how do u handle...

grkbarbie Posted: Feb 26, 2009 11:07 AM

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coworkers ,friends ,etc asking u how much per plate? i think its so rude of them to ask.. but im the type of person that cant lie for shyt and im open anyway..but its reallly fkn bothering me. i mean i jUST booked last NIGHT at 10:30 PM and already 4 ppl asked me (not u ladies0 but coworkers and friends) liek ***?

what do i say? my answer was'im not sure because i didnt finalize the menu, i mite have extras' but that excuse is guna get old soon.

and i cant say 'well r u guna help me pay for the wedding?' cuz thats snobby lol

LaurenJosh Posted: Feb 26, 2009 11:08 AM

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I had the same problem! I am a bad liar too so I usually just wind up answering even though it is so rude.

JenBill61210 Posted: Feb 26, 2009 11:09 AM

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i agree that it is rude for them to ask that! i would just say something like 'don't worry about it, me and FH plan on taking care of it!'

AdriandSteve Posted: Feb 26, 2009 11:09 AM

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ugh.. i HATE HATE HATE when people do that and people have. Or they've gone around the actual question trying to get us to tell them.

i just tell them what the owner told me, 'i'm sorry but i'm not allowed to say.'

Yeah that'll make them think a million different #'s but who cares.

Mrs Z To Be Posted: Feb 26, 2009 11:11 AM

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Here's what I always say....

'enough'! LOL. Shuts people up EVERY TIME!! Try it!!

grrulz Posted: Feb 26, 2009 11:11 AM

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Barb welcome to wedding planning!! lol

christine2010 Posted: Feb 26, 2009 11:12 AM

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for me its an easy question to answer, my parents are paying for the RH so I am not sure. but some people i don't want them to know my business so i just tell them its not their business. all the people that i told that too have had no problem with the answer.

Lsorrent Posted: Feb 26, 2009 11:14 AM

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Posted by Mrs Z To Be

Here's what I always say....

'enough'! LOL. Shuts people up EVERY TIME!! Try it!!

That's exactly what I use!

Seriously though, it depends on the person. My close friends and/or family I don't mind telling. But co-workers and general acquaintances don't need to know.

Goldie39 Posted: Feb 26, 2009 11:16 AM

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Posted by Mrs Z To Be

Here's what I always say....

'enough'! LOL. Shuts people up EVERY TIME!! Try it!!

I do the same! it works for anything cost related!

grkbarbie Posted: Feb 26, 2009 11:20 AM

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thanks ladiess.. i truly sck at this llol

NYYankeeGirl72 Posted: Feb 26, 2009 11:22 AM

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If someone were to ask me I would tell them flat out that we paid good money for it. Coz we are!!

Rosalind_75 Posted: Feb 26, 2009 11:22 AM

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I didnt mind when my co-worker and boss asked me only because they are both getting married.

Do you think them asking will affect what you might get as a gift or envelope?

I know some people who bring the card and dont write the check until the middle of the reception.
Now thats just wrong!!!!!!!!

stinenandy2010 Posted: Feb 26, 2009 11:24 AM

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barb, you don't seem like the type of girl to hide your feelings....tell them to just add a few more zeros to the gift

Its2Snappy Posted: Feb 26, 2009 11:24 AM

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Unless it is a close friend or family member, and even then, I consider it rude. Just tell them 'Enough' like the other girls said.

grkbarbie Posted: Feb 26, 2009 11:25 AM

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lol im actually very shy .. i open my mouth when i need to.

Ray8183 Posted: Feb 26, 2009 11:29 AM

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I was very mean. I had said $400 and I am looking for donations. That will stop all questions. Plus they will think you are crazy.

KatieG2010 Posted: Feb 26, 2009 11:31 AM

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Tell them you are paying enough and dismiss them like that... It is no one's business but you and your FH or whoever else is contributing (parents etc). When I got engaged, co-workers asked me how many carats my e-ring was. I would never ask someone that and thought it was so rude. Some people have steel ones hanging under their skirts!!!

Ray8183 Posted: Feb 26, 2009 11:33 AM

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Posted by tHEBRide2010

Tell them you are paying enough and dismiss them like that... It is no one's business but you and your FH or whoever else is contributing (parents etc). When I got engaged, co-workers asked me how many carats my e-ring was. I would never ask someone that and thought it was so rude. Some people have steel ones hanging under their skirts!!!