I got engaged in 3 mnths and my brother recently just got engaged in Oct. Because we were unsure of what we were going to do but knew we wanted atleast a one year engagement to save money for a nice wedding, we told them we had thoughts of Aug-Sept-Oct of next year. They found a reception hall already and booked it for the end Sept. Now we are looking into perhaps Aug 30th? IS this too soon to have our wedding? I dont want to 'take the spotlight' from them so to speak? Nor do I want the spotlight taken away from me. THANKS!!!
Kel
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When we got engaged, we didn`t know when the date was going to be. My husband had just finished grad school, and we needed to save money. Not too long after us, my husband`s brother and his girlfriend got engaged. Anyway, turned out we ended up with June (theirs) and September (ours) weddings.
Okay, so we had a little more time between than what you might have, but I honestly don`t think the spotlight was taken away from either of us on our day. The funny thing was how many family members from my husband`s side hadn`t seen eachother in so long, but yet here they were, being brought together twice in three months! Basically, it worked out pretty cool for us, because his brother and wife were, in a sense, the guinea pigs since their wedding was first.
We also know a brother and sister whose weddings were within months of each other. From what I know, everything worked out just fine for them too.
It really shouldn`t be a problem, and it might actually make planning more fun going through the process with someone close to you. But know that your own individuality, tastes, and personalities will come through in the choices you make for all your details, making your day truly yours.
Just a couple of things to consider ..
Do you have a lot of out-of-town guests, especially those who might have to fly? Putting the weddings too close together might make it rough for some to make the trip twice in a short period of time.
Is anyone planning to help out with money? If so, again, this could be a potential problem having two weddings in the same family very close together.
Check out your guest list, determine how much of a hardship it might be for them and your family, and judge from there on just how much time to allow between for comfort.
Otherwise, you could always just take the other approach and simply pick a day and let everyone else worry about making their arrangements.
A friend of mine got married 6 weeks before her sister...they had no problems with it. Two of my cousins (they were cousins too - not sisters) got married 3 weeks apart!! The family had a great time.
My sister is not engaged yet and her bf is stalling b/c he says he doesn't want to take the spotlight away from us...Im not worried about it at all...I want them to get married!
As Kel says, its nice to get together with family
Niecey
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After much debate (toolong to share), my brother and I will be getting married two months apart next year! My friend and her sister just did the same this year!
The are two separate and wonderful occasions! Just remember to treat them that way.
Use it to your advantage...you can share/bargain with vendors, shop for dresses together and compare notes!
You will have you ups and downs. My biggest word of advice is...Don't try to compete with each other. They will both be beautiful. They should complement you and your husband to be's personality. I think competition and jealousy are the only things that can damper the events!
michele31
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What happened with my family
My brother and his girlfriend have a baby together but are not engaged. I spoke with my brother and told him that if he wanted to get married in 2002 that I would like to know because I did not want to get married in the same year. He did not have any plans or desiress to get married in the near future. My parents did tell me that it would have been financially difficult for us to both get married in the same year. And the truth is I don't know how my finance and I could afford for my brother's to get married at the same time as us. Between the showers, engagment gifts, bridal party clothes and wedding gift it would have been hard for all concerned.
I don't think it takes the spotlight away from anyone but you should consider the financial aspects too.
This is just my opinion though. I am not saying you shouldn't do it. I just wanted to give you another way to look at the situation.
melissa27
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here's my situation
I am slightly perturbed, and maybe I shouldn't be, but I am! Mike and I got engaged in August 2000 and are getting married in August 2002 (long engagement!). Anyway, we just found out that his cousin got engaged over Thanksgiving and has set her wedding date for 5 DAYS AFTER OUR WEDDING!!! Auuuggghhhhh! That bothers me to no end, but I guess there is nothing I can do. Am I right to be a little pissed? She has known our wedding date for over a year.
michele31
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Melissa
Do you have a lot of family that needs to travel to both weddings? If so then it could be a problem. I think that his cousin should have made their date at least a month after yours, especially since now you will miss their wedding. Most honeymoons are longer than 4 days.
But in all reality they probably never thought about your wedding before setting their date.
May2002Bride
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How long is okay between family weddings?
I would definately be upset too! I know that I got engaged before my brother and didnt have a date set, but I would NEVER have my wedding in the month of September close to their date! I can understand that they may have had limited dates to select from (whatever was left available) but in my opinion -- they should have picked a different season
