I AM SO ANGRY I JUST WANT TO SCREAM

Original post by hmpena

Dec 01, 2005 08:30 PM

I need support now, ladies... I am so tired of certain family members trying to make MY wedding about them. This is MY day... I don't ask a lot and I AM (well, we are) paying for this wedding. Yet somehow, these same family members keep assuming that I will just do what they want, invite who they want, even when I have made it CRYSTAL CLEAR that I will not budge on certain things since this is MY day. I am so upset that I could cry... why can't this day just be about me? FH is at the dentist so I feel so alone right now. I just got hung up on by this family member!

KellyBride Posted: Dec 01, 2005 09:17 PM

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DCSAAB06 Posted: Dec 01, 2005 09:22 PM

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Sorry Hollie.....
Just put your foot down and hang in there!

hmpena Posted: Dec 01, 2005 09:25 PM

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FH wants to call my father now, however, I think it's a bad idea... I don't know... I am scared that they both will say irrational things.

BKtoLI Posted: Dec 01, 2005 09:29 PM

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Hmmm maybe you could let him handle it, after all I think both of them are more likely to be cordial to each other than you and your father might be.

Like for instance my dad would yell at me but not yell at FH in a million years unless he really did something horrible!!

hmpena Posted: Dec 01, 2005 09:30 PM

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JOhn is on the phone with my dad now... my father is threatening to not come to the wedding.

JanuaryBride06 Posted: Dec 01, 2005 09:31 PM

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I know that you feel alone but you're not. We understand how difficult some family and friends can be.

DA77 Posted: Dec 01, 2005 09:31 PM

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I'm sorry - Fathers can be very difficult sometimes, it's just their way. My dad and I got into a blowout fight 2 DAYS after I got engaged. I would just leave things as they are for tonight, let him sleep on it, and then I would call him tomorrow if you can. Things will cool down I'm sure - it took us about 2 weeks.

gina674 Posted: Dec 01, 2005 09:38 PM

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hmpena Posted: Dec 01, 2005 09:38 PM

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Well, my father is now threatening to not come to the wedding... lovely father I have, right? All because he knew I didn't want someone invited and he invited this person and went about telling me underhandedly.

Jen2999 Posted: Dec 01, 2005 09:40 PM

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Posted by hmpena

Well, my father is now threatening to not come to the wedding... lovely father I have, right? All because he knew I didn't want someone invited and he invited this person and went about telling me underhandedly.

UGh I am so sorry hollie!!!

I would try and wait it out a bit?

Goldi1021 Posted: Dec 01, 2005 09:41 PM

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I agree. I think maybe he needs to blow off some steam. I am truly sorry this is happening!

hmpena Posted: Dec 01, 2005 09:43 PM

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My father is so unbelieveable... I am sitting here SHAKING because I am so upset with him

DA77 Posted: Dec 01, 2005 09:45 PM

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You have to send this person an invitation now? That *****, I'm sorry...

hmpena Posted: Dec 01, 2005 09:57 PM

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Posted by DA77

You have to send this person an invitation now? That *****, I'm sorry...

No way in HELL is this person coming! The phone call just ended and my father is threatening to walk me down the aisle, but not come to the reception. If this is his choice, so be it. But I am not budging (sp?).

lipglossjunky73 Posted: Dec 01, 2005 09:59 PM

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Hang in there - some people can't stand giving any attention to anyone else - they cant stand not being in it so they will ruin it for someone who is getting it...

SIBride06 Posted: Dec 01, 2005 10:09 PM

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Hollie!! You need to take a stand This is totally unacceptable. When did our weddings become everyone elses business?? I just dont get it. It is so true. Weddings bringout the worst in people-many of those whom we least expect.

I went through so much planning this wedding. Sometimes I sit & just wish this wedding was all over with so I dont have to deal with people. Its sad because people always feel the need to put their two cents in.

Hang in there sweetie. We are here for you

FallBride05 Posted: Dec 01, 2005 10:16 PM

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HOllie -

Everyone gets weird as the wedding gets closer. My father and I are very close, and had numerous arguments over the wedding. In the end everything works out. Weddings just bring out the nasty side of people for some reason.

Your wedding will be beautiful and I'm sure your father will be beaming with pride as he walks you down the aisle and watches your first dance at your reception.

DA77 Posted: Dec 01, 2005 10:22 PM

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Posted by DA77

You have to send this person an invitation now? That *****, I'm sorry...

No way in HELL is this person coming! The phone call just ended and my father is threatening to walk me down the aisle, but not come to the reception. If this is his choice, so be it. But I am not budging (sp?).

Good! I am glad you are not giving in. He's being completely irrational, and I am sure he will be at your reception too. Can I ask you something? Is your father scared to face this person and tell them they are not invited? Does he feel bad? It doesn't sound like you like the person, but would it help if you called them and explained why they weren't invited? I know it sounds crazy, but I had to do something similar after my father went off the deep end early on.

PIZZ2306 Posted: Dec 01, 2005 10:22 PM

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I'm sorry......

ChrissynRicky Posted: Dec 01, 2005 10:34 PM

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OMG baby...this is just terrible. I'm so sorry to hear this. I honestly think you both need to let the dust settle for a few days, and then sit down face to face and discuss your reasons to why you do not want this person there. Also tell your father how important it is that yhe respect your wishes and be there for you. No one should ever come between a parent and their child - EVER. Maybe bring John along with you for support?