i have an issue

julybride99 Posted: Sep 03, 2004 09:58 AM

i have an issue

first, let me say that i have two maid of honors and two best man

I just found out yesterday from my priest that only two people can sign the marriage lic. How do i tell them this. I really feel bad because both my maid of honors been great help. I think one will feel bad if they are not signing the lic.

What should I do

DebsNY Posted: Sep 03, 2004 10:00 AM

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I'm sure both will be honored that they were chosen as both of your Maids of Honor... Maybe pick the one you've known the longest? or is one a family member?

Maybe ask for both to be present, even though both can't sign.

Good luck :)

suven Posted: Sep 03, 2004 10:02 AM

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I also had 2 and 2. We got lucky because my officiant said that we had to have Catholics sign the certificate- and only 1 and 1 were Catholic.

If worse comes to worse, and you really can't decide, flip a coin.

If it's just a matter of telling them, try to split it up so that maybe one is doing something else special, like holding your bouquet during the vows.

Marisa&Brian Posted: Sep 03, 2004 10:04 AM

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You don't have a choice. -
Is one a family member ? Have you known one longer ?
I'd choose that way. - HOPEFULLY they will be understanding, mature adults about the situation. - and not make you feel worse than you already do. -
OR you can not make an issue of it at all until the last second.

My friend asked my 10 min before her ceremony to sign her ketubah....(did i spell that right)

julybride99 Posted: Sep 03, 2004 10:09 AM

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Well, both are family members and i don't know how to tell them. Both of them have played a great role in my life.

This is going to be very hard

tray831 Posted: Sep 03, 2004 10:10 AM

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At first I was going to have 2 MOH as well---but one was already a MOH to a friend of ours already so I was just going to have my other MOH sign the license and have the other one have other responsibilities, hold bouquet, etc.---but I dont know if that pertains to you, has one of them been a MOH to anyone other than you---if not, I wouldnt stress over it--if its a matter of picking and choosing who---maybe you can tell both of them--and maybe they will suggest to flip a coin or something......

Or does one of them have a sister -- that they will probably be a MOH to them in the future?? If so--that can make your decision too.....

Elaina Posted: Sep 03, 2004 10:10 AM

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I have the same issue (w/moh) what i did was one is the g-dmother ( ialready have a son) and the other signs the paper

mia72098 Posted: Sep 03, 2004 01:19 PM

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If you cant decide ...choose from a hat. That way they will both have an equal chance and noone can get hurt. Sounds stupid but if there is no other way to choose......

Maribelle7777 Posted: Sep 03, 2004 01:23 PM

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to be honest i don't think they'll be offended if you choose one over the other. if they are that's pretty petty.

prindia Posted: Sep 03, 2004 03:34 PM

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I don't think anyone should get uspet is u choose one over the other, Family is family and I think both of them will be happy to be a part of your day