How bad do you wish you could strangle your mother sometimes...

How bad do you wish you could strangle your mother sometimes...

I love my mom but....I swear sometimes I sent her the picture of the dress Im buying for the wedding in Vegas(mind you only my mother and sister know about it)and she tells me it's not her taste she'd go with the other one, so I explain to her that I cant because it wont be delivered on time and Im not making a big fuss because it's for Vegas and it will be just me and FH so I just want to look nice. So she tells me she doesnt like it, she likes the other one better, soooooo again I explain to her I cant get the other one because of delivery date, so she tells me she doesnt like it so I tell her Im buying it anyway because I like and FH liked it sooooo she tells me fine get it but I think it looks very cheap Do you know I've looked at the dress a few times since and now Im having second thoughts but I already paid for it! then I tell her in a different phone call(mom lives in Fla.)that the venetian idea in Vegas is out because of but I looked into other things I liked. My mother tells me I should just scrap the whole silly Vegas thing and get married on a cruise Everything is paid for and a few months ago she thought it was a great idea. What is with this woman?

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Mothers are psyho when it comes to weddings! I think maybe it's because of control issues, cause my mom keeps having nightmares and waking up telling my dad that the dream was about 'her having NO control over anything at my wedding!'... Hello lady? Who's gettin' married here?! lol.. they are nuts!

As for your vegas wedding.. you are going to cherish this day forever! It's just you guys, and wherever you choose to have the ceremony will be great! There are SOOOOO many choices out there! I wanted to elope in Vegas, FH wouldn't. I thought it would be so much fun, and exciting! Don't second guess yourself, vegas or your dress! Just remember it's your day, your way! And put 'earmuffs' on when someone starts putting their two cents in!

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She's a Mom, that's her job.

Mom never fails to make me feel fat/stupid/cheap (whatever applies to the situation) when I'm feeling good about things.

You are a grown woman, you and FH have made great decisions, stick by 'em!

I personally love your Vegas idea! I've never been there, but I think I'd love to get married there. We're doing a small destination wedding too.

Best of luck to you, and I saw your dress choice. Love it!!!

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You guys are so I agree, mothers turn into psychos when something good is going for their child. They always have to ply devils advocate. Well I bought the dress, Im going to Vegas and Im kinda glad no one will be there to ruin it. However, I hope once I spend all the money on the big wedding in 2007 they dont bother trying to ruin that for me, my mom has already told me that it's a waste of money and all the things I want are very tacky but that's okay she says that's who you are

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that's a mother job to drive you crazy....but i know what you mean.

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Mothers will be mothers. If you and FI want to get married in Vegas then stick with that. It's your day! Mothers will never be happy anyway. Do what makes the both of you happy.

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I totally agree but boy do they know how to plant a seed in your head.

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Posted by Capulet72

I totally agree but boy do they know how to plant a seed in your head.

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Let them plant all the 'seeds' they want... it's our job to make sure those seeds don't grow into full blown 'Little Shop of Horror' plants! Thats a decent metaphor for my mother right now.. I think I'll find a pic online and put it on the fridge.. wonder if she'll get the hint!

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OMG, the resemblense to my mother in uncanny

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With the big wedding my mother started out as a nightmare until she saw we were serious but she still makes her cracks about how tacky I am because of the silly things I have to have and how that's okay though because that's just me(nice to call your kid tacky right). I dont think wanting a chocolate fountain is tacky, I dont think wanting those guys with the trumpets at church tacky and I dont think because I want a big poofy cinderella dress Im tacky!!!! Anyhow, the eloping to Vegas thing she was on board with until I showed her the dress and told her about the venetian(getting married on a gondola)It's vegas why not get married with somekind of theme!! Anyhow, now she downs it everytime I bring it up like Im boring her. I should've kept it a secret from her like we did with everyone else except she's taking the babies while we're in Vegas(no one else to leave them with). Well that's me story....

