Hotel Question

I definitely didn't even think about hotels when booking my ceremony/reception location and now I am stuck with a predicament... either we can have people stay at a hotel by JFK which is a short ride (10mins) from the place or at hotels with better atmosphere farther east (20-30mins)... not sure which makes more sense? Any thoughts?

ETA: we will be providing a party bus to/from the hotel either way

Some people might prefer the shorter ride, while others might prefer the better atmosphere. Personally, I'd prefer the better atmosphere. See if you can block a few rooms in both and let your guests decide. If you have people flying in the airport hotel might be more convenient, but if that doesn't matter and you have to make a final decision, I say pick the 20-30 minute one.

Does either hotel offer shuttle service if you rent enough rooms? Some hotels offer this.

We booked a party bus to take ppl back and forth since our hotel is kind of far (25 min) and we don't want to worry about drunk driving.

You have a few options.