I just got into an argument with FH :(

StayandJohn Posted: May 28, 2003 03:18 PM

I just got into an argument with FH :(

regarding his bachlor party. I had told him AND his best man that I didnt care if they went to strip clubs but I dont not under any circumstances want strippers in his hotel room (AC). They both agreed. I get a call from John about a half hour ago and he tells me 'Dont flip out, but I just found out that BM hired 2 strippers for the room'

I sat here for about a minute while my face turned 3 shades of red and then let loose with some of the nastiest words I have ever said.

I told him (well yelled) that I am not mad at him but I'm PI$$ED at BM for not respecting my wishes even after HE promised me. FH is really mad at me now.

A little background on BM, loves to go to strip clubs weekly, will spend all of his money on lap dances and walk around broke, he has a girlfriend but leaves her to go to strip clubs, he told a story of how he went to a bachlor party for a friend of his and how he did all this nasty s#&t with the strippers and this was the basis for me asking him not to do this.

I called BM and told him he was an a$$hole for not respecting my wishes and for putting my FH in a prediciment that he shouldnt be in.

Am I wrong for going off like that? I mean girls in a club with bouncers all around are different, girls in a room.....pay them a little more and you get a whole lot more...according to BM's own words.

MrsTC Posted: May 28, 2003 03:19 PM

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That was wrong of the best man, but you have to trust your FH that he won't do anything stupid.....MEN!!!

Edited to say: No I don't think you were wrong for yelling at the BM. What an a$$ for disrespecting your wishes!!! But your FH sounds like a good guy, telling you about it.

StayandJohn Posted: May 28, 2003 03:21 PM

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I do trust him, I mean he called and told me what was going on. I was kinda blaming the messenger and I was wrong

kelly6273 Posted: May 28, 2003 03:22 PM

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If your FH told you about this...then I wouldn't worry about a thing. If he was doing something wrong, he would probably hide it from you. The whole situation stinks but trust him!

WithThisRing Posted: May 28, 2003 03:24 PM

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yuck

what a horrible fight to get into...

Is your FI into strippers?? I wouldnt worry about him because I know my FI cant stand strippers (he worked as a bouncer in strip clubs, strippers mean nothing to him) so if he was in a room with 10 guys and 2 strippers and those guys want to get gross with the strippers its their business but he will have no part of it.

I dont think that is right that the best man promised you one thing then went behind your back. I do think it was nice your FH was open and honest with you about it.

I hope everything works out and try not to be mad at your FH. He didnt order the strippers and was being open and honest with you. If their is anyone to be mad at, be mad at the BM

nrvbrd Posted: May 28, 2003 03:27 PM

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The ladies are right- you are going to have to trust him. I will be going through this in the next few months.

You getting mad at him will only make things worse.

StayandJohn Posted: May 28, 2003 03:28 PM

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Chippa,

John isnt into strippers, he never goes to strip clubs unless its a bach party.

I know he would never do anything, but the idea of those nasty skanks and the things his best man told me he did with those two from another party,,,,ickkkk sent chills up my spine.

I am not mad at John in the least, I mean he could have hid it from me but he loves me enough to tell me. Its the bm who i want to kill!!

tracyg Posted: May 28, 2003 03:29 PM

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I have the same agreement with FH. And i told him that if ANY of his party brings him strippers to a hotel, they are OUT of the party!!! And he knows i'm dead serious and will stick to this. I don't think your FH has any reason to be mad at you!!! He should be mad at BM!!! thats uncalled for!
(i have very strong opinions about this too!!! stripclubs ok... strippers in private party..nuh uh!!!)

WithThisRing Posted: May 28, 2003 03:30 PM

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Those girls are very icky. FI had one that danced in a club he bounced in and she was just gross. Ick. I get grossed out just talking about her.

kick the best man in the shins and kick him really hard

StayandJohn Posted: May 28, 2003 03:31 PM

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LOL I may not stop kicking him.....

goldilocks Posted: May 28, 2003 03:31 PM

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I SO understand how you feel. I hate the whole stripper thing, but it's definitely worse in a hotel room. It's a fact. I agree with the other girls that it's a big step that he told you what was going on. Knowing how I feel about the whole topic, I think you let him off lightly, but I'm a little extreme with the stripper stuff. Hell hath no fury.....
I've heard that if you drop a little extra cash for male strippers they show a little extra flesh too... perhaps he needs to feel what you feel?

StayandJohn Posted: May 28, 2003 03:33 PM

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Goldilocs, how funny is this, the BM asked me not to bring his girlfriend (who will be coming to my bachlorette party) to see male strippers......

tracyg Posted: May 28, 2003 03:34 PM

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luckily i don't think our BM would do that... but one of the groomsmen might. And he'll be kicked out of the party if he pulls something like that!

tracyg Posted: May 28, 2003 03:35 PM

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what a hypocrite!

WithThisRing Posted: May 28, 2003 03:35 PM

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goldi: what else could the men flash. Have you been to a male strip club, they are practically naked and the little itty bitty string that they are wearing doesnt hold much in

Stay: I think you should tell the BM that you are paying for a bouncer If he wants strippers then he can have them but it will be treated as a strip club including having bouncers

StayandJohn Posted: May 28, 2003 03:36 PM

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LOL

OctBride05 Posted: May 28, 2003 03:39 PM

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i don't think you were wrong for yelling. i would be upset too, but the fact that your fh called and told you about it is a sign that he can be trusted. i think it was very wrong of the bm to go against your wishes to not have strippers in the room,like someone already said...kick him in the shins.

julybride444 Posted: May 28, 2003 03:40 PM

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Nope you're not wrong. Personally, I would have FH tell him to cancel it.

eroxgirl Posted: May 28, 2003 03:43 PM

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If it makes you feel any better, I have been told by men that *usually* the strippers that go to the hotel room bring a bouncer with them. I realize that isn't always the case but you can hope. And you should DEFINITELY bring BM's girlfriend to a strip club. At the very least, you shouldn't feel any obligation to obey his wishes, since he has no consideration for yours.

tracyg Posted: May 28, 2003 03:43 PM

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I don't think its a question of trusting your FH... id just be afraid that he gets into a situation that may be hard to get out of with all his buddies egging him on...
I would trust my FH to not do anything, but the fact that he can be put in a bad situation by his best friends would p1ss me off!