I know i'm being terrible...

i say if oyu have the money to spend it spend ... i wish i could pend whatever i want on my wedding ... i wish my parents would pay for it or at least the RH ... but thier not me and FH are paying for it all ... and i am working my asssss off to have my wedding (i work 2 jobs)... he wants a house instwad but he knows i really want it so hes giving me what i want ... and yes ill admit i guess jealous sometimes when i read what people get and that thier parents are paying for these things ...but you know what good for them .. when i start to feel that way i tend just to stop doing wedding things that day ... so all and all i say if people choose to spend money on lavish things good for them cause if i could i would

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Posted by Teamhurldon

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Posted by ant n tilde

yeah i dont think Gina mean like regular stuff like paying for a DJ or something like that

I think she meant more like the whole 'Platinum Weddings' vibe like spending $50K on a certain kind of exotic lily that only grows out of the armpits of Himalayan donkeys. . . for example.

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Too funny. I agree with alot of comments on here, to each their own, but it does suck and I've seen it when people without a lot of money mention going a cheaper route and you get posts like... 'you get what you pay for'...

For awhile I had to distance myself from here, lol because I was panicking because I thought I needed things I've never heard of like petal cones, oot bags, monogrammed this and that, 3,000 gowns, swarovski crystals...yadda it got so overwhelming and I found myself stressing that my low budget wedding was gonna be horrible and so inadequate to what alot of others are planning and able to do...

BUT then snapped back to reality and got back oncourse with the basics and I'm cool. FH said he never wanted a wedding while we were dating, so I guess I'm fortunate that he's going for this at all and we are even having that day that wont be in a courthouse, and yes I would have done it because I love him that much ;)

but will admitt it was very hard at first to read what so many have... Thats not a judgment statement I'm very happy that people are fortunate enough to have those means, hell I wish I did...

I think for the most part everyone here is very understanding and helpful! I've gotten alot of advice on these boards, and I for one LOVE that people share and have their own opinions, I think if we werent honest when people ask questions, we're not really being all that helpful. Unfortunately though the wonderful internet has created a world of fake... but ofcourse none of us are

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I love this!! starting from Ant..

First off I don't take any offense to this post...I am having what i can afford at my wedding- and yes FBILs wedding was like almost doubled what FH and I are spending on ours---but theirs was just as special as ours will be...I can just take it into consideration that I want to buy a house shortly after and not live pay check by pay check for 5 yrs after I am married because I wanted a house and an 85,000$ wedding like they did...but hey they are happy- not judging


But this always makes me think of that show 'Daddys Spoiled Little Girl' - ever see it on WE late at nights lol I am a loser I know haha

But there are these like 30yr girls living off of their daddys money and getting a new 80.000$ mercedes and ughh it pisses me off watching it cause they are old enough to have a job or know how to actually apply for a job and they instead just say they arent spoiled their parents just love them-UM when you are living in your house being paid by daddy with the car sitting in ur driveway costing more than 30 thousand $ and you want another one and you can go to a dinner that will cost you 2 thousand $ and that means nothing to you- UGHHH I am jealous that they have that money but I am happy that I know the value of $ and of holding a job and living on my own and paying my own $ it ***** sometimes but it feels good knowing what i was able to accomplish!!! And when I think of this post and how people have daddy paying for everything- AND I DONT MEAN PEOPLE ON THIS WEBSITE!! I mean like from Bridezilla or Platinum Weddings it gets my panties roughed up because come on now are you marrying the man of your dreams-your soulmate or are you worried about who will wonder how much $ you spent on the centerpieces or the hall or which famous singer can perform at your wedding hahahaha

those girls definitely lose sight of what a marriage and a wedding is really about!!!

