i can't believe FFIL said this....need hugs.

So I'm tracking all of the RSVPs. And I've got a system of doing it/relaying the results. But FFIL didn't like the way I was doing it and asked to have it done differently. I told him that the way i'm doing it is easist for me and this is how i'm going to do it. he said its just as easy to do it his way. i told him that we should have gone back to the original (stupid) plan which was that his RSVPs would go to him and mine would go to me. That was my FIL's stupid idea that i hated from the start. I never would have opted to split RSVPs but after all this crap, i've learned that every time i try to do something nice, to try to help, it bites me in the @ss. So Then he starts scolding me like i'm five - in front of his entire extended family - that I'm very disrespectful. I told him to stop scolding me because he's not my father. he made a scene. then i turned to FH and told him that I wanted to leave NOW. He asked for me to give him a few minutes to speak to his dad. Fine. He comes back and tells me to go talk with his father. We go outside and his father starts up with something completely unrelated - I dismiss what he says and just ask what else can i do for him. Here's the convo:

Him: Why are you acting like this?

Me: B/c you and FMIL have made me miserable (they already knew this) planning this wedding and I don't want to deal with it anymore.

Him: Did it ever occur to you that maybe you're just a miserable person in general?

Me: Yes, of course I'm miserable. My mom is dead and I want her at my wedding. I miss her. Yes, I am miserable.

Him: People die. DEAL WITH IT.

FH & I left and said our goodbyes to the extended family. He didn't acknowledge his dad for the rest of the night.