Ay Chicas.... I am totally destroyed now... Sorry if u dont understand my english right now but I am completely not here today... my body is here but my mind is .... i dunno where my mind is but let me tell u why TODAY is a very FuK3D up DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Well Most of u read my other Post that i did at noon today regarding the XMOH who asked to be again in my BP.... I said obviously NO to her bc she was taking it like this is a game!!!
Well, I wish that was the only thing that happened today......
1 Hour after that incident with 'her' happened... I got a Text from my NOW EX MAID OF HONOR telling me that 'IM SORRY VERONICA YOU SHOULD LOOK FOR ANOTHER MAID OF HONOR BECAUSE EVEN THOUGH IT IS SUCH A HONOR YOU GAVE ME TO BE UR MOH, I CANT TAKE IT NOW BC I WILL FUK3D UP AND I KNOW I CANT DO IT PLUS I HAVE TOO MANY THINGS TO DO WIHT MY PERSONAL LIFE. I DONT DESERVE TO TALK TO YOU ANYMORE AND THIS IS THE END OF OUR RELATIONSHIP. IM SORRY AND BYE!'
ayyy CHICAS!!! I feel so ****** up NOW..... TWO of my EX BEST FRIENDS just 'gave' up their tittle of MOH..... I dont know if anyone knows how I feel but I have been Crying Most time of the day....
This is too much to handle for me now... My 2 xbff (they were my bff for like 8-10yrs) DONT want to be my MOH... I am completely Heartbroken!!!!!!!!!!!!!
FutureJOC
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I'm so sorry youo're going through this
FutureMrsLots
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Why would she just end the friendship? that doesn't make any sense. I'm so sorry
VCanizalez
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I'm sorry you're going through such upsetment. You have your own personal experience, but I have also experienced having people I thought were my good friends turn out not to be. One girl in particular, I was attatched to because we grew up together, I assumed we were special to each other. I learned over and over again during high school and then college years that she wasn't a real friend, and it was kind of traumatizing. I remember having bad dreams about it.
5 or 6 years have gone by since we really stopped contact, and I actually think I'm better at knowing who my real friends are. Many people come and go, real friends are rare. I also think I'm better at choosing who I want to pursue developing a real friendship with.
Good luck with meeting new friends, they're out there. It'll happen.
Thank you =) I know see the 'real colors' though... Wow... I never thought I was going to go thru this situation with especially them!!!!!!!!
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Wow Im so sorry about that I cannot believe that.. and was it really necessary for her to end your relationship what was that about? Were you guys in a fight or something?
NOOOO We were FINE!!! We talked on Sunday and everyting was GREAT!!!!!!!! This just came Out of the Blue!!!!!
I dont know why she 'needed' to end up the relationship we had....
wow Im so sorry fo ryou.. and you have no relatives or anything that will help you? What about your FH are you close to his fam? Does he have any siblungs?
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Aww Veronica I am so sorry! There is nothing anyone can say to make you feel better. It hurts and I understnad why you can't stop crying. Did the one girl you an explanation as to why she can't continue being friends with you? That sound a little strange to me. It's one thing if you can't be MOH for whatever reason, but to just end the friendship like that out of nowhere sounds a little absurd.
I know you don't want to hear this, but you're probably better off in the long run anyway. You don't need like that during one of the happiest times of your life. Your day will be beautiful, if you have one girl with you or none. Don't stress about FH having 2 groomsman and it being uneven. It's YOUR day and all that matter are you and FH.
Feel better
True... I dont need ppl like that.... NO Explanations... She just says she is a bad friend to me and she doesnt deserve to talk to me...
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I am so sorry that happened to you. It's one thing that she can't be your MOH, but why did she end the friendship?
Dunno... This just came out of nowhere..!! We were Fine! We even talked on Sunday and we had said we were going to go out this week!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am in SHOCK
VCanizalez
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I coudlnt Sleep Well... =( I had nightmares about weddings... bout MOH...
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W.T.F? Weird...why would she say 'yes' then do such a complete 180 to where she ends the relationship??? Something is off about that...
Regardless, it's one less person to cause drama so she did you a favor by taking it back now rather than later.
Keep your chin up, girl!
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Posted by FutureMrsLots
Why would she just end the friendship? that doesn't make any sense. I'm so sorry
It does NOT makes sense to me either... hurts a lot.... We been friends for over 8yrs and ALL i got after that is 'Sorry I cant b ur MOH and I dont deserve u as my friend.. bye bye'
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W.T.F? Weird...why would she say 'yes' then do such a complete 180 to where she ends the relationship??? Something is off about that...
