I can't wait for all this to be over!!!!

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Posted by DNicholes

My sister told me to elope......I should've listened! lol

I totally hear ya......I went through this like 2 weeks ago and I just broke down and was like I don't want to plan this anymore.....can it just BE HERE already!!

I mean I know as soon as it's over I'll look back on this post and laugh.....but for now I'd like June 9 to be here already and all this planning and running around to be over!

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I couldn't have said it better...........

I think that I have been de-sensitized to everything now.......kind of in that BLAH mode.......

Can't wait for the beach!!!!!!

WoW Penny! I don't know what happened and I don't need to know specifics. I can just tell by your post that there are family members giving you a hard time. Here is a little advice. Smile, nod and say- that sounds like a good idea. I'll pass that by 'FH' and we will discuss it. It's never 'I' or 'ME' it's always an 'us' or a 'we'.

Now if your senario is a biatchy mother or FMIL - I still would try to compose myself. Whatever you do - don't let them see you get angry. 90% of the time that's what they want. It gives people satisfaction to know that they made someone upset. A little passive agressive? I would say so. But don't give in.

Ultimatums are another thing. I don't tolerate them. If someone gives me an ultimatum- for example- if you invite uncle jimmy then i'm staying home. I simply say, and am speaking from actually doing this, I am inviting uncle jimmy bc we want him at the wedding. We also want you there but if you choose not to go then that is your decision. No one is telling you not to come. You will be missed but that will ultimately be your choice. (Even though what you really want to say is - listen biatch! I have enough farkin stress without your bullsh!t. You want to go- go. You don't want to go- don't go. You'll save me money on the plate!) But nice girls don't say things like that.

Believe me when I tell you- keep calm and collective. Most people are just looking for a reaction so that they have an excuse to fight back. Don't give them one. It will piss them off even more.

And a couple of these never hurt!

I hear Penny!

I hope you feel better soon, Penny- we're all here for you

I think we all can say that we're anxious as well to just be married already.

hey lady - it'll get better. weddings bring out the best and worst in people, so don't let them get you down. now u know what people are truly about. take it from me, itll be november in no time - it seems like yesterday i was upset b/c we weren't engaged and i wnated to start that next chapter, now i have one day till im a bride and i dont know where any of the time went....evrything will be great for you and your man and you will finally be able to tell everyone where they have to go! heres some for the pain and for the joy and replace his head w/your annoying family members for some laughs

dont i f uking know the truth!! come on pen you cant let people like THAT ruin your day-

screw that they got a problem let them deal with it and just ignore them - thats what i have been doing

its called JEALOUSY and notice how the word LOUSY is in there

thats because lousy people are jealous1!!

(wow i just made that up- im giving myself a pat on the back that was good!!! )

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Posted by lilqtpie2181

thanks for all the advice and support girls. i guess ill justhave to tough it out for the next few months. I have decided tojuststart avoiding people so that i can have peace of mind.. hopefully it works

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I can't blame you, one night out of nowhere I called my phone company and changed my phone number. Honestly I got a lil more peace out of it.

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Posted by Future Mrs.

But I found that as time went by, it became less and less my wedding, and more and more the party for everyone else. My stepmother's family is half the guest list (I don't even know/care about them) and my step sister's children (who I don't even know) are my flower girls. (I didn't want flower girls), and slowly.......the wedding became one of everyone else. I too am resentful.
My best advice for you, since you still have plenty of time is to remember that this is YOUR WEDDING, and when people ask things of you.....you must stand your ground. Never underestimate the power of the word NO.
I wish I had used it more myself.

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I've had a very similar situation w/ children I don't know and now I'm at the point where I don't care! You'll get through this and even when you think your head might explode from the stress, it won't. We're here for you, and I'm with the person who changed her phone number. Brilliant idea!