i am an annoymous 08er

Original post by am i crazy

Dec 23, 2006 11:31 PM

okay girls i am an 08er that posts on here quite often and i have a serious problem that i dont want to admit to. i have been engaged for a few months now and have been with my fh for a lot of yrs( i dont want to give too much info to reveal myself) for half the amount of time that we have been engaged i have been cheating on my fh with a coworker---nothing more than kissing and a little touching--i talk to this guy for hours on the phone and for the past week we actually have been hanging out outside of work..i dont know what to do. honestly all i can think about is how i want to go all the way this guy and i actually really do have feelings for him and i feel that the more i am into this guy the more i find myself pulling away from my fh. there is no way i am going to lose my fh and there is no way that i could ever tell him what i have been doing. i just have this attraction and connection with this other guy and i dont know how to stop myself from talking to him. now i said that for half the amount of time we have been engaged i have been cheating on my fh but that is not all the time, there have been periods were two weeks will go by and i have not kissed this guy and i tell him that i cant do this anymore but then i go back to kissing him. help me what should i do??? does anybody ever feel like this. i am going to post a poll to get true answers if anybody has cheated on there fhs bc i know that nobody will admit to it

jgl Posted: Dec 29, 2006 08:33 PM

Re: i am an annoymous 08er

Posted by Lisa982006

Posted by am i crazy

for the few girls who didnt yell at me or talked down to me...thank you. the fact that i came on here and asked what i should do and not to get reprimanded for the wrong i know i have done is very hard for me to talk about. my fh and i have been together for a long time like i said before and we have had two big break ups each--one when i broke up with him which was 3 yrs ago and one when he broke up with me which was last yr and he broke up with me for another girl and when we got back together and i decided to take him back i dont think i totally forgave him for what he did to me. i love my fh and i always will and i always have. and for some ppl to say that i dont is very hurtful and wrong. i know that my actions are not reflective of my feelings even though i know nobody will believe that or prob dont understand where i am coming from but thank you for your opinions

06er Crashing....

This is the STUPIDEST thing I have ever read.....first of all, what are you like 19 or 20? Is this your HS sweetheart? I hate to break it to you honey but based on what you wrote and even how you wrote it, it doesant sound like you should be getting married even if you werent cheating on your fh. How can you expect us to feel bad for YOU? If you honestly loved him and felt badly about your actions, you wouldnt be contemplating 'going all the way' with this coworker. And thats another thing, screwing a coworker is the SECOND stupiest thing you can do. So b/t that nad the cheating....you have ALOT to learn.....do this guy a favor if you have even a shred of dignity or respect in you...BREAK OFF THE ENGAGEMENT.

well said