I need Advice girls!!!

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Posted by FDNYwife1029

And if they do show, IGNORE THEM!!!!!!!!!!

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That's what I did to DH's highschool friend who is a girl I DISLIKE HER VERY MUCH but she NEVER SAID HI TO ME EITHER LIKE I FORGOT SHE WAS EVEN COMING!

I dunno... I hate to be the dissent here, but.... despite all the rudeness, FH has chosen to keep this guy as a friend. And as a friend, he wants him at his wedding. I can't really blame him for that. Yes, the guy was rude to you, I hear you, and I don't blame you for being pissed about that... but if you tell FH he can't invite them I feel like it's the same as telling him to sever the relationship.

Unfortunately, he comes as a package deal with this girl but... if having him there is going to make FH happy... are you really going to notice they are there? You're going to be busy partying it up withthe people whoa re important to you. Stick them in the back at the last table and let FH keep the piece with someone he obviously feels is important enough to maintain a relationship with, as limited as it might be because of the wife.

JMHO.

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Posted by KrisBren2011

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Posted by chilly313

I completely understand how you feel - I wouldn't want people like that at my wedding either. Did you ask FH why he wants to invite them? Does it bother him that his friendship with Joe has kind of fallen apart? Is he trying to re-kindle the friendship. How close were they in the past? Bottom line is, if its really important to FH, I think you have to invite them (and maybe they won't come anyway). And then just try to stay away from them as much as possible that day, if they do come.

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He says he wants to invite them cuz it's the 'right thing to do because he's know him for so long.' Their entire friendship has been like this... The wife tells Joe crap about FH and Joe stops talking to FH for months at a time. Joe's been with his wife for like 7 years so their whole friendship since her has been like this. Joe is completely whipped and does whatever she says. Funny story is that I actually work with Jane..same building but different department, and i NEVER see her. She's so miserable and has zero friends...her whole bridal party was his female family members.

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If he just wants to invite them because its the right thing to do, then I would say no way. If they had a long history and used to be really close and FH was trying to re-establish the friendship, that would be one thing. But if this is the way their whole friendship has been - who needs that, especially at your wedding! I have a few people I am inviting because its the 'right thing' to do - but those people don't make me miserable. I do think FH should have some say - after all, it is his day too , but unless there is a really good reason to have these people there, I'd say you have every right to not want them there.

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Posted by KrisBren2011

Thanks for all your help girls! Guess I'll just now wait and see what FH says...

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good luck

INVITE THEM, DONT GIVE THEM A FAVOR..TAKE THEIR WEDDING GIFT..SIT THEM WITH OLD PEOPLE.. AND DONT SEND THEM A THANK YOU CARD!!! HAHA IM TERRIBLE!!!! LOLOL

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Posted by xbutrflykissesx

INVITE THEM, DONT GIVE THEM A FAVOR..TAKE THEIR WEDDING GIFT..SIT THEM WITH OLD PEOPLE.. AND DONT SEND THEM A THANK YOU CARD!!! HAHA IM TERRIBLE!!!! LOLOL

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