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How to imply 'adults only' on invitation
annem13
Posted: Jan 09, 2014 09:14 PM+
Posted: Jan 09, 2014 09:14 PM
How to imply 'adults only' on invitation
I've seen some invitations that keep it simple and straightforward and put 'adults only' at the bottom of the RSVP card. I would prefer not to have children at the wedding except for the 2 that are going to be in the bridal party. Although you would think the address etiquette would be helpful, I just want to make sure people are clear about that lol
Soon2BeMrsMango
Posted: Jan 09, 2014 09:31 PM+
Posted: Jan 09, 2014 09:31 PM
How to imply
some people put adult reception to follow.
Lguido
Posted: Jan 09, 2014 09:49 PM+
Posted: Jan 09, 2014 09:49 PM
How to imply
On my reception card we put at the bottom, this is an adults only reception.
ASemderWedding
Posted: Jan 09, 2014 09:58 PM+
Posted: Jan 09, 2014 09:58 PM
How to imply
We're doing 'Adult Reception immediately following...'. We also have a whole section about kids on our website, which will be put on our STD (going out later this month!).
emmac
Posted: Jan 09, 2014 10:03 PM+
Posted: Jan 09, 2014 10:03 PM
How to imply
If the envelope is addressed mr & mrs smith and not the smith family you can't bring your kids, is that not common knowledge to people anymore?
cconaty94
Posted: Jan 09, 2014 10:13 PM+
Posted: Jan 09, 2014 10:13 PM
Re: How to imply 'adults only' on invitation
Posted by emmac
If the envelope is addressed mr & mrs smith and not the smith family you can't bring your kids, is that not common knowledge to people anymore?
I was banking on this being common knowledge... nooo kids!!
In addition to the lack of the word 'family', if you are inviting the children, on the inner envelope you usually write out all individual names. So they really should get the point if it just says the 2 parents
coffeeisgreen
Posted: Jan 09, 2014 10:41 PM+
Posted: Jan 09, 2014 10:41 PM
Re: How to imply 'adults only' on invitation
You could always draw a baby face with an X across it... That should get the message across!
coffeeisgreen
Posted: Jan 09, 2014 10:42 PM+
Posted: Jan 09, 2014 10:42 PM
Re: How to imply 'adults only' on invitation
Posted by emmac
If the envelope is addressed mr & mrs smith and not the smith family you can't bring your kids, is that not common knowledge to people anymore?
Oh I hope so because we addresses the save the dates that way to get the message across!
MsErikaLynn
Posted: Jan 09, 2014 11:19 PM+
Posted: Jan 09, 2014 11:19 PM
Re: How to imply 'adults only' on invitation
Posted by emmac
If the envelope is addressed mr & mrs smith and not the smith family you can't bring your kids, is that not common knowledge to people anymore?
no it's not apparently! I've heard horror stories of people insisting on bringing their children no matter what is written on the invites. I am making my invites say 'Adult Reception to Follow' and I will be making the RSVP card very 'child-proof' by putting exactly how many seats are reserved per invite. hoping this will do the trick along with word of mouth from family and friends.
annem13
Posted: Jan 10, 2014 12:09 AM+
Posted: Jan 10, 2014 12:09 AM
Re: How to imply 'adults only' on invitation
Posted by MsErikaLynn
Posted by emmac
If the envelope is addressed mr & mrs smith and not the smith family you can't bring your kids, is that not common knowledge to people anymore?
no it's not apparently! I've heard horror stories of people insisting on bringing their children no matter what is written on the invites. I am making my invites say 'Adult Reception to Follow' and I will be making the RSVP card very 'child-proof' by putting exactly how many seats are reserved per invite. hoping this will do the trick along with word of mouth from family and friends.
That's what I'm worried about! There's so many people that don't pay attention to how the invitation is addressed that they still think that they can bring whoever. What is the layout for your RSVP card? I definitely like the idea of writing out how many seats are reserved per invite because this can apply to those that do NOT get a plus one as well!
annem13
Posted: Jan 10, 2014 12:10 AM+
Posted: Jan 10, 2014 12:10 AM
Re: How to imply 'adults only' on invitation
Posted by coffeeisgreen
You could always draw a baby face with an X across it... That should get the message across!
Terriechick
Posted: Jan 10, 2014 08:28 AM+
Posted: Jan 10, 2014 08:28 AM
Re: How to imply 'adults only' on invitation
Posted by emmac
If the envelope is addressed mr & mrs smith and not the smith family you can't bring your kids, is that not common knowledge to people anymore?
