How much should you send if you can't go to the wedding and you don't know the person?
Dani00518
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How much should you send if you can't go to the wedding and you don't know the person?
Ok here's the situation.....a woman I work with has invited me to her son's wedding in Indianappolis.....obviously we are not flying there to attend the wedding but I feel like I still need to send a gift. How much is appropriate to send. Oh and bye the way I've only met the son once...when I was invited to their engagement party. Thanks
ChristineC68
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I would send them something small off their registry.
CS020604
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I agree with Christine. I would check out their registry and pick out a 'token' gift. Since you're not going to the wedding and you don't really know the couple too well, I think this is more than enough and will be appreciated! :)
DebMaher
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Small, off registry, is exactly what I would do. Another great option that is one of my secret safety gifts is a silver frame engraved with the new couple's name off of Pottery Barn (their second plug from me today on LIW-wow) -- only around $40 and really elegant and EVERYONE loves.
Summer05
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Posted by ChristineC68
I would send them something small off their registry.
I agree.
Jenn524
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I also agree.
soon2bmrs2004
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Posted by Summer05
Posted by ChristineC68
I would send them something small off their registry.
I agree.
Ditto!
Dani00518
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Now does it matter that the mom came to my wedding and gave $100? Do I have to send $100 too?
MegLehner
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I think a registry gift is a good idea too. Ive been living in Indy for 2 years and here people dont give $ for wedding gifts as often as on LI/NY
DebMaher
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I don't think so, you know the mom. BUT, we always give way too much so I would listen to someone else :)
janwinterbridejoy
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i would spend what she gave you because you work with her and you dont need any one getting offended lol.
Jenn524
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Now does it matter that the mom came to my wedding and gave $100? Do I have to send $100 too?
IMO, no. The mom came to your wedding, so she would try to cover her plate in a gift. You're not going to the wedding. They are not putting out any expense for you. I would not match what the mother gave.
luckybride2004
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So far, from the no's we have gotten anywhere between $25 (from FH's great aunt - we didn't expect ANYTHING so this was very thoughtful) to $150. We might not be inthe norm, but we are really not expecting gifts from our no's. I think something from the registry will be generous and appreciated. I wouldn't do anything engraved unless you know the couple. The bride might not be changing her name and could get offended if you do 'Mr & Mrs'.
