I am Heartbroken chicas....

Original post by VCanizalez

Apr 12, 2010 10:56 PM

Ay Chicas....
I am totally destroyed now...
Sorry if u dont understand my english right now but I am completely not here today... my body is here but my mind is .... i dunno where my mind is but let me tell u why TODAY is a very FuK3D up DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Well Most of u read my other Post that i did at noon today regarding the XMOH who asked to be again in my BP.... I said obviously NO to her bc she was taking it like this is a game!!!

Well, I wish that was the only thing that happened today......

1 Hour after that incident with 'her' happened... I got a Text from my NOW EX MAID OF HONOR telling me that
'IM SORRY VERONICA YOU SHOULD LOOK FOR ANOTHER MAID OF HONOR BECAUSE EVEN THOUGH IT IS SUCH A HONOR YOU GAVE ME TO BE UR MOH, I CANT TAKE IT NOW BC I WILL FUK3D UP AND I KNOW I CANT DO IT PLUS I HAVE TOO MANY THINGS TO DO WIHT MY PERSONAL LIFE. I DONT DESERVE TO TALK TO YOU ANYMORE AND THIS IS THE END OF OUR RELATIONSHIP. IM SORRY AND BYE!'

ayyy CHICAS!!!
I feel so ****** up NOW.....
TWO of my EX BEST FRIENDS just 'gave' up their tittle of MOH..... I dont know if anyone knows how I feel but I have been Crying Most time of the day....

This is too much to handle for me now... My 2 xbff (they were my bff for like 8-10yrs) DONT want to be my MOH...
I am completely Heartbroken!!!!!!!!!!!!!

VCanizalez Posted: Apr 13, 2010 10:56 AM

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Posted by rendel

I feel so terrible that friends could treat you this way. It makes me so sad to see others hurting. No one deserves this!!! Seriously though, you do not need them to be apart of your most important day, as far as I'm concerned they do not deserve the honor anyway!!!! I know it will be difficult to get through this, but that's why you have FH!!!!!!!

I Know i have My Great FH (MY BEST FRIEND TOO!!!!!!!!!!!!)... He is so sweet...
I wish he could be my MOH too lol...

Yep ur right THEY DONT DESERVE THE HONOR!!!!!!!!

Moonmist09 Posted: Apr 13, 2010 11:04 AM

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Posted by VCanizalez

Posted by Moonmist09

Lo siento mucho lo que tienes que pasar por esto. Al menos esto le mostrará quien son realmente tus amigos. Mantenga siempre la cabeza bien alta y no dejes que nadie te pones así. Nadie debería tener el poder de hacerte llorar así, y si lo hacen, entonces no merecen estar en tu vida o que sea su dama de honor.
Creo que tal vez ella acababo la amistad porque te quiere evitar. Ella sabe que vas a estar enojada con ella por primera diciendote que sí y luego decirte que no.
Algunas personas no pueden decir que sí a ser una Dama de Honor, por dificultades financieras o por otras razones personales. Pero sería mucho más agradable que acaba de decir no, no puedo hacerlo por este motivo. No hay necesidad de poner fin a la amistad.
Además, está seguro que estas dos chicas no saben el uno del otro? ¿Hay alguna otra manera que tal vez una chica que se llama la otra chica para hablar de esto? El momento parece perfecto.
que ha dicho Luis de esto?

GREAT SPANISH =)

Luis tiene razón! su compañera de trabajo sigue siendo una dama de honor, ¿no? mantengala en la boda por ahora. Si no puede encontrar a nadie más no te preocupes por eso. No es necesario contar con tanta gente. A veces, menos es más en la vida.
Hay tantas cosas en la vida que usted puede llorar - problemas que no puedan resolverse. Sé que esto parece terrible ahora, pero es algo que será para mejor. Incluso si sólo tiene una persona en su boda, usted siempre puede tener una chica con dos hombres. Eso es lo que tuve que hacer para la boda de mi hermana.
Mira el lado bueno de las cosas, usted tiene Luis, su alma gemela. Mires adelante a su vida juntos y esperan comprar una casa juntos. Estas son cosas que pensar cuando nos sentimos deprimidos por otras cosas que suceden en la vida. Siempre se piensa en lo positivo y no el negativo. No te 'Stress out' sobre las cosas que no tienes control. nos dará las canas antes de que estemos de edad!