Regardless, it's one less person to cause drama so she did you a favor by taking it back now rather than later.
Keep your chin up, girl!
Yeah but it hurts chica =( She was so EXCITED when i got engaged and gave her the 'Dama de Honor' (MOH in Spanish) title... She was giving me Ideas regading the wedding too!!! Then OUT OF NOWHERE that???? I mean NOT Only 'I cant be ur MOH' but 'I cant b ur friend anymore!'
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i am soo sorry to hear what you are going through. it is horrible that these two girls have done this to you and acted so selfishly and horribly. it is even worse that they won't talk to you to let you know what is going on.
i don't know you personally, but only from your posts on here. you are a sweet girl who has such a great outlook on things. i think that this situation has more to do with the other girls than it does you. and although you are now worried about filling a position in your BP, you have tons of time. i would take some time and heal. then in time you will be able to fill the position with someone who will be honored to stand up there with you.
try and stay strong
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I am sooooo sorry she is putting you through this but you have to stay strong... People come into our lives for a reason and when things like that happen it just makes you a stronger person because you stayed strong and made it through it... This is the most important time in your life and you can not let someone ruin it for you. i understand you girls were BF but S**t happens.. ive been through this too... you cant let her 'win' by knowing you are devistated by what she has done to you. You are a much better person than that and you dont need ppl in your life bringing you down. It is going to hurt for a while but if you keep your head up and stay stong I PROMISE you will be OK!!!!
One of my fav. quotes of all time...
'People come into our lives and quickly go others stay a while and leave footprints on our hears and we are never the same'
You just have to remember the good times and know that you are MUCH BETTER OFF without her in your life...
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it seems like she's got issues. Like she says something about her being fuc ked up. Why? Maybe something's going on with her and she feels ashamed?
I know, with me, Ive been through some major drama in my life and when that happens I tens to sorta close down and separate myself from everyone.
Give her time, maybe she'll explain whats going on.
I agree with everyone though. You don't need that drama at this time. Planning a wedding and a new life is hard enough.
I'm a bit older than you and been through lots of friends. In the end, its not how many friends you have, but how good the ones that you have are.
I'm having 1 MOH and 1 BM. that's it. No drama involved. Don't worry about how many people are in your BP. Just bc others have lots of people in theirs doesn't mean you have to. LOL, have you read the stories involving some of these BPs? You'll avoid that!
I know you're upset but give this girl time to at least explain why she cant be your friend. You never know whats happening.
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Posted by JuneBride14
i am soo sorry to hear what you are going through. it is horrible that these two girls have done this to you and acted so selfishly and horribly. it is even worse that they won't talk to you to let you know what is going on.
i don't know you personally, but only from your posts on here. you are a sweet girl who has such a great outlook on things. i think that this situation has more to do with the other girls than it does you. and although you are now worried about filling a position in your BP, you have tons of time. i would take some time and heal. then in time you will be able to fill the position with someone who will be honored to stand up there with you.
try and stay strong
tHANKS cHICA.... I am sweet and nice to ppl... I will try to NO worry and just 'wait' for the Right girl to b in my BP...
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I am sooooo sorry she is putting you through this but you have to stay strong... People come into our lives for a reason and when things like that happen it just makes you a stronger person because you stayed strong and made it through it... This is the most important time in your life and you can not let someone ruin it for you. i understand you girls were BF but S**t happens.. ive been through this too... you cant let her 'win' by knowing you are devistated by what she has done to you. You are a much better person than that and you dont need ppl in your life bringing you down. It is going to hurt for a while but if you keep your head up and stay stong I PROMISE you will be OK!!!!
One of my fav. quotes of all time...
'People come into our lives and quickly go others stay a while and leave footprints on our hears and we are never the same'
You just have to remember the good times and know that you are MUCH BETTER OFF without her in your life...
Gracias... yep.. People come and Go.... just hruts but its true..... I will NOT let her know...
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Posted by allornil
it seems like she's got issues. Like she says something about her being fuc ked up. Why? Maybe something's going on with her and she feels ashamed?
I know, with me, Ive been through some major drama in my life and when that happens I tens to sorta close down and separate myself from everyone.
Give her time, maybe she'll explain whats going on.
I agree with everyone though. You don't need that drama at this time. Planning a wedding and a new life is hard enough.
I'm a bit older than you and been through lots of friends. In the end, its not how many friends you have, but how good the ones that you have are.
I'm having 1 MOH and 1 BM. that's it. No drama involved. Don't worry about how many people are in your BP. Just bc others have lots of people in theirs doesn't mean you have to. LOL, have you read the stories involving some of these BPs? You'll avoid that!
