Honestly ... a lot of people just don't like to give cash. They feel it's more personal to give a gift, whether they are from NY or not. And some people may not have the means to give the kind of cash that would be recognized as an appropriate gift, so they may choose to give a tangible gift, something that the couple can use. Since the overwhelming majority of people give cash, I don't think any of us need to worry.
Posted by queenbean
I don't understand- I'd be happy to get things off my registry!
that stinks.. I would have cancelled it!
Posted by Mizzdimple
i dont mind but we are protecting thousands of dollars we have to worry about gifts too..and carry home gifts come on....
gifts are for the shower
mind you they are purchasing off of Fortunoff and they have discontinued most of my registry items..so basically if im getting gifts i cant even return them there...., and i cant even buy the matching sets.
ughhh.
Posted by mRm2008
Posted by Mici n KC
Just tell them your registry has been fulfilled.
That is a good approach. I think the majority of people have NO CLUE about wedding costs today. Cash always makes the best gift, however some people find it impersonal and not traditional.
Posted by JBoothIn2008
Posted by Mizzdimple
i dont mind but we are protecting thousands of dollars we have to worry about gifts too..and carry home gifts come on....
gifts are for the shower
mind you they are purchasing off of Fortunoff and they have discontinued most of my registry items..so basically if im getting gifts i cant even return them there...., and i cant even buy the matching sets.
ughhh.
I would hope they wouldn't bring gifts to the wedding. When I have bought gifts, I always sent them in advance or right after the wedding to the bride's home, or brought it by a few days before if I was very close with them. Maybe they will bring them to the rehearsal?
Posted by KK Holiday
Posted by mRm2008
Posted by Mici n KC
Just tell them your registry has been fulfilled.
That is a good approach. I think the majority of people have NO CLUE about wedding costs today. Cash always makes the best gift, however some people find it impersonal and not traditional.
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when we went to a wedding in Marlyand we gave cash, I felt a little odd since there were no envelopes there and it was a table full of gifts, a ton of them. I gave a decent amount of money, nothing what I would of called a large cash gift and she nearly fainted from it. When she sent us a thank you card she underlined EXTREMELY GENEROUS and put it in bold. She then called me to tell me she cried when she opened it. I am guessing other states typically don't give cash. I casually asked her how much people typically gives for a couple at a wedding there and she said a couple if they give cash give like 50 bucks or spend that on a present. I know attending a ny wedding I would of been talked about for years to come. It's just different from state to state i guess.
Posted by Mizzdimple
Posted by KK Holiday
Posted by mRm2008
Posted by Mici n KC
Just tell them your registry has been fulfilled.
That is a good approach. I think the majority of people have NO CLUE about wedding costs today. Cash always makes the best gift, however some people find it impersonal and not traditional.
i totally agree!!!![]()
Its all of my out of town guests from middle america that are asking this too! hahahah
im like..we dont do that in New York hahahahha
then i felt bad like who the hell am i to tell them what to give me...
Posted by KK Holiday
Posted by Mizzdimple
Posted by KK Holiday
Posted by mRm2008
Posted by Mici n KC
Just tell them your registry has been fulfilled.
That is a good approach. I think the majority of people have NO CLUE about wedding costs today. Cash always makes the best gift, however some people find it impersonal and not traditional.
i totally agree!!!![]()
Its all of my out of town guests from middle america that are asking this too! hahahah
im like..we dont do that in New York hahahahha
then i felt bad like who the hell am i to tell them what to give me...
i would be upset tooas terrible as it sounds....because youre laying out ALL THIS MONEY (more money than any middle of america wedding) and then someone gets you a vase.
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and yes, a wedding shouldnt be a ploy to make cash, but it sure can help!
Posted by Mizzdimple
Posted by KK Holiday
Posted by Mizzdimple
Posted by KK Holiday
Posted by mRm2008
Posted by Mici n KC
Just tell them your registry has been fulfilled.
That is a good approach. I think the majority of people have NO CLUE about wedding costs today. Cash always makes the best gift, however some people find it impersonal and not traditional.
i totally agree!!!![]()
Its all of my out of town guests from middle america that are asking this too! hahahah
im like..we dont do that in New York hahahahha
then i felt bad like who the hell am i to tell them what to give me...
i would be upset tooas terrible as it sounds....because youre laying out ALL THIS MONEY (more money than any middle of america wedding) and then someone gets you a vase.
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and yes, a wedding shouldnt be a ploy to make cash, but it sure can help!
its just that its what we know...
and unfortunatley thats what they knwo...
i mean all of my cousins..when they get married the money helps with the downpayment.
Posted by soon2bemrsdelrio
Posted by Mizzdimple
Posted by KK Holiday
Posted by Mizzdimple
Posted by KK Holiday
Posted by mRm2008
Posted by Mici n KC
Just tell them your registry has been fulfilled.
That is a good approach. I think the majority of people have NO CLUE about wedding costs today. Cash always makes the best gift, however some people find it impersonal and not traditional.
i totally agree!!!![]()
Its all of my out of town guests from middle america that are asking this too! hahahah
im like..we dont do that in New York hahahahha
then i felt bad like who the hell am i to tell them what to give me...
i would be upset tooas terrible as it sounds....because youre laying out ALL THIS MONEY (more money than any middle of america wedding) and then someone gets you a vase.
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and yes, a wedding shouldnt be a ploy to make cash, but it sure can help!
its just that its what we know...
and unfortunatley thats what they knwo...
i mean all of my cousins..when they get married the money helps with the downpayment.
I get what you mean, it's definitely a New York thing to give cash, FH and I went to Florida for my cousin's wedding and were shocked to see the table full of gifts and the no choice of menu, it was definitely a different wedding culture.
My friend purchased everything so that this wouldn't happen. Maybe you can do the same or just delete everything.I've only been to weddings where we gave cash. Gifts were given at the shower or even the engagement.
