I just had a crazy thought...

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Posted by Mizzdimple

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Posted by yelley77

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Posted by Mizzdimple

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Posted by yelley77

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Posted by Mizzdimple

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LMAO

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FH's grandmother told FFIL what the heck is he waiting for GET HER PREGNANT ALREADY

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Old schoolers think we should be married and knocked-up by the time we are 20. My grammy and grampy said that I had to get pregnant asap after the wedding so that they can see great grankids before they die

I was like, you are young, you have plenty of time... we aren't rushing!

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Thats why we may RUSH it ., my parents are OLD. his grandmother is old., my grandfathers are sick, and I want them all in my un-born child's life for a bit.

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Ditto...life is too short...FH and I are doing fine financially and we're ready...i want to share my FB (future baby, haha) with my family...and my grandma is over 80...I will never get to see my father with my child....life is too short for us to wait.

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Posted by Future Mulligan

hahahaha......i have a question......i dont want anyone to take it the wrong way - but do some people get married just so they can have a baby? it seems like some people are in such a rush after they get married.....like do they think being married makes it 'okay' to have a kid.....if you want a baby that badly what's the big deal if you had before you were married? or what if you dont want one until 5 years after you were married??

but anyway - you are right i bet a lot of people might actually have a baby by the time i get married!! all of the 08ers will be married off by my date!

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i think you are forgetting though that some people are older. FH and I will be 29 when we get married. we dont want to wait until we are 35 or more to have children. And some people like to do things in what is considered 'the right way' marriage then baby.

Oh and the other thing FH and I think about is that we doing want to be in our 50s with a teenager.. we want kids but we also look at the future.. we want to also be able to enjoy our retirement and etc.. without little our own little kids to support.

That would be cool for the girls that will be. While some will still be wedding planning others will be planning a Baby Shower.

I definitely will not be one of the preggos but good luck to those that are!

hey you never know - my clock is tickin like crazy - but we're hoping to have a before a

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Posted by Future Mulligan

i understand - i just think that some people think its not right to have kids before marriage - which i dont agree with, so there are women who want a baby so bad that they'll marry anyone just so they can pop out a kid.....(can you tell that im talking about someone i know) so that doesnt make sense to me - b/c i rather have a child with someone i love and not be married, then settle with someone so i can have a kid b/c being married first is the so-called 'right' thing to do.....but thats b/c ive seen it done and i think its stupid.....jmo...i hope what i said makes sense lol

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everyone is different, Im more traditional, marriage then baby. I would love to have a baby right now, but i just dont think that it is right. I want to set a good example for my children, they should be aware that we waited until we were married to have children, too many young kids are having babies before they are old enough to drive, and get stuck raising the child on their own. Of ourse that doesnt mean that its going to stop children from doing it, i just think that our country needs to start setting good examples.

not me!!!!

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Posted by Future Mulligan

i understand - i just think that some people think its not right to have kids before marriage - which i dont agree with, so there are women who want a baby so bad that they'll marry anyone just so they can pop out a kid.....(can you tell that im talking about someone i know) so that doesnt make sense to me - b/c i rather have a child with someone i love and not be married, then settle with someone so i can have a kid b/c being married first is the so-called 'right' thing to do.....but thats b/c ive seen it done and i think its stupid.....jmo...i hope what i said makes sense lol

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i understand what you are saying i have a friend who got pregnant and her bf at the time asked him to marry her because she was pregnant and she told him she is having a kid at 18 she is not going to be married at 18 as well and then divorce a year later nad on her own with her child. she wanted him to prove to her he can handle the responsibilites of a father rather than a husband to someone you might not have even married. i think she did the best thing for her...she didnt think she needed to be married ot have hte child and although they didnt end up together he is a wonderful father and she is dating a guy who loves her and prob get engaged soon. even though her bf isnt the father of her son he loves him and takes as great care of him as his real father does! so good for her...but then i know someone who wanted a baby soo bad but forced her bf (dirtbag) to get married so she could get knocked upright away and she did she was 5 months preggo when she got married!!

