I cannot begin to express how much all of your kind words and advice mean to me. I know my emotions (with the crying and all) were a little irrational (when I walked out my DH thought I got diagnosed with cancer) but I've been with DH since 98, and we've wanted a baby since day 1, so this is very hard for me.
I loved my OB/GYN last year (which was the first year I saw her) because she spent the time to discuss a lot of issues with me, which many of my past doctors had not. She actually studied under a RE too, which was a definite plus for me. I know I was taking everything she was saying way too emotionally bc of my frame of mind, but in the same respect, I didn't feel I should have had to keep explaining myself. I felt as though she didn't know enough about me or my history to be telling me that I'm ok. I feel as though she should have asked more questions rathar than having me say, 'but' all the time. (like, 'but my pds are irregular, but you should ck my bloodwork, but my family hisory, etc.'
I feel she was great in that she was willing to do WHATEVER I wanted, and definitely gave me the idea that she knew that I knew what I was talking about. (like she said, 'I'm sure through all of your research you learned about ...' She was willing to take as drastic of a measure as I was willing to take, but I think the reason she was being 'lax' about it is because I never had an irregular pap or an STD, I've tested 'positive' on the OPKs which means I HAVE ovulated before (doesn't necessarily mean I am every month but whatever), and she said MOST times the problem lies with the men, and it's such an unobtrusive test for them, that it's not worth going through a series of obtrusive tests until you get the semen analysis results. She told me that she knows it's frustrating, but given my history (what little she knows) she doesn't think there's much to worry about, unless there's a prob with my DH's semen. She also said she'd take it from there once the results are in and do further testing (blood and such) at THAT point. So she IS willing, and she WAS being friendly -- I just felt like I wanted her to do something and I felt like I shouldn't have had to ask for it, or made to feel embarrassed for wanting to have it done.
With all of that said, I will likely change docs not only bc of this, but bc it's a hike to get to her now that I've moved anyway, and this is not the only time she's upset me. The last time I got examined by her (last year), I was in so much pain after the exam that I was literally rolled up in a ball on my LR floor rocking back and forth in tears for like 8 hours! I told her during the exam that I experienced pain, and she said that it was normal. I literally almost fainted.
In a sick kind of way, I almost HOPE there's something wrong with me, so they can just FIX it.
So ... my next questions are ....
1. Can you pls recommend another OB/GYN in the Nesconset/Smithtown/Stony Brook area?
2. Can you pls recommend a RE in this area? I have two that I'll prob use, but other recs are welcome.
3. Can someone PLEASE tell me where to go for teh semen analysis, TSH, and HSG in this area? I asked at the office in Oakdale but they were clueless.
Sorry so long ,and TIA for more advice/recs! I love you guys!
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