you both.i dont think you were being rude or mean Diane. You do not seem that way at all. And yes although we dont have a wedding to get $$ and make up for what we spent (which i def know wont happen in my case lol) we do know about manners and etiquette.

but also i have family members from out of state and sometimes i think it is bullcrap to say they dont know etiquette of gift giving. but that might because i see it in my family. my grandma yelled at my uncle when he only gave $100 at a wedding once because she knew the plate was $150 a person and he gave $100 for him his wife and son haha But thats my grandma for you. but my uncle did feel bad saying he really didnt realize that plates cost that much and he felt embarresed and even mailed a card to his cousin after the wedding with more $

but anyway....just imagine a Romanian wedding (FH is 100% romanian and his parents came from there). at their weddings the DJ announces each gift given to the bride and groom and who it came from- i bet some people would be embarresed!!!!

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they dont do that anymore, it was done a looong time ago...when i used to go to baptism parties as a kid they did that. I havent seen that done in years. Which i guess explains why romanian ppl always give ALOT, i mean for our e-party we got more than you would even expect at weddings, i was shocked

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oh yeah haha thanks Denise for correcting me I forgot FFIL said that they dont do that anymore haha but could you imagine!!

but i understand what you are saying at our eparty we def got alot more than i would ever expect at a wedding as well lol

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Posted by cbcf

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by cbcf

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Posted by AmandaLynn04

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Posted by Jesses Girl

how abotu this..i understand we disagree...some of us.

so we can just end it
i feel like im defending myself but i, too, am allowed to have an opinion...and i just was completely in shock and insulted for my brother..

i kno deep in my heart i still want them there..i just think that it was rude that they gave me more at an eparty...which was important but like..i didnt expect gifts


i just dont want u all to think thats what im about bc im not..TRUST ME! im not mean spirited or greedy or anything of the sort...

edit:
and i too was raised the same way. i wasnt raised any different than u.

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I, for one, do see both sides. Nobody is right or wrong......

Yes, you shouldn't expect ANYTHING from ANYONE..... BUT, when something like you described DOES happen, being surprised/upset/shocked is a normal reaction, IMO.

I'm glad this thread was able to not be DRAMA!! And you girls could express your different opinions w/out fighting!

---

i just wanted to say i have to agree with you both.i dont think you were being rude or mean Diane. You do not seem that way at all. And yes although we dont have a wedding to get $$ and make up for what we spent (which i def know wont happen in my case lol) we do know about manners and etiquette.

but also i have family members from out of state and sometimes i think it is bullcrap to say they dont know etiquette of gift giving. but that might because i see it in my family. my grandma yelled at my uncle when he only gave $100 at a wedding once because she knew the plate was $150 a person and he gave $100 for him his wife and son haha But thats my grandma for you. but my uncle did feel bad saying he really didnt realize that plates cost that much and he felt embarresed and even mailed a card to his cousin after the wedding with more $

but anyway....just imagine a Romanian wedding (FH is 100% romanian and his parents came from there). at their weddings the DJ announces each gift given to the bride and groom and who it came from- i bet some people would be embarresed!!!!

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they dont do that anymore, it was done a looong time ago...when i used to go to baptism parties as a kid they did that. I havent seen that done in years. Which i guess explains why romanian ppl always give ALOT, i mean for our e-party we got more than you would even expect at weddings, i was shocked

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oh yeah haha thanks Denise for correcting me I forgot FFIL said that they dont do that anymore haha but could you imagine!!

but i understand what you are saying at our eparty we def got alot more than i would ever expect at a wedding as well lol

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yeah i remember it, i was young but still, everyone hated it, not sure how it started but that is just uncalled for and tacky

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Posted by cbcf

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by cbcf

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Posted by AmandaLynn04

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Posted by Jesses Girl

how abotu this..i understand we disagree...some of us.

so we can just end it
i feel like im defending myself but i, too, am allowed to have an opinion...and i just was completely in shock and insulted for my brother..

i kno deep in my heart i still want them there..i just think that it was rude that they gave me more at an eparty...which was important but like..i didnt expect gifts


i just dont want u all to think thats what im about bc im not..TRUST ME! im not mean spirited or greedy or anything of the sort...

edit:
and i too was raised the same way. i wasnt raised any different than u.

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I, for one, do see both sides. Nobody is right or wrong......

Yes, you shouldn't expect ANYTHING from ANYONE..... BUT, when something like you described DOES happen, being surprised/upset/shocked is a normal reaction, IMO.

I'm glad this thread was able to not be DRAMA!! And you girls could express your different opinions w/out fighting!

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i just wanted to say i have to agree with you both.i dont think you were being rude or mean Diane. You do not seem that way at all. And yes although we dont have a wedding to get $$ and make up for what we spent (which i def know wont happen in my case lol) we do know about manners and etiquette.

but also i have family members from out of state and sometimes i think it is bullcrap to say they dont know etiquette of gift giving. but that might because i see it in my family. my grandma yelled at my uncle when he only gave $100 at a wedding once because she knew the plate was $150 a person and he gave $100 for him his wife and son haha But thats my grandma for you. but my uncle did feel bad saying he really didnt realize that plates cost that much and he felt embarresed and even mailed a card to his cousin after the wedding with more $

but anyway....just imagine a Romanian wedding (FH is 100% romanian and his parents came from there). at their weddings the DJ announces each gift given to the bride and groom and who it came from- i bet some people would be embarresed!!!!

