The questions is not exactly correct. Let's see how I can phrase this....
During the course of a day, most of us interact with people of the opposite sex... we converse with them, joke, and maybe even what SOME might consider flirting. I can see this needs to be a two-part question.
What do you consider 'harmless' flirting (if at all)? And how much harmless flirting do you do that you DO tell FH about and how much DON'T you tell FH about? Is he bothered by any of it? Are you bothered by his harmless flirts??
If, for example, you spend the better part of 5 minutes interacting with a male co-worker jokingly teasing him about why he 'flirts' with YOU -- would you consider that flirting? Would you tell FH about a silly little episode like that? How would he react? What if you had told FH in the past that you thought this male co-worker was attractive, not your type, but attractive nonetheless?
I know, I know... the questions just got more specific. Where's that sheepish emoticon when you need it!
nov2004bride
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I know my FI flirts all the time. That is his personality so of course I know about it. We don't tell each other about our episodes during the day. I think I definelty flirt more when I am not with him. I get my way a lot easier by flirting. It comes so easy to me.
chichila15
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Posted by fashionhag
Posted by chichila15 Dunno why you're 'goshing'... u need to settle down.
right. next time don't take things so personally.
I was clarifying your point. The fact that you responded to me makes it personal.
dita531
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I'm a bit of a weirdo like that. If I find a guy to be attractive I avoid him like the plague. Flirting? Forget about it. I would be paranoid that I would be leading them on or something like that and it would turn into some sort of scandal. I don't know if he does, it wouldn't bother me if he did as long as he didn't in front of me. I think its a normal part of daily interaction. Just not for me because I'm a paranoid freak. I did have a single straight male 'friend' a while back who professed his love for me even though he knew I was with FH. It started out innocent enough- IMs and business lunches. I was horrified. He said he was just kidding. BS. So I never spoke to him again.
Butterflybride
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FH knows I'm a very flirty person. Does he like it? No, but he's learned how to deal with it. I tell him all about my interactions with other men though. He knows that my flirting is harmless and trusts me. Of course, if somebody flirted back and they got out of line, FH would go ballistic!
