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Fh & I are giving my mom a trip to vegas for her 65th birthday and for giving us the wedding. his parents arent and havent yet given a dime. I want to acknowledge my mom publically w/ a big thank you at the wedding & her plane ticket. do you think this is inappropriate? i bought fh's parents little stuff, too. but like hankies that i would give them before. I love his parents but they haven't even asked what they could do. they just gasp everytime they hear a price related to the wedding. what do you think?
Yeah I know how you feel. My mom is helping me soo much and FIL have not either. I wouldnt thank her at the wedding because it will come off offensive and may seem rude. What I plan on doing for my mom is dancing to In my Daughters Eyes, to personally thank her.
Posted by iwannabmrsD
i disagree..i think you should thank her publicly.. i plan on thanking my mother publicly at our reception.. she did a WHOLE LOT for both me and fh.. and his parents haven't done anything. In our newsletter i thanked both of them and then added a second line thanking her for helping us make our day so special.. i'm sorry if it makes the in laws feel uncomfortable, but i don't see any reason why i should short my mom (who coincidentally, has also has been through so much with my dad passing and still managed to assist us in pulling this off) just to make them feel more comfortable.. so yep.. when it's my turn to talk at the reception, i'm going to give her the accolades that she deserves.
i wouldnt do it. Interupting the flow of your wedding to publically thank your mom doesnt seem appropriate. I would privately thank her with FH for all that she has done. Or you can do it at the rehersal dinner
Posted by Espo22
Posted by iwannabmrsD
i disagree..i think you should thank her publicly.. i plan on thanking my mother publicly at our reception.. she did a WHOLE LOT for both me and fh.. and his parents haven't done anything. In our newsletter i thanked both of them and then added a second line thanking her for helping us make our day so special.. i'm sorry if it makes the in laws feel uncomfortable, but i don't see any reason why i should short my mom (who coincidentally, has also has been through so much with my dad passing and still managed to assist us in pulling this off) just to make them feel more comfortable.. so yep.. when it's my turn to talk at the reception, i'm going to give her the accolades that she deserves.
its not just about that...its about the fact that who paid for the wedding i think shouldn't be discussed to the guests. If im a guest at a wedding, i dont want to hear 'thank you to X for paying for my wedding' Like i said a speech to thank parents for always being there for you throughout your whole life is different. To publicly announce who paid is just not what any guest should know.
Posted by fujamaga
IMO I think its okay to thank the mom - but to say something like Thank you so much for all your help in making my wedding day so special, it couldn't have been done without you.
Mentioning the money is awkward - not b/c of the FIL's, but b/c of the guests. And if your FIL's feel left out that they don't get a special mention, well so be it (but that's just my attitude).