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Growing up my mom and I were never close, actually couldnt stand her but about 5 yrs. ago I gave her another chance and we have been able to get closer but I guess not as close as I wanted because now that my dad, who was my bestfriend passed away, I really wanted my mom to help and be involved. Now though I wish I didnt share any of my plans with her. FMIL was no better as far as the big wedding, she would just get up and walk out of the room without even acknowledging we were talking to her about it. Now I dont speak to her at all for other reasons but that's a whole other story...I know I live for the day my daughter is old enough to get married.

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Well I would think my mother would be alittle more understanding with things instead of constantly finding a way to put me down with stuff. My brother is getting married in June and hasnt included her in anything and his finance is a real b***h and hasnt made any effort to contact my mother in regards to anything even after I told her it hurt my mothers feelings that she wasnt included. So I would think when it comes to me she'd be a bit more patient to be involved in everything. I also love when she pulls how she's a better parent too and how I need to stop doing things I do so my kids will turn out better If she was such a great parent why werent we close up til 5yrs. ago and why is my brother whos getting married such a jerk and why is my other brother always in troubled and so spoiled(he's 11yr.), why is my sister always in trouble in school and with her job and her friends...she just had someone destroy her car for the 4th time for being a b***h.

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Strangle? No. Bit*h slap a few times? MAYBE. As I sit here trying to make a list of temples for us to visit, I am reminded of how it is very hard for mom to think outside the box. The last function she made was 15 years ago at a very wealthy synogogue. Times were different then, the family had more money and much more of a steady income.

It is EXTREMELY important to me to get married in a house of G-d and since Jewish people tend to have their ceremonies and receptions in the same place, this leaves us to choose from temples with ballrooms - on LI they are a dime a dozen. It seems to me as if north shore temples and south shore temples have very expensive catering - kosher food is often more expensive due to certain cuts of meat and the need for strict rabbinical supervision. Middle Island temples, I have found are more reasonable in price per person.

I am very willing to book a temple in the 'off season' namely WINTER to cut back on the price per plate and have it at a temple that will be less money to begin with per plate so I can have more people at my wedding. It can be a huge i mean HUGE difference in price. Mom wants to go with what she knows which means cutting the guest list down because she can't imagine doing a wedding at a temples she's never been to.

So here I am willing to make things easier financially on everyone, and she just wants to have it at a place that may have a little more popularity or 'shee-shee poo-poo'-ness to it. Talk about a role reversal. I need to be held.

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Posted by Goldi1021

Strangle? No. Bit*h slap a few times? MAYBE. As I sit here trying to make a list of temples for us to visit, I am reminded of how it is very hard for mom to think outside the box. The last function she made was 15 years ago at a very wealthy synogogue. Times were different then, the family had more money and much more of a steady income.

It is EXTREMELY important to me to get married in a house of G-d and since Jewish people tend to have their ceremonies and receptions in the same place, this leaves us to choose from temples with ballrooms - on LI they are a dime a dozen. It seems to me as if north shore temples and south shore temples have very expensive catering - kosher food is often more expensive due to certain cuts of meat and the need for strict rabbinical supervision. Middle Island temples, I have found are more reasonable in price per person.

I am very willing to book a temple in the 'off season' namely WINTER to cut back on the price per plate and have it at a temple that will be less money to begin with per plate so I can have more people at my wedding. It can be a huge i mean HUGE difference in price. Mom wants to go with what she knows which means cutting the guest list down because she can't imagine doing a wedding at a temples she's never been to.

So here I am willing to make things easier financially on everyone, and she just wants to have it at a place that may have a little more popularity or 'shee-shee poo-poo'-ness to it. Talk about a role reversal. I need to be held.

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I hear ya...When will they stop blaming us for the hours of labor they were in or the loss of a figure our pregnancy caused

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I hear ya...When will they stop blaming us for the hours of labor they were in or the loss of a figure our pregnancy caused

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I told my mother many times that if she didn't like what I had to say, then she should have kept her legs closed in the first place. I didn't ask to be born.