I am a mess today.

So sorry you are going through this!

AWWW, I'm so sorry hun! Weddings bring out the WORST in people! Like the other girls said, it really depends on your relationship with your family. Think long and hard about this one. If you have a close relationship with your family, then try to talk to them and see where they are coming from. If not, like someone else said, maybe he is trying to stick up for you.

My mom was caught in the middle of her parents and my dad. She decided that my dad was the most important thing to her. While she loved her parents and it was a REALLY hard decision, it came down to her parents brought her up and my dad was her future. She wanted to move foward and have a life with him. 36 years later they are still married and my grandparents didn't go to my parents wedding or speak to my parents for the first 6 years of their marriage, missing important times, until my sister was born. She made the decision and said she would still make the same decision. It's something you have to think long and hard on. Can you see yourself with FH in the future? If you HAD to choose between FH and family would you? Your family will come around, you are their daughter. It might takes days, weeks, months, or years but it'll happen. Is it all worth losing FH over?

as crappy as you feel right now, i'm sure it will work out and get better!

i hope they can work things out
it must be very tough for you to be in the middle...but arguements happen, how can FH's arguement with your sis cause your mom to not support the wedding?

maybe there are other reasons?

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Posted by soontobecruz

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Posted by elp6421

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Posted by soontobecruz

siblings argue, and fight. He is becoming one of her siblings. I'm sure he was only doing it to stick up for you, and as long as he hasn't made a habit of this behavior I think that it's not a good enough reason to call of the engagement or have your parents not support the wedding.

Does your mom see that your sister was wrong in ditching you shower as well?

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No, in fact they told her not to. She had a wedding to go to that they told her she needed to attend since it was the wedding of her fiancee's business partner. 'Since she is going to be a part of the business, they should be her priority.'

I think that's really what set him off. And the worst of it is, last night after my parents drop that bomb on me I was really wondering if I was crazy.

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ummm not cool.... IMO, I would have sent FH to his partner's wedding and I would have gone to my sister's shower. That is a very valid reason why she wouldn't have been at the wedding.

Sorry I'm also one of those people who would go to a wedding alone have a great time and think nothing of it if my FH had something else as equally important to attend. Schedules conflict sometimes even for engaged/married people. That's life...

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ita. Your mom needs to realize that just as she's protecting her daughter (your sister) your FH is protecting his FW. Sometimes fights are gonna happen because both are being done at the same time.

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Posted by GR2010

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Posted by elp6421

Well I found out her reasoning - She didn't like that FH raised his voice to my sister.

Are you kidding me? The girl didn't even come to the shower!!!!

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Yeah that's not a good enough reason. If my sister didn't come to my shower I would hope FH would say something in my defense.

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i agreee.... she should be happy that your FH stood up for you. i would want my FH to stand up for me...

hope it all works out.

sorry but this sounds odd. your mom said that after that one incident? did she mention other incidents though that led her to believe you shouldn't be marrying him? when did this take place? is it possible that maybe emotions are just running high and your mom let it get to her?

I think it's cool your FH stood up for you...but a Mother will always stick up for her child even if she is 100% wrong....it *****.

I think you need to get them together and have FH apologize..I know it ***** too...but that's the only way...but make it KNOWN your sister was wrong and you were hurt and FH was protecting you (which is actually a good sign of the future!)

ita i think that even if fh was trying to defend you he should try to mend things a little for your sake. good luck