I just need to get this out....

Ok, so FH comes home today (he was away on business) and tells me that he was talking to guys in his BP and they're going to Miami for his bachelor party for a long weekend.

I would LOVE to do something like this. I'd love to go to Miami or Vegas or even Atlantic City. But even though I love the idea I could never tell/ask that of my girls because they don't have any money to do it...and only a few girls would be able to swing it. Our plan is to go out in NYC (I think?) for dinner and then go our partying.

His friends on the other hand all work on wall street and have money to burn. I really can't help but feel jealous about the whole thing. I know the most important part is to have your friends with you and celebrate - but I guess now that I see him doing something AWESOME and amazing I'm upset that I won't have the same experience. Don't get me wrong, I'll have a great time with my girls. I'm ecstatic about having them all in the same place at the same time!! But I'm definitely jealous.



Wow - I feel like such a selfish beyotch.

Your not a selfish Beyotch at all bonnie.

I know how you feel. I think FH and his friends are going away for a few days and I am doing something similar to you because my girls can't go away either.

I am a little jealous too -- so your not the only one!

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Posted by snwb08

maybe you can just throw the idea out to your friends to feel them out? i did, and they were all psyched to go to PR... so maybe just ask

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You know...if I did they would all smile, say 'sure!' and plan a trip for it.

But I KNOW them and I KNOW that they'd just want to make me happy, put it on a credit card and go into debt for just one weekend. With flight hotel, drinks, bars, etc its a lot to ask my girlfriends. I couldn't.

Anne, gina, and gina!

Thanks so much for your comments. You're all right.

I know I'll have a great time doing whatever they're planning!! But what I wouldn't give to have all of my best friends together on a beach somewhere!!

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Posted by beachbum05

Ok, so FH comes home today (he was away on business) and tells me that he was talking to guys in his BP and they're going to Miami for his bachelor party for a long weekend.

I would LOVE to do something like this. I'd love to go to Miami or Vegas or even Atlantic City. But even though I love the idea I could never tell/ask that of my girls because they don't have any money to do it...and only a few girls would be able to swing it. Our plan is to go out in NYC (I think?) for dinner and then go our partying.

His friends on the other hand all work on wall street and have money to burn. I really can't help but feel jealous about the whole thing. I know the most important part is to have your friends with you and celebrate - but I guess now that I see him doing something AWESOME and amazing I'm upset that I won't have the same experience. Don't get me wrong, I'll have a great time with my girls. I'm ecstatic about having them all in the same place at the same time!! But I'm definitely jealous.



Wow - I feel like such a selfish beyotch.

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TRUST ME i know exactly how you feel. FH's friends love throwing around money and the guy planning his bachelor party owns 2 stores and does well for himself. So they are the ones who even said oh were taking you to vegas.

I am paying for the suite in vegas bc for one its my fault for waiting so long to plan this and cant spring this on the girls a few short months before. My MOH just moved to a new place another bm is the MOH in a wedding the week before mine, another one is getting married in 08 and so on, so they're in different situations. I decided to do this bc for one its what i really want, and 2 it doesnt help that fh is going away to his.

Don't feel bad for feeling this way. Plus going to NYC is going away for you in a way so youll have an amazing time too

its natural to be jealous that FH is having a 'destination' bachelor party. My FH is having 2 one in the bahamas and one in NYC...lucky dog! Maybe if you do something local but out of the ordinary it might make up for it a bit...

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Posted by zoe282

Personally I think that whatever fun the guys are going to have in Miami you are going to have in NYC! I am in the same situation. My FH is going to Vegas and all his friends are super excited. I am planning a trip into NYC cause i don't want my girls to spend a lot of money. I don't think it's fair. and to be honest.....we live in one of the best cities in the country! The only difference is that the guys will have to fly to get where they are going. NYC has better restaurants, better clubs and is so so so close! I went to a bachelorette party in AC...spent 2 nights and a lot of money and had to drive 3 hours home...and all i could think of is how i could've done everything with did in NYC. You will have a blast! don't think cause they are 'going away' that theirs will be better. you will have an awsome time, and even more so cause your girls will feel better about not spending a fotune to do so!

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That made me feel a lot better - thank you

All of you really have made me a ton better. And I didn't realize how many of you were in similar situations!!!

Hey, I guess the whole planning thing, and dress shopping, and shower is 'our' fun part of the wedding. I guess they deserve this one small tradition.

FM slut!

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Posted by beachbum05

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Posted by zoe282

Personally I think that whatever fun the guys are going to have in Miami you are going to have in NYC! I am in the same situation. My FH is going to Vegas and all his friends are super excited. I am planning a trip into NYC cause i don't want my girls to spend a lot of money. I don't think it's fair. and to be honest.....we live in one of the best cities in the country! The only difference is that the guys will have to fly to get where they are going. NYC has better restaurants, better clubs and is so so so close! I went to a bachelorette party in AC...spent 2 nights and a lot of money and had to drive 3 hours home...and all i could think of is how i could've done everything with did in NYC. You will have a blast! don't think cause they are 'going away' that theirs will be better. you will have an awsome time, and even more so cause your girls will feel better about not spending a fotune to do so!

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That made me feel a lot better - thank you

All of you really have made me a ton better. And I didn't realize how many of you were in similar situations!!!

Hey, I guess the whole planning thing, and dress shopping, and shower is 'our' fun part of the wedding. I guess they deserve this one small tradition.

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If the shower, dress shopping is our fun I want to be a guy!

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Posted by anneandchris

If the shower, dress shopping is our fun I want to be a guy!

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You make such a good point.

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Posted by anneandchris

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Posted by beachbum05

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Posted by zoe282

Personally I think that whatever fun the guys are going to have in Miami you are going to have in NYC! I am in the same situation. My FH is going to Vegas and all his friends are super excited. I am planning a trip into NYC cause i don't want my girls to spend a lot of money. I don't think it's fair. and to be honest.....we live in one of the best cities in the country! The only difference is that the guys will have to fly to get where they are going. NYC has better restaurants, better clubs and is so so so close! I went to a bachelorette party in AC...spent 2 nights and a lot of money and had to drive 3 hours home...and all i could think of is how i could've done everything with did in NYC. You will have a blast! don't think cause they are 'going away' that theirs will be better. you will have an awsome time, and even more so cause your girls will feel better about not spending a fotune to do so!

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That made me feel a lot better - thank you

All of you really have made me a ton better. And I didn't realize how many of you were in similar situations!!!

Hey, I guess the whole planning thing, and dress shopping, and shower is 'our' fun part of the wedding. I guess they deserve this one small tradition.

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If the shower, dress shopping is our fun I want to be a guy!

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that is too funny but true hahaha...yeah they get to sit back during all the planning, we are the ones who stress ourselves out and do all the work and they get to go away and have fun

well this is how i figured it all out. Since i am going about 3 weeks before the wedding i am putting the suite on a CC. To book it i need to leave a $500 deposit, bc fh is staying at the same hotel so luckily i just get the info from him. But after that, you can check out of the rooms by giving your CC and then when the bill comes a month later you pay, well a month later we will already be married so ill use money from the wedding to pay off the suite. But the price FH just got was real good so i am very surprised and coming out to alot less than i thought. Just an idea bc otherwise it would be hard for me to pay off the whole thing now.

i know same situation when i paid for fh to go to vegas with his friends last year. I bought the flight and then his friends said that theyre using the cc for check out and when the bill comes they'll let me know. They contacted me about a month after they came back when the bill came.