regarding his bachlor party. I had told him AND his best man that I didnt care if they went to strip clubs but I dont not under any circumstances want strippers in his hotel room (AC). They both agreed. I get a call from John about a half hour ago and he tells me 'Dont flip out, but I just found out that BM hired 2 strippers for the room'
I sat here for about a minute while my face turned 3 shades of red and then let loose with some of the nastiest words I have ever said.
I told him (well yelled) that I am not mad at him but I'm PI$$ED at BM for not respecting my wishes even after HE promised me. FH is really mad at me now.
A little background on BM, loves to go to strip clubs weekly, will spend all of his money on lap dances and walk around broke, he has a girlfriend but leaves her to go to strip clubs, he told a story of how he went to a bachlor party for a friend of his and how he did all this nasty s#&t with the strippers and this was the basis for me asking him not to do this.
I called BM and told him he was an a$$hole for not respecting my wishes and for putting my FH in a prediciment that he shouldnt be in.
Am I wrong for going off like that? I mean girls in a club with bouncers all around are different, girls in a room.....pay them a little more and you get a whole lot more...according to BM's own words.
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Sta, you've got to be kidding, right????!! I can't believe that!! What a jerk! Just for that you have to invite her! And make sure she know what her beloved planned for YOUR man! Male strip clubs are pretty tame, but I've heard stories of when the male stripper comes to a hotel or house. Girls can be jsut as wild, and yes, in that setting you can usually get a guy to lose the cheek floss.....
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I'm actually on the phown with John right now, we are talking calmly. He knows that I'm mad and its not at him, he said that he spoke to a few others in the bridal party (whom are all married) and they had no idea that BM was doing this, so apparently these girls are all for BM pleasure. He is going to tell BM to cancel the strippers because A) he didnt want them in the first place B) I asked him not to do this.
He is telling me that I mean more to him than a stupid party and a bunch of $2 crack wh0r&s are not worth losing me over.
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im sorry but these bacehlor parties have really gotten out of hand. my DH told me what happened at one he went to in AC where strippers came to the room and it almost made me sick. to think this guy did what he did and then got married 2 weeks later. His wife would have ditched him for sure if she found out.
my DH opted not to have a bachelor party for this reason. the men/groomsmen really seem to put together this party for THEMSELVES as an excuse to party, JIMO. I hope this all straightens out for you. and DEF take the BMs GF to YOUR party, get her a front row seat!
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Stace.... don't worry about it honey. If you trust him, then you have no worries. I know that with Pete - he looks at them and all he sees is dirty women, nothing that he would ever associate with. The only thing that I may have a problem with on his bachelor party night is that they take him to Vegas or AC and he spends all his $ in the casinos!
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But I would beat the other guy's a$$!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
StayandJohn
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Love ya Lisa!!
Tracy, you hit the nail on the head exactly!!!!
That is how I feel 100%
goldilocks
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Yay!! I honestly feel such a sigh of relief for you. What a great guy. Love AND respect! If only it rubbed off on his BM!
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I am glad you guys are ok now. It was very wrong of the BM to break his promise and to put John in the middle of a situation that he knew would cause problems. It is after all his bachelor party!!
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Love U too diva!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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FI just went to a batchelor party for a friend this weekend. It was a house party and they invited strippers and he told me they go all the way a little extra (if anyone wants i'll FM the price list) totally gross. I know my FI hates strippers but still I told him strip club is ok, your boys pull of something else and you might not see them again
(Edited for spelling)
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Good! i'm happy for ya too.
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Maybe if BM would stop spending all his money on lap dances, he could get his girlfriend a ring and have his own bachlor party
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You have to draw the line somewhere. That was very rude of the BM not to respect your wishes. They need to cancel these women. You need to cancel that BM too How rude and disrespectful. You should apologize to your FI, but he needs to speak up to his BM that this is not something that he or you wants. What is up with men and strippers I am so darn happy that Roger hates that sort of a scene, b/c I do not know what kind of satisfaction they get. I guess to each his own.
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we were telling my dad the ground rules for the bach party, (club ok, hotel not ok) and i told him he had to go... LOL And my dad says 'Yeah, lets go see t*tties' LOLOLOL this is so out of character for my dad!! Hes a minister for goodness sakes... imagine the dad from 7th Heaven... thats my dad! LOL
(FH doesn't like strippers anyway!)
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Hi Shamma,
John made BM cancel the strippers
My honey is not into that scene, but for some reason the BM cannot live without strippers, like you said to each his own
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I guess it is all sorted out, good for you. That BM is very disrespectful, but what more can you expect from a man who spends all his salary on these types of things, you know where his priorities are. BM need a new circle of friends. He does not fit in with the rest of them, from reading what you wrote. Is he now the only single man left standing? Some of the things women put up with to have a man, not even a full man a piece of a man ...Lord help me.
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Tracy LMAO!!!!
Nooooo not the 7th Heaven DAD!!!!
LoL
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I think you have every right to be angry, especially considering your FH agreed to the original terms. I myself have placed the same restrictions on my FH Bachelor Party, and for the same reason....2 of the GM are strip club freaks!
I do have to say I trust my FH.... that's not why I made these requests, but I do not want him to be around this in the event that heaven forbid someone gets in trouble.
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you had a right to yell at the BM... thats wrong to go against you...sure you should be able to trust your fiance not to do anything with them, but the BM might force him into something, and better not to be put in that situation.!
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Stay...glad to hear that everything worked out. I can't believe his BM. What a complete a$$hole for disrespecting you...and your FH.
On a side note...the strippers 'going the extra mile' isn't only relegated to when they are invited to hotel rooms. There are stripclubs that have 'back rooms' for the sole purpose of 'going the extra mile' for extra $$$.
