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yarmulkes should I order???
Non-Jewish brides please read this also bc I need options..

I am inviting 123 male guests of which 50 are not jewish.

Non jewish brides; if you were to attend a jewish wedding would you have your FH wear a yarmulke just bc its a jewish wedding??

This is why I am stumped...i dont think it is necessary for non jewish guests to wear yarmulkes but have heard that some do. I dont want to order too few and have guests not be able to wear one (esp if they are jewish) but I also dont want too many extras.

How many do you suggest ordering??

Good question...

My FH is bald so he can't even wear one. If it's mandatory to be worn I guess he would otherwise...No he would not wear one.

Back to your question...In your case I would order 150.

i wouldnt expect men who arent Jewish to wear one.
I only plan on ordering enought for male jewish guests!
hth!

I disagree, sorry Randi :(

Both FH and I are Jewish and we are having a Rabbi conduct the ceremony. I expect EVERY man, Jewish or not, to be wearing a yamakah while the ceremony is going on. It's 35 freakin minutes and you can have some respect for the bride, groom, and the ceremony taking place before you!

We're inviting about 180...but we're expecting/hoping for no more than 135-140, so we're ordering between 70 and 75 just to play it safe.

ETA: This is not the thing to be frugal with. Yamakas are like less than $2 each, so you'll only have yourself to blame if you order too few. If you have extras, you can always donate them to a local synagogue.

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Posted by pjc92980

yarmulkes should I order???
Non-Jewish brides please read this also bc I need options..

I am inviting 123 male guests of which 50 are not jewish.

Non jewish brides; if you were to attend a jewish wedding would you have your FH wear a yarmulke just bc its a jewish wedding??

This is why I am stumped...i dont think it is necessary for non jewish guests to wear yarmulkes but have heard that some do. I dont want to order too few and have guests not be able to wear one (esp if they are jewish) but I also dont want too many extras.

How many do you suggest ordering??

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FH and I are not jewish - i wouldn't have him wear a yarmulke unless we were in a temple where it is a sign of respect. if the ceremony was at the RH, i wouldn't make him wear it.

HTH

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Posted by Yankeeelove

No, I wouldnt have fh wear one unless it was mandatory.

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Same here.

this is why i am torn! I did not expect men to wear them unless they are jewish and it seems to be a split on what people would do.
I guess to be safe I will order 100

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Posted by legalchef

I would expect that most men would wear one, jewish or not, whether or not the ceremony is in a synagogue. it's a sign of respect.

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THANK YOU! finally, someone that gets it! Im Jewish, but you better believe that if I was attending a wedding of an alternate faith, I would obide by the customs and traditions of that culture and religion. As would FH. It absolutely 100% is a sign of respect! Its not like anyone is asking you to memorize the Torah, it's a yamakah for 35 mins of your life! It won't kill you. I, for one, would be insulted if any male guests refused to wear them.

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Posted by Soon2bMrsB91511

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Posted by legalchef

I would expect that most men would wear one, jewish or not, whether or not the ceremony is in a synagogue. it's a sign of respect.

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THANK YOU! finally, someone that gets it! Im Jewish, but you better believe that if I was attending a wedding of an alternate faith, I would obide by the customs and traditions of that culture and religion. As would FH. It absolutely 100% is a sign of respect! Its not like anyone is asking you to memorize the Torah, it's a yamakah for 35 mins of your life! It won't kill you. I, for one, would be insulted if any male guests refused to wear them.

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i totally agree. Whether you're jewish or not, it' a sign of respect and you should absolutely wear one.

I'm in a strange situation because we're having an interfaith wedding but it's at my church. Obviously my FH will be wearing a yarmulke and all of the GM (Jewish and not Jewish) will be wearing yarmulkes.

Some people were saying that actually since it's at a church some o the jewish people would NOT want to wear a yarmulke and that actually more of the non-jews would probably wear them. HOWEVER I think everyone takes them because you know you always have that bin of yarmulkes from everyone's wedding and bar mitzvah and some people will want extras.

I don't think every man will wear a yarmulke..But I do fully expect that my family will see them when they come into the church and decide to wear one out of respect since it is also a Jewish ceremony. I do think a lot of my family will do that.

Our wedding will be 180-200 guests. Half will be men, so let's say 100 men. Not everyone (grrr) will come to the ceremony, and based on it being in the church, the catholic side of the family is more likely to come than the jewish side, so we are ordering 72 yarmulkes and we think that will be more than enough.

If both sides are jewish, you might want to err on the side of ordering one for fully half of the guest list, but I still don't think it's necessary since not everyone comes to the ceremony and not everyone will take one.

As a Jewish bride, I understand your concern. Although it is customary to wear kippot, it is dependent on how religious you are. I have been raised quite religious, however, it is not mandatory to wear kippot at a RH. If you were having it at a temple, then yes... You would need enough for every male as it is respectful and mandatory to cover one's head. I assume you won't be providing a covering for married women.... Anyway, it is doubtful that those who are not jewish will wear a kippot at your RH


I'm not saying I agree or disagree with this - I'm just saying what I feel to be honest.

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Posted by Soon2bMrsB91511

I disagree, sorry Randi :(

Both FH and I are Jewish and we are having a Rabbi conduct the ceremony. I expect EVERY man, Jewish or not, to be wearing a yamakah while the ceremony is going on. It's 35 freakin minutes and you can have some respect for the bride, groom, and the ceremony taking place before you!

We're inviting about 180...but we're expecting/hoping for no more than 135-140, so we're ordering between 70 and 75 just to play it safe.

ETA: This is not the thing to be frugal with. Yamakas are like less than $2 each, so you'll only have yourself to blame if you order too few. If you have extras, you can always donate them to a local synagogue.

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this exactly! I except non-jews to wear it---- although most of the non-jews that will be at my wedding are used to jewish ceremonies and know it is respectful to do. that being said i would always order extra bc we keep old ones in the house for the holidays, etc and it is so nice to look inside and see which wedding it came from so i want at least 20 or so to take home with me :)

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Posted by smilie

Honestly and maybe this is a shame on me sorta moment- but I would think since we are not Jewish we had no right to wear a yamaka, just like I wouldn't expect everyone to take communion. I would never want to offend anyone after reading this i would advise FH to wear one..

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i dont think this is a 'shame on you moment' - i wrote in my initial post that I wouldnt expect non-jews to wear one...and I am jewish! I guess maybe because I am not very religious and am having a reform ceremony I didnt expect people to wear it. But I will say after reading this I do see why people would wear them.

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Posted by smilie

Honestly and maybe this is a shame on me sorta moment- but I would think since we are not Jewish we had no right to wear a yamaka, just like I wouldn't expect everyone to take communion. I would never want to offend anyone after reading this i would advise FH to wear one..

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You just didn't know. That's true. Some people might think you can only wear one if you are jewish. i think I might have someone hand them out at the door.

Not a 'shame on you moment', you just didn't know...

The yamakas are generally placed in a basket with a little note that says something to the effect of 'kindly take one to be worn throughout the duration of the ceremony' or something like that.

Most people, IMO, grasp the concept that the yamakas aren't just sitting there for aesthetics and know to take one and wear it during the ceremony.

My FH and I are not Jewish..
I am not sure of Jewish traditions HOWEVER If We go to a Jewish Ceremony and We see this is a MUST for everyone, then I think he will do it...

BUT, i am not sure exactly the meaning of this So i am a little confuse.