I chose my Flower Girl/Ring Bearer outfits ...... and a POLL about who pays!

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Posted by snwb08

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Posted by NYCGirl2008

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Posted by Dee0522

The parents should pay... just like your BMs pay for their dresses. Unless you are choosing something unusually expensive... in that case, if it were me, I'd offer to chip in a little bit.

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My RB outfits were cheap except the ties are $50 each. Total of $100 for the RB total outfits: pants, blazer and tie. My sisters-in-law are paying for sure for that ... however the FG dresses are $160, is that too much to ask for some compensation? I don't know how to handle it as it's my FH's sister and they don't speak so often!!! Maybe we should just buy them?

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i paid for all and I had two of each also but it was my gift. I found a lot of ivory dresses at mygirldress and shopbriarpatch.com; all were about $60-$80. I think $160 is a lot... or is that for both dresses combined?

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Yeah it's definitely a lot, too bad as I already ordered them. But I can return just would lose my 15.00 shipping. I will look at those websites, thanks!!!!!!!!!

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Posted by missliss

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Posted by NYCGirl2008

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Posted by Dee0522

The parents should pay... just like your BMs pay for their dresses. Unless you are choosing something unusually expensive... in that case, if it were me, I'd offer to chip in a little bit.

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My RB outfits were cheap except the ties are $50 each. Total of $100 for the RB total outfits: pants, blazer and tie. My sisters-in-law are paying for sure for that ... however the FG dresses are $160, is that too much to ask for some compensation? I don't know how to handle it as it's my FH's sister and they don't speak so often!!! Maybe we should just buy them?

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IMO, I think that's too much to ask to the FG parents to pay. Especially if the mother isn't even on good terms with your FH. If you're def. set on that dress then I would say to pay for it yourself.

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Yeah, I think you are right. They are on good terms, just not close as she lives far away so don't speak often. In any case, we'll pay I think ... it's just another expense to add to the list *stress*

the parents paid for ours...but when i first had went to look at bm dresses i also looked at the FG dresses and they were about $150-200 and i thought that was a bit much to ask for the parents to pay especially for 1 day. A couple of girls on here recommended this one website that had FG dresses for less, its funny bc i actually liked those dresses better than what i had seen at RK bridal...i found one dress i loved and exactly what i was looking for, and the cost was $50...i also emailed the link to the mother first to see if she liked the dress. She was fine with the price and the dress.

Honestly, $160 is a bit much unless you think fh's sister would be 100% ok with that price. If it would've been discussed ahead of time and gave the go ahead then its no problem. Now its a bit hard to turn to her and say you ordered a dress and to give you the $160 for it. But since you said you can return it, how about sending her the site, dont say you bought it yet and ask her about what she is comfortable spending and which dresses she likes, and see her reaction. Also double check the size with her...Otherwise though i say just to take on the expense yourself

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Posted by Espo22

the parents paid for ours...but when i first had went to look at bm dresses i also looked at the FG dresses and they were about $150-200 and i thought that was a bit much to ask for the parents to pay especially for 1 day. A couple of girls on here recommended this one website that had FG dresses for less, its funny bc i actually liked those dresses better than what i had seen at RK bridal...i found one dress i loved and exactly what i was looking for, and the cost was $50...i also emailed the link to the mother first to see if she liked the dress. She was fine with the price and the dress.

Honestly, $160 is a bit much unless you think fh's sister would be 100% ok with that price. If it would've been discussed ahead of time and gave the go ahead then its no problem. Now its a bit hard to turn to her and say you ordered a dress and to give you the $160 for it. But since you said you can return it, how about sending her the site, dont say you bought it yet and ask her about what she is comfortable spending and which dresses she likes, and see her reaction. Also double check the size with her...Otherwise though i say just to take on the expense yourself

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Thanks for your feedback, I did get the sizes ahead of time. My sister thinks the price for the dress we are getting is reasonable. I think I will pay for them as you are right, the price might be a shock to the mom. Plus, these dresses are nice enough to be able to be used for other things, even could die them and use them for Easter. Anyways, thanks everyone for your feedback, much appreciated. I will wait til they arrive and make a final decision

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Posted by NYCGirl2008

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Posted by Espo22

the parents paid for ours...but when i first had went to look at bm dresses i also looked at the FG dresses and they were about $150-200 and i thought that was a bit much to ask for the parents to pay especially for 1 day. A couple of girls on here recommended this one website that had FG dresses for less, its funny bc i actually liked those dresses better than what i had seen at RK bridal...i found one dress i loved and exactly what i was looking for, and the cost was $50...i also emailed the link to the mother first to see if she liked the dress. She was fine with the price and the dress.

Honestly, $160 is a bit much unless you think fh's sister would be 100% ok with that price. If it would've been discussed ahead of time and gave the go ahead then its no problem. Now its a bit hard to turn to her and say you ordered a dress and to give you the $160 for it. But since you said you can return it, how about sending her the site, dont say you bought it yet and ask her about what she is comfortable spending and which dresses she likes, and see her reaction. Also double check the size with her...Otherwise though i say just to take on the expense yourself

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Thanks for your feedback, I did get the sizes ahead of time. My sister thinks the price for the dress we are getting is reasonable. I think I will pay for them as you are right, the price might be a shock to the mom. Plus, these dresses are nice enough to be able to be used for other things, even could die them and use them for Easter. Anyways, thanks everyone for your feedback, much appreciated. I will wait til they arrive and make a final decision

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or what about splitting the cost? this way you dont take on all of the expense for it

My aunt paid for my second cousin's FG dress. I bought the basket, hair ornaments, and tiara though, and I am giving her a lot of gifts