i need hugs..

Original post by butterfly20

Feb 17, 2004 07:47 PM

everyones been yelling at me today.
i feel like sh*t.....

why does my mother have to yell at me because she has problems.

i then try and be nice and pick up the dinner fh's family ordered, then fh gets yelled at for having me get it, and gives me a guilt trip that i shouldnt have gone cause he got yelled at...... if he freaking got ready in the 15 minutes he had, he would have been able to pick it up on time..

OctGroom Posted: Feb 17, 2004 10:21 PM

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Posted by butterfly20

its too late already..... there are a bunch of deposits we wouldnt get back....
i just will go through with it, and resent, then ignore the family...... im really dissapointed in this whole thing

his other side of the family, is so supporting and normal, i dont need this negative side near me

i hear you.. no one needs negativity. Just keep holding on to each other... I can't explain why the negativity happens.. it is an awful mystery.... but I think you need to concentrate on the good things and the good people as well... don't let the bad or the negative put a damper on the beautiful plans and the love you for each other. That's important!

butterfly20 Posted: Feb 17, 2004 10:53 PM

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thank you for the encouragement..
ihave to try and remember all the good people.. the other side has been wonderful through everything, and all excited for us...

steph4777 Posted: Feb 17, 2004 10:59 PM

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July2004Bride Posted: Feb 17, 2004 11:02 PM

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OctGroom Posted: Feb 17, 2004 11:02 PM

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Posted by butterfly20

thank you for the encouragement..
ihave to try and remember all the good people.. the other side has been wonderful through everything, and all excited for us...

i honestly wish I knew the answer to all this BS to give to you.. but I don't.

But the absolute best answer is your FH and all the other good people in your life who love you! if you can go on that, you're going be OK!

Maribelle7777 Posted: Feb 18, 2004 08:33 AM

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LizD Posted: Feb 18, 2004 08:36 AM

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Maribelle7777 Posted: Feb 18, 2004 08:47 AM

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Posted by butterfly20

its too late already..... there are a bunch of deposits we wouldnt get back....
i just will go through with it, and resent, then ignore the family...... im really dissapointed in this whole thing

his other side of the family, is so supporting and normal, i dont need this negative side near me

Emily, whatever this cousin did to upset you, major or not, you should not become bitter in all this. Yes it is your wedding and yes you should be able to do what you want but sometimes we have to learn to let go and just let it be for our own sanity. Do you want to enter into your marriage holding a grudge against your FH and his family for inviting the cousin?

If it means that much to you, sit down calmly with FH and his parents and explain your situation. Nothing will get done by crying on your part and yelling on their part. Even if they still won't budge, know that your feelings have been heard and maybe someone will finally 'get it' at the last moment and ask the cousin not to attend.

I just think that entering into a marriage with this sort of resentment will not make the problem solved or matters go away, it will make it worse.

I hope things get better