This is what I did!! I only put to Mr. & Mrs. Except on my MOH and FH's daughter's mother. Those two I included the girls..but like duh obviously they are invited..LOL They are my flower girls
Lguido
Posted: Jan 10, 2014 09:05 AM+
Posted: Jan 10, 2014 09:05 AM
Re: How to imply 'adults only' on invitation
Posted by cconaty94
Posted by emmac
If the envelope is addressed mr & mrs smith and not the smith family you can't bring your kids, is that not common knowledge to people anymore?
I was banking on this being common knowledge... nooo kids!!
In addition to the lack of the word 'family', if you are inviting the children, on the inner envelope you usually write out all individual names. So they really should get the point if it just says the 2 parents[/
This!
Its not always common knowledge to some people. The women who did my invitations said she has had many brides complain that people still tried to bring their kids after the invitation was addressed to mr & mrs. It's nice to make it clear on the reception card that it's an adults on reception. There's nothing wrong with that.
kadymry
Posted: Jan 10, 2014 09:10 AM+
Posted: Jan 10, 2014 09:10 AM
How to imply
yeahh. we didnt put it because we didnt like how it sounded in the invite so we are crossing our fingers that word of mouth and envelope addressing will be enough. Ive talked to most people about it already who i thought it would be an issue for.
Alimm729
Posted: Jan 10, 2014 09:14 AM+
Posted: Jan 10, 2014 09:14 AM
Re: How to imply 'adults only' on invitation
Posted by coffeeisgreen
You could always draw a baby face with an X across it... That should get the message across!
omg
Alimm729
Posted: Jan 10, 2014 09:22 AM+
Posted: Jan 10, 2014 09:22 AM
How to imply
I'm doing '___ seats have been reserved for you' on the RSVP instead of putting something on the reception card. My MOH said that was tacky (I still don't agree, but since I found an alternative with the RSVP card, whatever). I also am relying on word of mouth, but I know some people still have trouble getting the point, so I didn't want to leave any room for confusion. When they fill out the RSVP and they're a family of 4 but see only 2 seats have been reserved, I hope that finally drives the point home.
GoingToBoyle
Posted: Jan 10, 2014 09:33 AM+
Posted: Jan 10, 2014 09:33 AM
How to imply
You can put this on your response card:__adults accepts...
__adults regrets...
annem13
Posted: Jan 10, 2014 09:39 AM+
Posted: Jan 10, 2014 09:39 AM
Re: How to imply 'adults only' on invitation
Posted by Alimm729
I'm doing '___ seats have been reserved for you' on the RSVP instead of putting something on the reception card. My MOH said that was tacky (I still don't agree, but since I found an alternative with the RSVP card, whatever). I also am relying on word of mouth, but I know some people still have trouble getting the point, so I didn't want to leave any room for confusion. When they fill out the RSVP and they're a family of 4 but see only 2 seats have been reserved, I hope that finally drives the point home.
Ah I see! I've seen that format, I just thought that is what the guests are supposed to fill in to send back to you which I didn't like because I didn't want to get out of control. I didn't even think about sending those pre-filled out!
Alimm729
Posted: Jan 10, 2014 10:32 AM+
Posted: Jan 10, 2014 10:32 AM
Re: How to imply 'adults only' on invitation
Posted by annem13
Posted by Alimm729
I'm doing '___ seats have been reserved for you' on the RSVP instead of putting something on the reception card. My MOH said that was tacky (I still don't agree, but since I found an alternative with the RSVP card, whatever). I also am relying on word of mouth, but I know some people still have trouble getting the point, so I didn't want to leave any room for confusion. When they fill out the RSVP and they're a family of 4 but see only 2 seats have been reserved, I hope that finally drives the point home.
Ah I see! I've seen that format, I just thought that is what the guests are supposed to fill in to send back to you which I didn't like because I didn't want to get out of control. I didn't even think about sending those pre-filled out!
Usually when it's for them to fill out it will say:
___ Accepts
___ Regrets
___ number attending
I didn't want to give my give-an-inch-take-a-mile family members that much freedom. I'll send the RSVP filled out with how many seats we reserved for them. They will fill out if they accept/decline and the names of those attending. As an example, I'm inviting my brother and his wife with their 13 year old daughter. They might not want to bring her, but I'm giving them the option.
guitarstikibars
Posted: Jan 10, 2014 01:25 PM+
Posted: Jan 10, 2014 01:25 PM
Re: How to imply 'adults only' on invitation
Posted by emmac
If the envelope is addressed mr & mrs smith and not the smith family you can't bring your kids, is that not common knowledge to people anymore?
seriously ... that's all i was planning on doing!
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