The questions is not exactly correct. Let's see how I can phrase this....
During the course of a day, most of us interact with people of the opposite sex... we converse with them, joke, and maybe even what SOME might consider flirting. I can see this needs to be a two-part question.
What do you consider 'harmless' flirting (if at all)? And how much harmless flirting do you do that you DO tell FH about and how much DON'T you tell FH about? Is he bothered by any of it? Are you bothered by his harmless flirts??
If, for example, you spend the better part of 5 minutes interacting with a male co-worker jokingly teasing him about why he 'flirts' with YOU -- would you consider that flirting? Would you tell FH about a silly little episode like that? How would he react? What if you had told FH in the past that you thought this male co-worker was attractive, not your type, but attractive nonetheless?
I know, I know... the questions just got more specific. Where's that sheepish emoticon when you need it!
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Well...i guess i don't tell him anything..I don't consider my personality and they way i interact with male co-workers as flirting per say...I joke around, a bunch (males & females go to lunch sometimes)...but IMO that is totally harmless.. the way i act without him is the same as when he is there..and he is not the jealous type
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Posted by oct.2004bride
Well...i guess i don't tell him anything..I don't consider my personality and they way i interact with male co-workers as flirting per say...I joke around, a bunch (males & females go to lunch sometimes)...but IMO that is totally harmless.. the way i act without him is the same as when he is there..and he is not the jealous type
Same here. I act the same way when he is there and he knows the way I am
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Same here I have to say. He knows how I am and that it is harmless if anything at all. My FH is a truck driver and he tells me what they talk about sometimes at work, like what girls they saw in certain drop off points etc., but I know he'd never take it any further than that. I'm sure he wouldn't be thrilled with some of my lunch conversations! Boys will be boys, and girls will be girls!
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hrmm
A) I never flirt with coworkers B) I do flirt with guys here and there but I consider it using my lady like charms to get what I want.
Yep, Jim knows.. heck we have a good giggle over it. He's my only main squeeze. Now if I EVER felt the urge to squeeze another man's butt the way I only do with Jim, well then that's just ain't right! That's dangerously flirting. Butt squeezing is off-limits!
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I am the same whether he is around or not, so if any of my interactions bothered him, I'm sure he would have said something.
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Bumping for more
CaCRmr
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We had the conversation once where I asked him if there was anyone in his office that he would flirt with or possibly like and he said no. ME on the other hand had a different story. We have a good laugh about it. He probably doesn't care that I flirt. It would bother me more if he flirted as opposed to me flirting.
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I am who I am..husband knows I flirt, he flirts too. Very innocent. He's my MAN!
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I flirt all the time. Its just part of my personality. I even do it in front of FH.
He brought it up to me early in our relationship- I was out with a newly single friend and she was talking to this guy and I was flirting with his friend (not purposely). After a little while I ran over to FH and sat on his lap and kissed him. FH loved it! He knows nothign will happen and its just part of my personality.
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I act the same whether he's there or not. I'm really not the flirting type just because that's the way I am. I never was a flirty kind of girl.
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FI knows I am a natural flirt. I love attention and thats just me. I dont flirt at work because they are all old-ish married men and thats no fun for me. I get all the attention here anyway without flirting because I am the only girl and I am ALWAYS talking.
And at a bar or wherever, I am a flirt with people I am comfortable with or the bartender (if a free drink is possible). Just last weekend FI called me a bar whore (in a joking way). The thing that is so great is that he knows he is the only one for me so thats that.
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Very interesting post...harmless flirting is just that (or should be)...harmless. i don't mention light flirting to FH, because by mentioning that would mean it meant something more than it does. I'm sure FH flirts a little here and there, and honestly i'd rather not even know about it. I trust him and he trusts me. I think people would be lying if they said they NEVER flirt with anyone.
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I'm friendly to begin with... so the majority of the time, I don't think that it's flirting. FH completely knows how I am, and I don't change when I'm not around him.
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In addition, I would have to say that all types of flirting is harmless... AS LONG AS certain rules aren't broken passed. If the flirting leads to dirty dancing, or exchanging #s, or makeout sessions... then it can be harmless if one's not single.
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I have definitely been in that situation and I tell him NOTHING! He would act fine but then get in a bad mood. I do think flirting is natural, it just changes when you start giving lots of compliments or have ANY physical contact. Thats just my opinion
Karacg
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What? Me, flirt??
Only in Vegas baby....only in Vegas.
chichila15
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What? Me, flirt??
Only in Vegas baby....only in Vegas.
And what happens in Vegas, STAYS in Vegas.
Karacg
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Oh no.....I told FI aaaaaalllllllllll about it...!!
JimmysBride
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So would you all prefer to HEAR or NOT to hear about FH's harmless daily flirts???
Like if he came home and was like 'Oh, so-and-so was flirting with me today and she said yada yada yada....'
Or would you rather he kept that stuff to himself?