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Posted by jgl

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Posted by Future Mulligan

i understand - i just think that some people think its not right to have kids before marriage - which i dont agree with, so there are women who want a baby so bad that they'll marry anyone just so they can pop out a kid.....(can you tell that im talking about someone i know) so that doesnt make sense to me - b/c i rather have a child with someone i love and not be married, then settle with someone so i can have a kid b/c being married first is the so-called 'right' thing to do.....but thats b/c ive seen it done and i think its stupid.....jmo...i hope what i said makes sense lol

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everyone is different, Im more traditional, marriage then baby. I would love to have a baby right now, but i just dont think that it is right. I want to set a good example for my children, they should be aware that we waited until we were married to have children, too many young kids are having babies before they are old enough to drive, and get stuck raising the child on their own. Of ourse that doesnt mean that its going to stop children from doing it, i just think that our country needs to start setting good examples.

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yeah i agree...although my friend did what was right for her in her situation i know i want to be married hwen i have children and set that example since i see so many girls younger than me already witha 2 yr old you know. but if fh and i did get pregnant now it would be a shock since he isnt home jk but it would be but we wouldnt think twice about rushing our wedding etc. we would have hte child and get married when we planned on it but explain to our child later in life that we did love each other and it wasnt just having sex at 16 and not protectin ourselves etc like sooo many people. and sometimes i feel like it is a fad that HS girls go through- like oh i am pregnant i am going to keep this baby (their parents end up taking care of the child themseleves not the kids) and then they think its like having a doll dress it up and stuff NO YOU HAVE RESPONSIBILITIES NOW!!!

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Posted by futuremrsmultari

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Posted by Mizzdimple

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Posted by yelley77

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Posted by Mizzdimple

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Posted by yelley77

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Posted by Mizzdimple

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LMAO

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FH's grandmother told FFIL what the heck is he waiting for GET HER PREGNANT ALREADY

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Old schoolers think we should be married and knocked-up by the time we are 20. My grammy and grampy said that I had to get pregnant asap after the wedding so that they can see great grankids before they die

I was like, you are young, you have plenty of time... we aren't rushing!

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Thats why we may RUSH it ., my parents are OLD. his grandmother is old., my grandfathers are sick, and I want them all in my un-born child's life for a bit.

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Ditto...life is too short...FH and I are doing fine financially and we're ready...i want to share my FB (future baby, haha) with my family...and my grandma is over 80...I will never get to see my father with my child....life is too short for us to wait.

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He will still be there......... but YES life is too short...I wish I had met my mother's grandmother...I heard see was a beautiful person.

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Posted by cbcf

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Posted by jgl

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Posted by Future Mulligan

i understand - i just think that some people think its not right to have kids before marriage - which i dont agree with, so there are women who want a baby so bad that they'll marry anyone just so they can pop out a kid.....(can you tell that im talking about someone i know) so that doesnt make sense to me - b/c i rather have a child with someone i love and not be married, then settle with someone so i can have a kid b/c being married first is the so-called 'right' thing to do.....but thats b/c ive seen it done and i think its stupid.....jmo...i hope what i said makes sense lol

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everyone is different, Im more traditional, marriage then baby. I would love to have a baby right now, but i just dont think that it is right. I want to set a good example for my children, they should be aware that we waited until we were married to have children, too many young kids are having babies before they are old enough to drive, and get stuck raising the child on their own. Of ourse that doesnt mean that its going to stop children from doing it, i just think that our country needs to start setting good examples.

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yeah i agree...although my friend did what was right for her in her situation i know i want to be married hwen i have children and set that example since i see so many girls younger than me already witha 2 yr old you know. but if fh and i did get pregnant now it would be a shock since he isnt home jk but it would be but we wouldnt think twice about rushing our wedding etc. we would have hte child and get married when we planned on it but explain to our child later in life that we did love each other and it wasnt just having sex at 16 and not protectin ourselves etc like sooo many people. and sometimes i feel like it is a fad that HS girls go through- like oh i am pregnant i am going to keep this baby (their parents end up taking care of the child themseleves not the kids) and then they think its like having a doll dress it up and stuff NO YOU HAVE RESPONSIBILITIES NOW!!!

