Posted by florezpeeps
Posted by Mizzdimple
WOW......You should let her let you know in a year then...![]()
In a year 2 months before the wedding, the bm dresses will have been ordered and too many arrangements made for a certain number-that's totally unfair to me.
Posted by ant n tilde
Posted by florezpeeps
Posted by ant n tilde
i wouldn't be offended at all - actually, i think it is so great that someone could say No instead of being pressure into saying yes and maybe backing out or causing problems later on.
i totally respect that actually - being in a BP is so expensive - and it takes up a lot of time. so even tho you are happy for the bride - it is better to know that you cant handle it at the moment and avoid stress for her later on
for example - my sister and i decided together that she would not be in my BP for financial and time constraint reasons - that does NOT mean she isnt happy for me. . .she is my biggest supporter![]()
ok, the important part you missed is 'lame excuse', i would respect a valid excuse blindly![]()
LMAO well i am the eternal optimist and i was thinking maybe they GAVE a lam-o excuse but really they were ashamed to say it was the money thing
but if that is not the case. . . its her loss tell her to go screw![]()
Posted by florezpeeps
Posted by cherish83
Posted by Kurtsk8
then I wouldn't want them in my BP anyways!!!
Yup! If they aren't excited to be in the BP then they are going to put damper on all the wedding planning and not be there for you as a BM should.
YES this is my initial reaction too! Actually the person gave me a 'we'll see-in a year!'....ummm well see nothing cuz the invitation is closed!!!![]()
Posted by Mizzdimple
Posted by florezpeeps
Posted by Mizzdimple
WOW......You should let her let you know in a year then...![]()
In a year 2 months before the wedding, the bm dresses will have been ordered and too many arrangements made for a certain number-that's totally unfair to me.
I meant it like sarcastically....like forget her. Let her ask y ou about it like a month before
Posted by bemyyoko
how lame of an excuse is it? i mean what you consider lame they may very well consider valid.
BUT... I only asked 3 adults to be part of it and one had to back out b/c of health reasons. The reason i only asked those three is b/c i know my friends and how 'lame' they can be lol
I wouldnt take it personally, just forget about them being in the BP. Don't let it affect the friendship or anything.![]()
Posted by florezpeeps
Posted by Mizzdimple
Posted by florezpeeps
Posted by Mizzdimple
WOW......You should let her let you know in a year then...![]()
In a year 2 months before the wedding, the bm dresses will have been ordered and too many arrangements made for a certain number-that's totally unfair to me.
I meant it like sarcastically....like forget her. Let her ask y ou about it like a month before
LOL, thank goodness, I thought maybe ppl do pull that ish, whew, *wiping forehead*...oh yeah I am so not mentioning it ever again, and honestly I am curious to see if they bring it up, then more curious to see my reaction...![]()
I'd rather the person be honest upfront with me by saying no than being pressured to say yes and not coming through for me. I don't expect the BP to be working for me but I do expect them to take time for me and to be there for me. For whatever reason, school, work, or even money (those dresses and parties add up for your BP) I don't want to make everyone around me miserable.
Posted by Mizzdimple
Posted by florezpeeps
Posted by Mizzdimple
Posted by florezpeeps
Posted by Mizzdimple
WOW......You should let her let you know in a year then...![]()
In a year 2 months before the wedding, the bm dresses will have been ordered and too many arrangements made for a certain number-that's totally unfair to me.
I meant it like sarcastically....like forget her. Let her ask y ou about it like a month before
LOL, thank goodness, I thought maybe ppl do pull that ish, whew, *wiping forehead*...oh yeah I am so not mentioning it ever again, and honestly I am curious to see if they bring it up, then more curious to see my reaction...![]()
Im not sure what type of a person you are...but I am normally very confrontational...and for me to ask someone to be in my BP.....i would be so excited and then they say We'll see...thats like saying......you would be lucky if i say yes i would have BLOWN UP ON THA GIRL......
Posted by Kurtsk8
then I wouldn't want them in my BP anyways!!!
Posted by Mizzdimple
LOL, thank goodness, I thought maybe ppl do pull that ish, whew, *wiping forehead*...oh yeah I am so not mentioning it ever again, and honestly I am curious to see if they bring it up, then more curious to see my reaction...![]()
Posted by Mizzdimple
LOL, thank goodness, I thought maybe ppl do pull that ish, whew, *wiping forehead*...oh yeah I am so not mentioning it ever again, and honestly I am curious to see if they bring it up, then more curious to see my reaction...![]()