Gracias! Mi padre nació en Italia pero él y su familia se mudaron a Argentina cuando tenía 1 año de edad. La familia de mi mamá nació en Italia también, pero ella nació en Argentina. Los dos se criaron allí y fueron a la escuela alli. Hablamos una mezcla de español y italiano en casa.

FFsBride Posted: Apr 13, 2010 11:18 AM

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anyone that would do that to you doesn't deserve to be in your life - u don't need them, you're better than that! hold ur head high!

VCanizalez Posted: Apr 13, 2010 11:19 AM

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Posted by Moonmist09

Posted by VCanizalez

Posted by Moonmist09

Lo siento mucho lo que tienes que pasar por esto. Al menos esto le mostrará quien son realmente tus amigos. Mantenga siempre la cabeza bien alta y no dejes que nadie te pones así. Nadie debería tener el poder de hacerte llorar así, y si lo hacen, entonces no merecen estar en tu vida o que sea su dama de honor.
Creo que tal vez ella acababo la amistad porque te quiere evitar. Ella sabe que vas a estar enojada con ella por primera diciendote que sí y luego decirte que no.
Algunas personas no pueden decir que sí a ser una Dama de Honor, por dificultades financieras o por otras razones personales. Pero sería mucho más agradable que acaba de decir no, no puedo hacerlo por este motivo. No hay necesidad de poner fin a la amistad.
Además, está seguro que estas dos chicas no saben el uno del otro? ¿Hay alguna otra manera que tal vez una chica que se llama la otra chica para hablar de esto? El momento parece perfecto.
que ha dicho Luis de esto?

GREAT SPANISH =)

Luis tiene razón! su compañera de trabajo sigue siendo una dama de honor, ¿no? mantengala en la boda por ahora. Si no puede encontrar a nadie más no te preocupes por eso. No es necesario contar con tanta gente. A veces, menos es más en la vida.
Hay tantas cosas en la vida que usted puede llorar - problemas que no puedan resolverse. Sé que esto parece terrible ahora, pero es algo que será para mejor. Incluso si sólo tiene una persona en su boda, usted siempre puede tener una chica con dos hombres. Eso es lo que tuve que hacer para la boda de mi hermana.
Mira el lado bueno de las cosas, usted tiene Luis, su alma gemela. Mires adelante a su vida juntos y esperan comprar una casa juntos. Estas son cosas que pensar cuando nos sentimos deprimidos por otras cosas que suceden en la vida. Siempre se piensa en lo positivo y no el negativo. No te 'Stress out' sobre las cosas que no tienes control. nos dará las canas antes de que estemos de edad!

Gracias! Mi padre nació en Italia pero él y su familia se mudaron a Argentina cuando tenía 1 año de edad. La familia de mi mamá nació en Italia también, pero ella nació en Argentina. Los dos se criaron allí y fueron a la escuela alli. Hablamos una mezcla de español y italiano en casa.

Wow Muchas gracias chica!
Tienes mucha razon... Esto no me tiene que hacer llorar.... Tengo que pensar en todo lo que viene en el future con mi Alma gemela =)
Gracias por tus consejos... =)

Wow Italiano & Español! Que bien =)

PS: No te 'Stress out' No te estreses...

VCanizalez Posted: Apr 13, 2010 11:19 AM

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Posted by FFsBride

anyone that would do that to you doesn't deserve to be in your life - u don't need them, you're better than that! hold ur head high!

=) yep.... true... Thanks
My Head high

AdriandSteve Posted: Apr 13, 2010 01:21 PM

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Honestly, I would take this as a blessing. It's better she tell you now then 6 months before your wedding. I think her TOTALLY 'ending' the relationship like that was 100% wrong but at least she had the decency to tell you now.

Everyone is different but I wouldn't advise ANYONE to ask your bridal party more then a year in advance. Too many things happen and relationships change too easily as you have unfortunately seen.

Sit back and see who sticks around for the next 6 months and think about everything again then. I'd just take some time off from BP stuff.

VCanizalez Posted: Apr 13, 2010 01:45 PM

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Posted by AdriandSteve

Honestly, I would take this as a blessing. It's better she tell you now then 6 months before your wedding. I think her TOTALLY 'ending' the relationship like that was 100% wrong but at least she had the decency to tell you now.

Everyone is different but I wouldn't advise ANYONE to ask your bridal party more then a year in advance. Too many things happen and relationships change too easily as you have unfortunately seen.

Sit back and see who sticks around for the next 6 months and think about everything again then. I'd just take some time off from BP stuff.