I know you're upset but give this girl time to at least explain why she cant be your friend. You never know whats happening.
I know her problems... I cant share them bc u knwo they are personal BUT TRUST ME, They are NOT really that BIG.. This situation is like a sayin in Spanish ( I am not sure fi there is one in English) 'No te ahoges en tu vaso de agua' Dont drown urself in a glass of water... Trust me, compare to her 'problems', I have read in LIW much worse problems... But i was always with her!!!! She said she cant be my friend bc she doesnt deserve me...
That is what i wanted!!! 1 MOH & 1 BM.... Now I only have 1 MOH.... See? I have a very small BP but yet got SO MUCH Drama NOW... but better NOW than Later...
Thanks...
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Lo siento mucho lo que tienes que pasar por esto. Al menos esto le mostrará quien son realmente tus amigos. Mantenga siempre la cabeza bien alta y no dejes que nadie te pones así. Nadie debería tener el poder de hacerte llorar así, y si lo hacen, entonces no merecen estar en tu vida o que sea su dama de honor. Creo que tal vez ella acababo la amistad porque te quiere evitar. Ella sabe que vas a estar enojada con ella por primera diciendote que sí y luego decirte que no. Algunas personas no pueden decir que sí a ser una Dama de Honor, por dificultades financieras o por otras razones personales. Pero sería mucho más agradable que acaba de decir no, no puedo hacerlo por este motivo. No hay necesidad de poner fin a la amistad. Además, está seguro que estas dos chicas no saben el uno del otro? ¿Hay alguna otra manera que tal vez una chica que se llama la otra chica para hablar de esto? El momento parece perfecto. que ha dicho Luis de esto?
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I feel so terrible that friends could treat you this way. It makes me so sad to see others hurting. No one deserves this!!! Seriously though, you do not need them to be apart of your most important day, as far as I'm concerned they do not deserve the honor anyway!!!! I know it will be difficult to get through this, but that's why you have FH!!!!!!!
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Lo siento mucho lo que tienes que pasar por esto. Al menos esto le mostrará quien son realmente tus amigos. Mantenga siempre la cabeza bien alta y no dejes que nadie te pones así. Nadie debería tener el poder de hacerte llorar así, y si lo hacen, entonces no merecen estar en tu vida o que sea su dama de honor. Creo que tal vez ella acababo la amistad porque te quiere evitar. Ella sabe que vas a estar enojada con ella por primera diciendote que sí y luego decirte que no. Algunas personas no pueden decir que sí a ser una Dama de Honor, por dificultades financieras o por otras razones personales. Pero sería mucho más agradable que acaba de decir no, no puedo hacerlo por este motivo. No hay necesidad de poner fin a la amistad. Además, está seguro que estas dos chicas no saben el uno del otro? ¿Hay alguna otra manera que tal vez una chica que se llama la otra chica para hablar de esto? El momento parece perfecto. que ha dicho Luis de esto?
Estoy 100%segura que ellas no se conocen. Ellas tienen vidas muy diferentes y no se conocen! Luis me dice que me tranquilize, que agarra todo al suave porque la chica ideal para que este de Dama de honor llegara, Pero que no Llore porque no vale la pena.
Gracias. Tienes razon. No tiene sentido que llore por algo asi porque eso me demuestra que ellas no son tan buenas amigas como esperaba.
Pero me parece todo extraño porque Ella estaba contenta con que seria mi dama de honor... y de la nada me dijo que NO!!!!
Pero es cierto... Tengo que mantener mi cabeza alta =)
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Lo siento mucho lo que tienes que pasar por esto. Al menos esto le mostrará quien son realmente tus amigos. Mantenga siempre la cabeza bien alta y no dejes que nadie te pones así. Nadie debería tener el poder de hacerte llorar así, y si lo hacen, entonces no merecen estar en tu vida o que sea su dama de honor. Creo que tal vez ella acababo la amistad porque te quiere evitar. Ella sabe que vas a estar enojada con ella por primera diciendote que sí y luego decirte que no. Algunas personas no pueden decir que sí a ser una Dama de Honor, por dificultades financieras o por otras razones personales. Pero sería mucho más agradable que acaba de decir no, no puedo hacerlo por este motivo. No hay necesidad de poner fin a la amistad. Además, está seguro que estas dos chicas no saben el uno del otro? ¿Hay alguna otra manera que tal vez una chica que se llama la otra chica para hablar de esto? El momento parece perfecto. que ha dicho Luis de esto?
