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How do you tell one of your bridesmaids

BellaEyes Posted: Apr 13, 2006 09:14 AM+

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Posted: Apr 13, 2006 09:14 AM

How do you tell one of your bridesmaids

that you no longer want her to be your BM? What do you say? How would you word it without sounding too b*****?

SeptBride70 Posted: Apr 13, 2006 09:15 AM+

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Posted: Apr 13, 2006 09:15 AM

Re: How do you tell one of your bridesmaids

well whats the reason for not wanting her to be a bm anymore??

angnick Posted: Apr 13, 2006 09:23 AM+

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Posted: Apr 13, 2006 09:23 AM

Re: How do you tell one of your bridesmaids

I would probably suck it up and have her as a bm. Unless you dont mind probably never talking to her again..

ahall04 Posted: Apr 13, 2006 09:24 AM+

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Posted: Apr 13, 2006 09:24 AM

Re: How do you tell one of your bridesmaids

I'm going to see what suggestions you get... we may be in the same boat with one of our GM. Ugh.... not a fun decision to have to make!

BellaEyes Posted: Apr 13, 2006 09:37 AM+

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Posted: Apr 13, 2006 09:37 AM

Re: How do you tell one of your bridesmaids

I was not going to do this, I just read some posts that some girls had done this and I was just wondering how they told them?

CLMon7906 Posted: Apr 13, 2006 09:48 AM+

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Posted: Apr 13, 2006 09:48 AM

Re: How do you tell one of your bridesmaids

I simply told them (yes, plural) that I didn't feel as if our friendship was that strong anymore and that we had drifted apart. I hadn't heard from them in over 3 months and when I travelled 600 miles to see them, they were always too busy to grab lunch/dinner or just gab over dessert somewhere...I concluded that it was probably best that I not rely on them to be there for me on my wedding as they had failed to be there for me as a friend. After 3 months of NOT speaking to one another anyway, I was fine to lose them forever as friends.

nicothy Posted: Apr 13, 2006 10:16 AM+

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Posted: Apr 13, 2006 10:16 AM

Re: How do you tell one of your bridesmaids

i hear u on this one... i want to do this too, but i don't know what to say either

SIBride06 Posted: Apr 13, 2006 10:51 AM+

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Posted: Apr 13, 2006 10:51 AM

Re: How do you tell one of your bridesmaids

Posted by vixchik

I simply told them (yes, plural) that I didn't feel as if our friendship was that strong anymore and that we had drifted apart. I hadn't heard from them in over 3 months and when I travelled 600 miles to see them, they were always too busy to grab lunch/dinner or just gab over dessert somewhere...I concluded that it was probably best that I not rely on them to be there for me on my wedding as they had failed to be there for me as a friend. After 3 months of NOT speaking to one another anyway, I was fine to lose them forever as friends.

Same here!!!

EJSD2006 Posted: Apr 13, 2006 11:35 AM+

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Posted: Apr 13, 2006 11:35 AM

Re: How do you tell one of your bridesmaids

Posted by SIBride06

Posted by vixchik

I simply told them (yes, plural) that I didn't feel as if our friendship was that strong anymore and that we had drifted apart. I hadn't heard from them in over 3 months and when I travelled 600 miles to see them, they were always too busy to grab lunch/dinner or just gab over dessert somewhere...I concluded that it was probably best that I not rely on them to be there for me on my wedding as they had failed to be there for me as a friend. After 3 months of NOT speaking to one another anyway, I was fine to lose them forever as friends.

Same here!!!

ditto! but i also made it sound like i was trying to sympathize with her busy schedule and that i totally understood if she wanted to back out.