Thanks...
That is what I should Do! =)

AdriandSteve Posted: Apr 13, 2010 01:51 PM

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Posted by VCanizalez

Posted by AdriandSteve

Honestly, I would take this as a blessing. It's better she tell you now then 6 months before your wedding. I think her TOTALLY 'ending' the relationship like that was 100% wrong but at least she had the decency to tell you now.

Everyone is different but I wouldn't advise ANYONE to ask your bridal party more then a year in advance. Too many things happen and relationships change too easily as you have unfortunately seen.

Sit back and see who sticks around for the next 6 months and think about everything again then. I'd just take some time off from BP stuff.

Thanks...
That is what I should Do! =)

Hope it all works out for you.

wiggleit28 Posted: Apr 13, 2010 02:06 PM

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Sounds like you are having an awful day and i'm sorry...things will get better. The wounds are just very fresh.

I also feel a little bit confused. I don't understand how two people you've been friends with for 10 years could hurt you like this out of nowhere. Have they ever done anything hurtful to you before? I just find that behavior like this doesn't just usually come out of nowhere.

VCanizalez Posted: Apr 13, 2010 02:09 PM

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Posted by wiggleit28

Sounds like you are having an awful day and i'm sorry...things will get better. The wounds are just very fresh.

I also feel a little bit confused. I don't understand how two people you've been friends with for 10 years could hurt you like this out of nowhere. Have they ever done anything hurtful to you before? I just find that behavior like this doesn't just usually come out of nowhere.

I mean Yeah we have got our disagreements... We have fought BUT NOTHING LIKE THIS!!!!!!!
we were cool!!!!
everything is just so WEIRD!!!!!!!!!!

wiggleit28 Posted: Apr 13, 2010 02:43 PM

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Posted by VCanizalez

Posted by wiggleit28

Sounds like you are having an awful day and i'm sorry...things will get better. The wounds are just very fresh.

I also feel a little bit confused. I don't understand how two people you've been friends with for 10 years could hurt you like this out of nowhere. Have they ever done anything hurtful to you before? I just find that behavior like this doesn't just usually come out of nowhere.

I mean Yeah we have got our disagreements... We have fought BUT NOTHING LIKE THIS!!!!!!!
we were cool!!!!
everything is just so WEIRD!!!!!!!!!!

It definitely is weird! People are nuts...seriously.

Panamasweet Posted: Apr 13, 2010 03:43 PM

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Sorry you are going through this chica. Its better you find out now then months into the planning process they are not there for you. I am dealing with this now and I wish they would have just dropped out from the begining

monkeemunk Posted: Apr 13, 2010 04:25 PM

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im so sorry girlie. i know times like these are so hard. keep your head high and thank god you have a great fiance to keep you sane! u deserve to have the best moh ever and it will work out that you do! its hard to think that now, but it will happen at the best time!

FutureMrsLMS Posted: Apr 13, 2010 04:30 PM

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Posted by VCanizalez

Posted by Im getting Married

Don't know what else to say...stay strong though

I cant!!!!!!!!
I just cant....
I cant stop crying....
WHy would they do this to me?!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I have ALWAYS been there for them!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

You will learn over the process of weddding planning that people are just extremely insecure and jealous.

Weddings can bring out the WORST in people. I had to tell my Aunt she was not in the Bridal Party because she had the nerve to tell my mother a few years ago 'ohh, she isn't going to get married ever..Why would that guy propose? he doesnt even have his life together,etc'..

A few months later we got engaged and she had to eat her words. Well guess what - she is NOT in my bridal party and she will NOT be a Maid of Honor and too bad, so sad!

Also, in college when I was engaged I had 3 college friends completely stop talking to me because they thought 'oh shes getting married forget it..in 4 years she will be pregnant and then we cant go out clubbing in NYC on weekends..She already is going to settle down, why be friends with her ?'.

So lo siento, chica but thats how other women think and the real sides of people will be revealed to you!!

Corinne Ann Posted: Apr 13, 2010 04:58 PM

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awww Veronica!!! I am so sorry!!!! I will be your MOH!

silke Posted: Apr 13, 2010 05:46 PM

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OMG!!! ***???? I can almost understand if there are so many things going on in her life that she cant do it....BUT the 'relationship is now over'???? where the hell did that come from?????? Do you think it had to do with your other post????? Do these 2 girls talk to each other????? Also - your BP does not have to be even AND why not have your guy friend the MOH??? It's a special day for you and you need to have the best people!!!