He is mad at me over something so stoopid. hHe hasnt talked to me since Monday. I am so tired of him and his childish ways.
He says i am a breach of security. There is this window in our room that if someone is donw the block they can see rihgt into it. Well many of times he has told me dont change in front of the window. And on Monday night i was changing and the window was half way open. He came upstairs and got so pissed at me. This is where it all began. I tried forcing him to talk to me last night and he wont.
Sometimes i just feel like calling off this whole wedding.
Why do men not communicate with you for days when they are mad at u for something?
Urrrrrrrrr i hate it. I just feel like leaving hime and never coming back.
DrBeLLaRoSe
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i agree with everything that kellwolfe said.
when i get into a fight with my fiance, he turns off his phone and i wont be able to speak to him for 2 or 3 days. it drives me absolutely nuts. i know that guys and girls handle fights differently, but i think that our men take it a little bit too far. it always makes me wonder if he really understands/loves me then why would he let me go through 3 days of torture not speaking to him? i think it is completely unacceptable behavior, and not a good way to communicate or handle arguments. i agree with kellwolfe that they need to learn to change. to take an argument that could be resolved in hours and turn it into a 3 day affair is too much/ ridiculous.
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Posted by DrBeLLaRoSe
i agree with everything that kellwolfe said.
when i get into a fight with my fiance, he turns off his phone and i wont be able to speak to him for 2 or 3 days. it drives me absolutely nuts. i know that guys and girls handle fights differently, but i think that our men take it a little bit too far. it always makes me wonder if he really understands/loves me then why would he let me go through 3 days of torture not speaking to him? i think it is completely unacceptable behavior, and not a good way to communicate or handle arguments. i agree with kellwolfe that they need to learn to change. to take an argument that could be resolved in hours and turn it into a 3 day affair is too much/ ridiculous.
I sent u FM
jandt2006
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btw i went to majestic gardens, it was really nice there!! congrats
july06bride
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I am a talker, FH is a keep it inner... we normally dont go too long without talking because ni force it out of him and we talk and get it over with... and make up and be happy
make him talk, corner him, and get it out! i understand why he is mad/upset but his way of going about is wrong.. good luck and let us know how it goes
M&S Sept12006
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I know it can be frustrating when men act this way...but unfortunately, we're women and they're men and sometimes we have different mentalities that we will never understand each other on certain issues. The best thing to do is just to say 'Look, Im sorry I upset you, I didnt realize that I was doing something that was sooo upsetting to you, and I'll try my best not to do it in the future'. If he continues to be mad at you and not talk to you over something like this, then I think the problem is a lot deeper than the issue that we're at here
How long have you guys been together if you dont mind me asking?
M&S Sept12006
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And one more thing...there's no such thing as forcing your man to talk to you...he might say something just to say it but unfortunately he will not be honest and sincere. But I do think that you have to be a little more firm with him and maybe if he doesnt want to talk to you-you talk to him...leave him a message about how you feel about the relationship and that you're having second thoughts...be honest with yourself.
jandt2006
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hi my almost date twin!! 9.30.06
M&S Sept12006
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Heyyyyy
I considered Watermill too but its too far Im in Queens!!!!! Watermill is beautifffffffffffffful! You will not be disappointed!@
jandt2006
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thanks, i hope you find your 'place' soon too. where have you been to look at? what about leonards of great neck?
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When he finally decides he is not mad enough anymore that he talks to you, you really have to tell him how much his behavior bothers you. Tell him you understand that he doesn't feel comfortable with you changing in front of the window, but that doesn't excuse his behavior. You are going to be getting marrie, you need to be able to communicate. This is extremely important.
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Posted by M&S Sept292006
I know it can be frustrating when men act this way...but unfortunately, we're women and they're men and sometimes we have different mentalities that we will never understand each other on certain issues. The best thing to do is just to say 'Look, Im sorry I upset you, I didnt realize that I was doing something that was sooo upsetting to you, and I'll try my best not to do it in the future'. If he continues to be mad at you and not talk to you over something like this, then I think the problem is a lot deeper than the issue that we're at here
How long have you guys been together if you dont mind me asking?
We have been together for 2 1/2 years. Usually we just resolve arguments right away. But b/c i didn't listen to him for the thousandth time he is not talking to me. He feels like i am just not heading his warnings.
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Last nite he actually slept in the bed with me and cuddled with me but he didnt really say anything. His mom says it hurts him just as much as it hurts me not to be talking to me.
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Well that's good, you 2 are making progress. And I'd believe his mom, that's usually the case. I think he isn't talking to you bc he gave you all those warnings and you still did it anyway. So (men's logic) he figures why talk to you if you're not gonna listen. Guys are like that, but he'll come around, don't worry!!
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I am glad that you two are making progress
I can totally understand him getting mad about you changing in fron t of the window my FH gets annoyed at me for this as well but my dresser is by the window so I pass the window a few times when I am getting dressed.
When FH doesn't talk to me I write a letter or get a card and write how I feel and I will give it to him or leave it in a place where he will see it and that usually breaks the silence cuz then he wants to discuss what I had wrote since he hates writing letters
Hope things all work out
PS you not alone sometimes I get so annoyed at Fh for things that I want to call off the wedding as well but then realize how much I really do love him and I would be so upset thatI wasn't wit hhim
