I had to go to a wake for a family member tonight and what does my mom do!?!? She freakin' announces to everyone that I'm engaged! Well, she didn't yell it out, but everybody we were saying hello to she felt the need to tell.
I just felt it was inappropriate. Unfortunately, wakes seem to be a time for a lot of distant relatives to 'catch up'.
Do any of you girls get embarrassed when people ask to see your e-ring??? It always makes me feel awkward.
07052002
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No, I felt awkward when they want to try it on!!!!!!!!!!!! I hate that
shepppy
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I hated when they wanted to hear about the proposal. I felt so on teh spot & it was so personal.
jennbaby
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i hate when people ask, 'wow, how much was that?' (my ring) 'Looks expensive' You dont ask this!!
taraalissa
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When I picked up my new e-ring setting from Elsa's, my mom was with me and she said- 'Isn't that a bit much?' Hmmmm mom.....Jealous much?
diamondgirly
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lol...yeah I also HATE when people ask to try my e-ring on! I work in a jewelry store and I've had customers (complete strangers!) ask to try it on. I'm like 'this one is not for sale.' Some people are very odd...
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the same thing happened to me lately...we were at a wake for my FH's distant uncle and his mom kept introducing me to everyone as her FDIL and telling them when the wedding was, etc... i guess she had to tell them who i was, but it felt so bizarre meeting everyone like that for the first time...
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I would never allow anyone to try on my e-ring and not one person has ever asked me. I could see a very young girl asking, but not an adult. I am never embarrased to show my e-ring- not sure why you would be unless it isn't the ring you really wanted maybe?
And I would have been very upset with my Mom if she told everyone at a wake. Not an appropriate time at all. Did you tell her that?
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I too don't like when people ask about the proposal story - mine stinks! LOL
Wakes can be very depressing and awkward, and your mom was probably just trying to lighten the mood a little - granted, it wasn't the best time but she probably felt awkward too and didn't know what else to talk about.
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I get embarrased as well.. moreso when right away it's like they grab my hand or ask to see the ring right away.. geeze....
My mom has been announcing it to everyone Jen, don't worry, although it may have seemed inappropriate, I'm sure she meant well.. ;) her baby is getting married.. at least you don't have a pic of you and you fh on your mom's fridge like my mother does! lol
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I don't think announcing your engagement at the wake was appropriate, but I can kind of understand where your mom was coming from.
My family is scattered about the country, some outside of the US. It's very rare to have the whole crew in one place at the same time. Sadly, wakes and funerals are often the times that everyone is together. The up-side is that weddings and births are the other times. Lots of family news is passed around at these occasions, both happy and sad.
Like someone else said, she may have also just been trying to fill an awkward moment...
No, I'm not embarrassed when asked to show someone my e-ring! Why would you be??? My setting is kind of unusual, and I'm asked about it often. I'm proud of the love b/w my FH and I that it symbolizes
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I think having to hold your hand out and having people examine your ring is more awkward than embarrassing. I was introduced to a couple of people the other night and one of them was turning my hand side to side to look at my ring from every angle, asked how many carats my ring is and was actually guessing. How rude!! And I didn't even know this person!
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No one has asked me how many carats my e-ring is! That's pretty ballsy!
Like Marcella said, I have people who say nothing and just grab my hand to look at the ring. I believe a 'congratulations' should be first in thought. Then there's the comments about my 'upkeep'.
Don't misunderstand me, I LOVE my ring and wouldn't trade it for the world, but I guess I just always feel awkward about the whole thing.
Well, I gotta hit a funeral...so I'm sure to be back with some more complaining about family members & awkward moments!
See ya' in a few girls!
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Oh gosh, I'm sorry to have not have given you my condolensces... I sowwy momma!!
and I feel the same way as you..Would you believe that I had some girl. whom I don't even SPEAK to, telling people what my ring looked like??!? lol
and stupid comments as far as how much it cost and what not.. I even had some girl bring me to her bf so he could see the ring where she proceeded to tell him to remmeber it in his head for when he goes to look for one for her.. WTF?
All in all, I think people lose hindsight of the reality of it all.. I appreciate being told Congratulations above all else.. and regardless of the ring, the fact is that I'm marrying the man that I love and NO ring, big or small, could change how I feel about that.....
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Well, I've never had anyone ask me to try my e-ring on, but my mom does like to tell everyone in existence about it.
Sometimes it's fun. I'm proud to be engaged and I love my ring and I have no problem showing it off!