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Posted by cbcf

First off I don't take any offense to this post...I am having what i can afford at my wedding- and yes FBILs wedding was like almost doubled what FH and I are spending on ours---but theirs was just as special as ours will be...I can just take it into consideration that I want to buy a house shortly after and not live pay check by pay check for 5 yrs after I am married because I wanted a house and an 85,000$ wedding like they did...but hey they are happy- not judging


But this always makes me think of that show 'Daddys Spoiled Little Girl' - ever see it on WE late at nights lol I am a loser I know haha

But there are these like 30yr girls living off of their daddys money and getting a new 80.000$ mercedes and ughh it pisses me off watching it cause they are old enough to have a job or know how to actually apply for a job and they instead just say they arent spoiled their parents just love them-UM when you are living in your house being paid by daddy with the car sitting in ur driveway costing more than 30 thousand $ and you want another one and you can go to a dinner that will cost you 2 thousand $ and that means nothing to you- UGHHH I am jealous that they have that money but I am happy that I know the value of $ and of holding a job and living on my own and paying my own $ it ***** sometimes but it feels good knowing what i was able to accomplish!!! And when I think of this post and how people have daddy paying for everything- AND I DONT MEAN PEOPLE ON THIS WEBSITE!! I mean like from Bridezilla or Platinum Weddings it gets my panties roughed up because come on now are you marrying the man of your dreams-your soulmate or are you worried about who will wonder how much $ you spent on the centerpieces or the hall or which famous singer can perform at your wedding hahahaha

those girls definitely lose sight of what a marriage and a wedding is really about!!!

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well, i dont think its fair to say that they lose sight of what marriage and a wedding is about
when you are brought up in a way and you are used to living a certain way and that is all you know- then its normal - as abnormal as it is to most of us - it their daily way of life
but it doesnt devalue their love or affection for each other - they are just people that are used to getting whatever they want

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Posted by Espo22

i blame the parents for that...Same thing when i see super sweet 16...People get mad that the girl will cry for a benz, yeah of course she'll cry bc she knows it will get her own and yeah she'll act like a brat when all her life shes gotten everything shes ever wanted. Its the parents who give in and do anything for their kids no matter how outlandish it is. They let their kids walk all over them and act like brats. That is not the kids fault, they were brought up like that

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ohh i totally agree with you. it is definitely the parents= and yes the kids had to learn it from somewhere and it is probably because they were given anything and everything they ever wanted when they were younger

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Posted by Espo22

i blame the parents for that...Same thing when i see super sweet 16...People get mad that the girl will cry for a benz, yeah of course she'll cry bc she knows it will get her own and yeah she'll act like a brat when all her life shes gotten everything shes ever wanted. Its the parents who give in and do anything for their kids no matter how outlandish it is. They let their kids walk all over them and act like brats. That is not the kids fault, they were brought up like that

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exactly and those kids become young adults and grown men and women that behave the same way

Okay so I was right, outlandish bridezilla, platinum weddings, sweet 16 stuff.

So, I'm glad it was all cleared up. I agree with everyone. Splurge on what you think is importanta.
For us:
MUSIC
PHOTOS
RH

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Posted by caligirlinnyc9

Okay so I was right, outlandish bridezilla, platinum weddings, sweet 16 stuff.

So, I'm glad it was all cleared up. I agree with everyone. Splurge on what you think is importanta.
For us:
MUSIC
PHOTOS
RH

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those are the things we are willing to spend more on too.

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Posted by ant n tilde

yeah i dont think Gina mean like regular stuff like paying for a DJ or something like that

I think she meant more like the whole 'Platinum Weddings' vibe like spending $50K on a certain kind of exotic lily that only grows out of the armpits of Himalayan donkeys. . . for example.

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Thats funny.

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Posted by Fall Bride 2008

yes i have 2 photographers
yes i am having a dress made by a well known designer
yes i am having my wedding at a expensive place
and yes i have added a lot of extras... It dosent make me rediclous, it dosent make me forget how important my day is, and by no means does it take away from myself and FH. We are buying because we want to buy a house and it will make us happy. This is what we can afford so this is what we will do. It dosent make me appreciate my day any less because I have 2 photographers or expensive flowers and by no means does it take away from my true feelings. We do these things because it makes us happy with goes along with us having the perfect day. Denise said it well.

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Very very very well said