I just want to throw myself in oncoming traffic!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Posted by LaBellaVita622

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Posted by rendel

So tonight I was showing my mom the invite samples and I told her that Fh wants his parents name on them. She then says in a snappy voice then I will give his father back the $2,000 that they gave us and we can have only our names on it!!!!!!!!!!!!! I feel awful now!!!!!!!!!

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his parents aren't even contributing and I showed FSIL and she said 'oh good thing you put my parent's names on it too..my mom would hav ehad something to say about that..'..like what?? My parents are paying for the hall?? what are yours doing?? NOTHING! not even an engagement gift and it has been a year and a half!..sorry for the vent lol can I throw myself into the on coming traffic with you?? lol..I dunno I'm jsut doing both ti keep the peace but they shouldn't even be on it!!! If FH's family is contributing I would say they should in your case...or you can just do your names and 'together with their families'..but I felt bad to do that since our parents are helping..I don't know what the right thing to do is..

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I am in the same boat. My parents are paying for a lot of things and FH's family are paying for nothing (we'll be lucky to get a gift...lol)

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Posted by KN2011

Im in a weird situation too.. both our parents are giving us money.. However.. my father is deceased for 11 years.. My mom INSISTS my dads name has to be on it... HOw hte heIl do I do that?? HE obv cant request anyones presence.. hes not alive..

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FH father passed away just before we got engaged.
Our invites have my parents hosting, and under his name we have son of mrs. so and so and the late mr. so and so.
My parents arent paying for the wedding but we agreed that we liked this wording. Both sides are contributing where they can. My parents paid for my dress, and dj. FMIL paid for my veil, and ummm some 'promises' of more things, but we'll see. wording gets tricky, but we tried to please everyone.

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Posted by GlitterBox24

i wish anyone was paying for my wedding...

our parents are giving us a big fat $0...

so the invitation is just coming from FH and I!!!!

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SAME HERE!!! I wish I had these issues!

To avoid any hurt feelings, we put 'Together with their families...'

Maybe that would work for you?

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Posted by ElovesJ117

That is a hard situation. FH and I are paying for the wedding ourselves but we are still putting both of our parents names on the invite. I feel that it is just respectful and nice to do. What do you want to do?

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Honestly I know it is not alot of money, but they did give something. I think his Mom doesn't deserve to have her name on the invites cause she has been nothing but a beast, saying horrible things about me and FH !!! Then I say that isn't practical, as I worry about FH's feelings and I know it is what he wants!!! I like the idea about my parents hosting and then son of , that might really work!!! Or I say our names and together with their parents. God I want this wedding over with!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Posted by rendel

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Posted by LaBellaVita622

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Posted by rendel

So tonight I was showing my mom the invite samples and I told her that Fh wants his parents name on them. She then says in a snappy voice then I will give his father back the $2,000 that they gave us and we can have only our names on it!!!!!!!!!!!!! I feel awful now!!!!!!!!!

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his parents aren't even contributing and I showed FSIL and she said 'oh good thing you put my parent's names on it too..my mom would hav ehad something to say about that..'..like what?? My parents are paying for the hall?? what are yours doing?? NOTHING! not even an engagement gift and it has been a year and a half!..sorry for the vent lol can I throw myself into the on coming traffic with you?? lol..I dunno I'm jsut doing both ti keep the peace but they shouldn't even be on it!!! If FH's family is contributing I would say they should in your case...or you can just do your names and 'together with their families'..but I felt bad to do that since our parents are helping..I don't know what the right thing to do is..

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I feel bad putting our names and parents, only cause my mom and dad have done alot to make this day wonderful for us!!!!!

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ITA that's why I'm just gonna suck it up and put both sets..even though his should get credit but whatev..

SORRY!!

My parents aren't giving ANYTHING! FH's dad offered to pay for the honeymoon at least. I told my Mom i wasn't putting my parents names on the invite cuz they're not giving us anything. (Not that i'm putting FH's either). But she got a little upset. I was thinking about putting just FH & My name and say 'With our Families'

Maybe you can put something similar to recognize each sides contribution?

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Posted by GlitterBox24

i wish anyone was paying for my wedding...

our parents are giving us a big fat $0...

so the invitation is just coming from FH and I!!!!

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yeah us too!!!!

My FH father passed away before we got enagaged as well. My parents are divorced, my father is remarried, my mother has a longterm BF.

No one is contributing.

We are not including anyone on the invites.


We are planning on honoring his father with a memorial at the ceremony.

OMG..we had an issue like this too!!!! So stressful.

OMG, I didn't even think about the wording on the invites. My parents are paying for the entire wedding and FH family has offered to contribute NOTHING! I guess that solves my problem, lol

Mr. & Mrs. (Brides parents)
requestion the honour of your presence at the wedding of their daughter

(you, Bride)

to

(FH)
son of (FMIL and FFIL)


Your parents are shown as hosting but his parents names are still on the invite.

Or just do 'together with their families' and don't have anyone's name on it.

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Posted by MrsReyes2011

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Posted by KN2011

Im in a weird situation too.. both our parents are giving us money.. However.. my father is deceased for 11 years.. My mom INSISTS my dads name has to be on it... HOw hte heIl do I do that?? HE obv cant request anyones presence.. hes not alive..

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FH father passed away just before we got engaged.
Our invites have my parents hosting, and under his name we have son of mrs. so and so and the late mr. so and so.
My parents arent paying for the wedding but we agreed that we liked this wording. Both sides are contributing where they can. My parents paid for my dress, and dj. FMIL paid for my veil, and ummm some 'promises' of more things, but we'll see. wording gets tricky, but we tried to please everyone.

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'Together with their families'

and then but daughter of Ms. x and the late Mr. x

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Posted by JennylovesStephen

hi parents are giving us 10k I think but my parents are paying like 30-40k So I guess I am going to put his parents names on it too

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I'm in the exact same boat and really don't feel like it's fair to my parents. I'm not sure how to word it

normally, even if either set of parents don't contribute, you can still put their names on there and still make it sound like you and your FH are paying for the wedding.

Example:
Jane Doe
daughter of Mr. & Mrs. John Doe

and

John Smith
son of Mr & Mrs. John Smith

require the honor of your presence....

i am doing the same thing above because neither of our parents is giving us anything, but we would like their names on the invite. either way, we plan on showing them the invites before we order them to avoid any problems, even though both sets of parents have been drama free so far and have told us since we are paying we can do anything we want.

but wait, does your FH's parents ONLY want their names on it, or in addition to your parents names on it?
I was engaged once before and my ex Fh parents were legit psycho and only wanted their names on there. one of the many reasons we broke up. i would never disrespect my parents like that