I don't want to.....

Original post by SuzBride

Aug 03, 2005 02:24 PM

change my last name

I know it means ALOT to FH though, so I will be changing it. Honestly though, I LOVE my last name and have grown quite attached to it in the last 24 years. I will be sad to see it go.

Anyone else?

Goldi1021 Posted: Aug 10, 2005 09:48 PM

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I have had my name a long time too. I have 2 sisters and a brother so the name will go on with my brother. However, I know that if I did not have a brother and my father were still with us, he would expect me to take the name of my husband. Knowing how traditional men tend to be with these things, I can't imagine that a father would feel any sense of betrayal if his daughter assumed the last name of her husband. Regardless of who I marry or how long I am married, I was born Leslie C and I will die Leslie C in my heart and that is enough for me.

BJandDan Posted: Aug 10, 2005 09:48 PM

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No problem changing my name to his.... my brothers have done a great job of passing the name along to 13 neices and nephews.... and a new one baking in the oven as we speak :)

BKtoLI Posted: Aug 10, 2005 10:10 PM

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My only hesitance about taking his last name is that right now including the preggo SIL, after I get married, the family name dies. My brothers have been nothing but girl producers!!!

But I know it means a lot for my FH to take his last name, and I like that my initials will become JJ, although I'm not crazy about the fact that my name will end up sounding like a porn star!!!

wendy1220 Posted: Aug 10, 2005 10:11 PM

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I have mixed feelings about it and I haven't come to a final decision yet. On one hand, I want to take his last name so when we start a family, we all have the same name. On the other hand, I want to hold onto my given last name as I too have had it quite a long time. It also is very Italian and I'm proud of my heritage. In the end it's going to be up to me since in FH's culture, it is not necessary for the woman to change her name and he won't be offended or upset if I don't.

beautyq115 Posted: Aug 10, 2005 10:12 PM

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I guess it will be sad in a way because its my indentity...but I will be so happy to get rid of my maiden name

andreascott Posted: Aug 10, 2005 10:14 PM

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I kinda understand... I am an opera singer and all the professors know me as my name now.... its gonna be hard to make them change... i might keep it for when i perform but legally change it

SIBride06 Posted: Aug 10, 2005 10:19 PM

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Not me.. I absolutely LOVE my last name. It actually goes nice with Janie.. eww. When I get married Im going to have a last name that noone can pronounce...or spell right and definately dont sound good with my first name. But being that Im marrying a very traditional Italian guy, he would get offended if I didn't take his last name. Needless to say, I have no choice. Changing my name is the only thing I actually DONT look forward to and prob the one thing I will cry about come my wedding day. Yes.. it bothers me that much!!

Kim51103 Posted: Aug 10, 2005 10:28 PM

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Looking forward to changing my name....It doesnt really fit...but what does?

cjb88 Posted: Aug 11, 2005 12:59 AM

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im having a hard time with it too... especially since my dad died and there arent too many of us with my last name anymore... plus im a teacher and i just dont want to be called by my mother in law's name all day!