I am so mad at FH

He is mad at me over something so stoopid. hHe hasnt talked to me since Monday. I am so tired of him and his childish ways.

He says i am a breach of security. There is this window in our room that if someone is donw the block they can see rihgt into it. Well many of times he has told me dont change in front of the window. And on Monday night i was changing and the window was half way open. He came upstairs and got so pissed at me. This is where it all began. I tried forcing him to talk to me last night and he wont.

Sometimes i just feel like calling off this whole wedding.

Why do men not communicate with you for days when they are mad at u for something?

Urrrrrrrrr i hate it. I just feel like leaving hime and never coming back.

I hate when they do that! I've learned one thing though:

You might think it's stupid and miniscule, but he might not. Sit and FORCE him to talk to you and tell him that you didn't know it would bother him so much, and that you can't continue to have an immature relationship where you don't talk to each other. Don't blame him, don't say 'You did it' - stick to we, that way he doesn't feel you're attacking him.

my cousin's boyfriend does that a lot and it makes me mad too, i can totally see how it can make you mad especially your going to marry him!! he hasn't even called you since monday?? i dont' know what to say except

i think it's a common thing for them to that bc that happens to my fiance & me a lot. THat i tell him straight to his face that he get's me so pissed off at times that i say heck with getting married

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Posted by jandt2006

my cousin's boyfriend does that a lot and it makes me mad too, i can totally see how it can make you mad especially your going to marry him!! he hasn't even called you since monday?? i dont' know what to say except

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We actually live together and he hasnt spoken to me on emails at work or called my cell or work phone during work since actually Tuesday.

If Anthony did that to me, I'd be pissed as well. We usually don't even last half the day with the 'silent treatment'. Communication is SO VITAL to having a lasting, healthy relationship. I hope you can have a calm discussion with him about how to deal with disagreements.

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Posted by jandt2006

dont' u speak to each other at all in the house? i would bring up a convo with him and see how he reacts, and i agree don't put everything on him (even if you know he's at fault), then maybe he will communicate a little. let us know what happens!

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No we havent been speaking at all in the house. He has been sleeping downstairs in the basement since Tuesday. Yesterday i went down in the basement to tell him to come upstairs to sleep with me and he said no. At this point i dont even know what he is mad about. He is just being such a jerk.

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Posted by cantwait2bewed

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Posted by jandt2006

dont' u speak to each other at all in the house? i would bring up a convo with him and see how he reacts, and i agree don't put everything on him (even if you know he's at fault), then maybe he will communicate a little. let us know what happens!

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No we havent been speaking at all in the house. He has been sleeping downstairs in the basement since Tuesday. Yesterday i went down in the basement to tell him to come upstairs to sleep with me and he said no. At this point i dont even know what he is mad about. He is just being such a jerk.

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I'm sure what happened is a lot bigger of a deal to him than you right now. It's going to be tough for us to help you in this situation since we don't know what the fight was about, and we dont' know the relationship that you and your FI has. All I can do right now is give you a

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Posted by ChristineAEid

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Posted by cantwait2bewed

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Posted by jandt2006

dont' u speak to each other at all in the house? i would bring up a convo with him and see how he reacts, and i agree don't put everything on him (even if you know he's at fault), then maybe he will communicate a little. let us know what happens!

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No we havent been speaking at all in the house. He has been sleeping downstairs in the basement since Tuesday. Yesterday i went down in the basement to tell him to come upstairs to sleep with me and he said no. At this point i dont even know what he is mad about. He is just being such a jerk.

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I'm sure what happened is a lot bigger of a deal to him than you right now. It's going to be tough for us to help you in this situation since we don't know what the fight was about, and we dont' know the relationship that you and your FI has. All I can do right now is give you a

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He says i am a breach of security. There is this window in our room that if someone is donw the block they can see rihgt into it. Well many of times he has told me dont change in front of the window. And on Monday night i was changing and the window was half way open. He came upstairs and got so pissed at me. This is where it all began. I tried forcing him to talk to me last night and he wont.

Wow I am so sorry ...thats terrible - and that is no way to act - what does he think he is going to do when you are married -

you have to talking thing out always - I understand taking an hour or so to cool off because mike and i will do that at times but we never go more then that with out talking -

Thats horrible and there is no reason on the face of the earth to ever go that long with out talking to the person that you 'plan' on spending the rest of you life with


I am sorry for probably speaking out of turn but he needs to learn that it not the way to handle issues!

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Posted by kellwolfe

Wow I am so sorry ...thats terrible - and that is no way to act - what does he think he is going to do when you are married -

you have to talking thing out always - I understand taking an hour or so to cool off because mike and i will do that at times but we never go more then that with out talking -

Thats horrible and there is no reason on the face of the earth to ever go that long with out talking to the person that you 'plan' on spending the rest of you life with


I am sorry for probably speaking out of turn but he needs to learn that it not the way to handle issues!

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But how do i make him learn?

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Posted by cantwait2bewed

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Posted by kellwolfe

Wow I am so sorry ...thats terrible - and that is no way to act - what does he think he is going to do when you are married -

you have to talking thing out always - I understand taking an hour or so to cool off because mike and i will do that at times but we never go more then that with out talking -

Thats horrible and there is no reason on the face of the earth to ever go that long with out talking to the person that you 'plan' on spending the rest of you life with


I am sorry for probably speaking out of turn but he needs to learn that it not the way to handle issues!

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But how do i make him learn?

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IMO it's not a learning situation it's a comprimise (sp?) of future happiness.

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Posted by jandt2006

i guess in a way he's trying to protect you, but he's also overprotecting you by not speaking to you after he told u to do something. why don't u try and work something out and tell him you will put up curtains or blind or something and you can leave them partially open so you can get so light and meanwhile noone will be able to see you. sorry just an opinion.

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Yes that is why i cant say that he doesnt love me to death. He is always trying to shield me from harm. But gosh why get so mad over this and not talk to me for 3 days already. I just feel that he has no respect for me right now and my feelings.

You need to talk to him and explain how you are feeling and why you thing that being treated like that isnt right!

Because its not - Would you ever treat him like that - How would he like it if the shoe was on the other foot -
He is acting like a baby not a grown man.....not talking about a problem doesnt make it go away it makes it get worse and its only going to happen again!

You cant teach him that you can tell him and explain if he doesnt change his actions that he had to understand that he is running the risk of loosing you and this NEEDS to be taken
care of before you take your vowes -

I am so mad for you right now you have no idea --- How could he live in the same house as you and not talk to you ...

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Posted by jandt2006

your entitled to do things in your own house as you wish also, your entitiled to independence. is he always overprotective of you? in public does he get mad if another guy looks at you?

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no he doesnt get mad at all when another guy looks at me. Its just that he doesnt trust people in the neighborhood.