one of your bridesmaids wanting to bring a drug dealer as a date to your wedding?
One of my BMs is dating a drug dealer who is I guess somehow being hunted down by some crazy people. A few weeks ago while she was with him at one of his friend's houses when a bunch of guys with shot guns YES shot guns robbed him. They didn't take anything from her BUT the marvelous guy jumped out the window and left her with guys who had guns...its awesome that she kept seeing him right? Move foward two weeks and it happened again...and this time she was robbed too. I don't feel like I'm wrong to not want this guy at my wedding but I know she's going to flipppppppp when I tell her because for some reason she thinks this isn't too big of a deal I guess and stays with him.
Any suggestions on what to do?
(I know this sounds nuts lol)
Julia0927
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Wow. This is crazy. I would tell her not to bring him. B/c you never know who will follow him there. I don't think you need their drama on your special day.
MikesBride2B
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I would tell her that I was not comfortable having someone who brings trouble come to my wedding. If she's going to flip then maybe its better that neither of them come.
2009Bride2Be
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I would tell her that I was not comfortable having someone who brings trouble come to my wedding. If she's going to flip then maybe its better that neither of them come.
ITA! If she would be willing to put you and your family in danger then she doesnt really care about you or your wedding. And from the sound of it, she sadly doesnt care much about herself. =/
Amberrenee6705
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I would just simply tell her the truth. Its your special day and you dont want any drama or potentially dangerous people there. Someone could get hurt, and its not worth it. If she's a real friend, she will completely understand.
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WOW THAT IS BEYOND CRAZY! honestly, I would straight up tell her that because of recent events, you would love for her to come but do not want her to bring this as a date and if she cant do that then she can not come to your wedding either.. there is no easy way to say it.. so stick with the truth, IMHO
mlcvln129
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I think it's time for an intervention, quite honestly, because if she can't see what dating this man is doing to her well-being (and quite frankly, ability to LIVE without fearing that her life will be snuffed out in a second), then she really has extremely low self-esteem.
I would NOT let this man remotely NEAR my wedding, and I would explain this to her as plainly as possible. I do NOT want my wedding to become the next wedding massacre that you hear about on CNN, and I'm sure you don't, either. Tell her that you fear for her safety and for that of her guests. It's WAY TOO RISKY to have him there.
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Thanks girls. I actually brought up the topic today somewhat. I didn't say anything about the wedding yet, just about the whole relationship they are in and stuff and she got mad.
I told her that I didn't think she was putting herself in a good situation.
1. He already got caught with drugs on him when they were together...luckily she didn't get arrested BUT if she did, she would never work again..shes a teacher. I tell her this...she acts like its no big deal. She says 'I don't know him like that and that hes a good guy.' Hmm ok
2. Then I tell her I know all I need to know...that when people went into his friends house with guns, he went out the window and left her in the house.... her response is that they would have killed him. So I asked if it would be better if they killed her then bc he obviously wasnt thinking about her safety.
She sees like no problem with any of this. I kinda just want to punch her..she needs to snap out of it.
I'm definately going to say he can't come to the wedding, I just can't wait to hear her defend him.
Ahhhh
Thanks girls
MrsDtoBe09
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Honestly, I don't think I could associate with a person who hangs out with someone who sells drugs. If this is a good friend of yours, not only should you tell her that he can't come to your wedding but you need to slap some sense into her about her choices in men!