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Yeah, i mean dont get me wrong if we did get preggo now, i would still be happy, because Fh and I do want children and we would prob rush the wedding, but I hope that doesnt happen because i want to do things 'the right way' for us.

What also makes me sad are these young children having babies - like your friend then getting married to another man. I know it happens.. im not knocking anyone, i just feel bad for the children because no matter how good that other guy is to those children, they still arent their father - and that is a big deal! I know that FH has an awesome step father, and his father wasnt involved much in his life. and no matter how good his step dad is to him, he regrets not having his dad around and HIS dad doind dad things with him. And even having their real dad around - they still arent lioving with them like they would if that couple was married.. they are getting bounced back and forth - and thats a lot of stress for a kid. As a teacher i see that all the time!!

FMIL says she wants to be a young grandmother and wants us to have kids right away. I told her to keep dreaming

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Posted by Future Mulligan

so many people get divorced these days that i really dont think it matters if you are married or not - is it worse for your parents not to be married in the first place or to watch them go through a divorce? either way i am sure it suxs......you can be married and your child could still have a bad father.....i've seen a lot of that too....just because your father lives in the same house doesnt mea he gives a crap about you - which is terrible, but i mean it happens - and i think that rejection must be even worse than if say you never met your dad....but i dont know, i have both my parents so i really cant say anything about it i can only imagine how it must feel - but i've seen friends and ex's who have had bad situations at home.....i didnt want to start a debate or make it heated topic, having a baby is wonderful! and even though i want to wait until we are ready to make that change in our lives i still look foward to it - i just wanted to see what other people thought thats all - b/c some people dont take marriage seriously either - and think that just b/c they are married means its ok to start having kids even though they arent mentally or financially ready....

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I'm not argueing with you, please dont think i am, im just showing the other point of view. i think that everyone as different views on it. and what you are saying is correct as well. i agree that just because you are married doesnt mean that you are ready to have a child. But i think setting a good example for our children helps them to realize that.. to realize a progression in life to make sure that there is stability in your life before you bring a child into the world. Growing up, dating, planning a wedding, living somewhere other than home, job security, then then baby... its about being prepared.. too many young children arent.

Obviously that might not pretain to many people on here who are already older, actually not to many of us im thinking of teenagers.

and you are right as well, a divorce can be just as bad of a situation the reality is that 50% of marriages will end in divorce, prob 50% of us here on the 08 board will be divorced.. thats sad! but 50% wont, its just my opinion being married before hand, helps you realize that you are growing up and now have some serious responsibilites.

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Posted by Future Mulligan

so many people get divorced these days that i really dont think it matters if you are married or not - is it worse for your parents not to be married in the first place or to watch them go through a divorce? either way i am sure it suxs......you can be married and your child could still have a bad father.....i've seen a lot of that too....just because your father lives in the same house doesnt mea he gives a crap about you - which is terrible, but i mean it happens - and i think that rejection must be even worse than if say you never met your dad....but i dont know, i have both my parents so i really cant say anything about it i can only imagine how it must feel - but i've seen friends and ex's who have had bad situations at home.....i didnt want to start a debate or make it heated topic, having a baby is wonderful! and even though i want to wait until we are ready to make that change in our lives i still look foward to it - i just wanted to see what other people thought thats all - b/c some people dont take marriage seriously either - and think that just b/c they are married means its ok to start having kids even though they arent mentally or financially ready....

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i DO see your point - being married doesnt mean that you are automatically qualified to start having kids

for FH and I - and ONLY for us, with NO judgements on anyone else. . .we are Catholic and have very traditional ( traditional meaning old fashioned ) moral values and we would never have a child before we were married - for US we believe that is the best situation for a child - to be produced from a loving union, of husband and wife . . . there was never another option for us.

AND with that being said - we are totally waiting a few years so even though I am a January bride, most likely even the December 08 brides will be beating me in THAT department LOL

and you have a very different POV than i thought you would, Father Mulligan