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they dont do that anymore, it was done a looong time ago...when i used to go to baptism parties as a kid they did that. I havent seen that done in years. Which i guess explains why romanian ppl always give ALOT, i mean for our e-party we got more than you would even expect at weddings, i was shocked

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oh yeah haha thanks Denise for correcting me I forgot FFIL said that they dont do that anymore haha but could you imagine!!

but i understand what you are saying at our eparty we def got alot more than i would ever expect at a wedding as well lol

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lol it posted twice, ignore

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by cbcf

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by cbcf

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Posted by AmandaLynn04

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Posted by Jesses Girl

how abotu this..i understand we disagree...some of us.

so we can just end it
i feel like im defending myself but i, too, am allowed to have an opinion...and i just was completely in shock and insulted for my brother..

i kno deep in my heart i still want them there..i just think that it was rude that they gave me more at an eparty...which was important but like..i didnt expect gifts


i just dont want u all to think thats what im about bc im not..TRUST ME! im not mean spirited or greedy or anything of the sort...

edit:
and i too was raised the same way. i wasnt raised any different than u.

---

I, for one, do see both sides. Nobody is right or wrong......

Yes, you shouldn't expect ANYTHING from ANYONE..... BUT, when something like you described DOES happen, being surprised/upset/shocked is a normal reaction, IMO.

I'm glad this thread was able to not be DRAMA!! And you girls could express your different opinions w/out fighting!

---

i just wanted to say i have to agree with you both.i dont think you were being rude or mean Diane. You do not seem that way at all. And yes although we dont have a wedding to get $$ and make up for what we spent (which i def know wont happen in my case lol) we do know about manners and etiquette.

but also i have family members from out of state and sometimes i think it is bullcrap to say they dont know etiquette of gift giving. but that might because i see it in my family. my grandma yelled at my uncle when he only gave $100 at a wedding once because she knew the plate was $150 a person and he gave $100 for him his wife and son haha But thats my grandma for you. but my uncle did feel bad saying he really didnt realize that plates cost that much and he felt embarresed and even mailed a card to his cousin after the wedding with more $

but anyway....just imagine a Romanian wedding (FH is 100% romanian and his parents came from there). at their weddings the DJ announces each gift given to the bride and groom and who it came from- i bet some people would be embarresed!!!!

---

they dont do that anymore, it was done a looong time ago...when i used to go to baptism parties as a kid they did that. I havent seen that done in years. Which i guess explains why romanian ppl always give ALOT, i mean for our e-party we got more than you would even expect at weddings, i was shocked

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oh yeah haha thanks Denise for correcting me I forgot FFIL said that they dont do that anymore haha but could you imagine!!

but i understand what you are saying at our eparty we def got alot more than i would ever expect at a wedding as well lol

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yeah i remember it, i was young but still, everyone hated it, not sure how it started but that is just uncalled for and tacky

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are you part Romanian??

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Posted by marilyne23

I understand what everyone is saying. But I thought that the whole point of a wedding is because you love the other person you are marrying and you want to share that with the world. Dont get me wrong, weddings are super expensive, but I cant count on what Im going to get as a gift to help me pay back my debt. But everyone is different.

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yes it totally is...all about love and sharing it with the world.

they are not in any debt...they paid for the wedding in cash...every vendor. they werent planning on receiving to pay debt...

neither am..i plan on payin cash for it all as well.

I just thought it was a SHOCK what he received from them.

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Posted by cbcf

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by cbcf

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by cbcf

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Posted by AmandaLynn04

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Posted by Jesses Girl

how abotu this..i understand we disagree...some of us.

so we can just end it
i feel like im defending myself but i, too, am allowed to have an opinion...and i just was completely in shock and insulted for my brother..

i kno deep in my heart i still want them there..i just think that it was rude that they gave me more at an eparty...which was important but like..i didnt expect gifts


i just dont want u all to think thats what im about bc im not..TRUST ME! im not mean spirited or greedy or anything of the sort...

edit:
and i too was raised the same way. i wasnt raised any different than u.

---

I, for one, do see both sides. Nobody is right or wrong......

Yes, you shouldn't expect ANYTHING from ANYONE..... BUT, when something like you described DOES happen, being surprised/upset/shocked is a normal reaction, IMO.

I'm glad this thread was able to not be DRAMA!! And you girls could express your different opinions w/out fighting!

---

i just wanted to say i have to agree with you both.i dont think you were being rude or mean Diane. You do not seem that way at all. And yes although we dont have a wedding to get $$ and make up for what we spent (which i def know wont happen in my case lol) we do know about manners and etiquette.

but also i have family members from out of state and sometimes i think it is bullcrap to say they dont know etiquette of gift giving. but that might because i see it in my family. my grandma yelled at my uncle when he only gave $100 at a wedding once because she knew the plate was $150 a person and he gave $100 for him his wife and son haha But thats my grandma for you. but my uncle did feel bad saying he really didnt realize that plates cost that much and he felt embarresed and even mailed a card to his cousin after the wedding with more $

but anyway....just imagine a Romanian wedding (FH is 100% romanian and his parents came from there). at their weddings the DJ announces each gift given to the bride and groom and who it came from- i bet some people would be embarresed!!!!

---

they dont do that anymore, it was done a looong time ago...when i used to go to baptism parties as a kid they did that. I havent seen that done in years. Which i guess explains why romanian ppl always give ALOT, i mean for our e-party we got more than you would even expect at weddings, i was shocked

---

oh yeah haha thanks Denise for correcting me I forgot FFIL said that they dont do that anymore haha but could you imagine!!

but i understand what you are saying at our eparty we def got alot more than i would ever expect at a wedding as well lol

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yeah i remember it, i was young but still, everyone hated it, not sure how it started but that is just uncalled for and tacky

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are you part Romanian??

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FULL actually...well my grandfather on my dads side is macedonian but was raised in romania since he was a little boy