I am so upset.

I am going to try to be as vague as possible because I dont want to give anyone or anywhere a bad wrap:

I had this great meeting with a wedding planner last week & we were talking about all the details & the DOC stuff-- well-- I always ask for references from vendors. Especially when I looked around A LOT on here & asked lots of brides, past & future if they'd had any experience with this person & I couldnt fint any feed back. So anyhow- I asked someone at the office for a few past brides as references. Then like an hour later I get a phone call from the WP & it was soooo strange. He was trying to convince me not to use him?? What was up with that? So then I called the office to ask what was going on & it was all hush hush& I come to find out that there was a big argument becuase a few people (including the WP) thought it was inappropriate that I asked for references. (I offended him) WHAT?? How is that wrong?? I was really upset- then I called FH & I asked him if he thought I was wrong to ask for references, which I 100% do NOT feel was inappropriate in ANY WAY SHAPE OR FORM!!! & he goes- I dont think it was necessary & I thnk you should have talked to me about it first.

AM I CRAZY??? Since when is it wrong to ask for a reference for a service that you will be PAYING for on the ONE day of your life that you want to go perfectly?!?!?!?! I am so bummed.