I quit wedding planning

I didn't want this big wedding in the first place. Half the things that we're doing are to make other people (AKA the Moms) happy.

So, I quit. I have been crying over this for 2 days straight, and that's not what it's supposed to be. If they want all these people there, they can do the invitations. Because I'm done.

I'm officially resigning my post as bride.

serious???

ETA: dont quit,,Just do it your way!

You are kidding right?
You are almost there Deb!!!

What do you need help with?

Awww... That is horrible that you are so stressed, Deb. I am feeling your pain but we realized last week that it is too late to go elope! Hang in there! Just don't talk to anyone about the wedding details right now.

Edited to say: JUST SAY NO! Be a bridezilla- its expected anyway- I have said no to my FMIL twice last week and this is no easy task. You can do it!

i think we all go through this at one point or another.. at least i know i did.. quite a few times.

you just have to step back and remember what this day is all about... you and your FH.

no matter what you try to do or say SOMEONE will always say something different but its your day and you need to do whats right for you. Just take a break from planning for a few days.. or just stop talking to people who nag you about the wedding. if they mention it, change the subject.

I know what you mean!!!!

I am working on the invites addresses now... my addresses have been doen for weeks.... FI side is taking forever...he is lolly gagging and i threatend him that they willnot go out if he does not get the addresses. He doesnt even have the relatives real names. I have nicknames like Issy, Lolly, Patty, Bee, and Inny.

HE DOESNT EVEN KNOW THERE REAL NAMES
and its his dads side of the family whom is not alive to ask the for the names and his mom doenst know and oesnt speak to most of that side of the family anymore....

all i keep hearing from my parents is that my in laws have too many guests, but they won't take any guests off.

I've been told that i have to use our money toward things i didn't want, but then yelled at when i wanted to spend money on something i really did. i'm not making anyone happy, especially myself. So I quit.

Stick with it Deb - you are definitely almost there!

We are here for anything you need.

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Posted by alibali

you just have to step back and remember what this day is all about... you and your FH.

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That's the problem. it's not about me and FH any more. It's about my mother and his mother. Nobody listens to what me and FH want. No, actually, FH listens, agrees, and then cowers in front of his mother.

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Posted by DebsNY

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Posted by alibali

you just have to step back and remember what this day is all about... you and your FH.

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That's the problem. it's not about me and FH any more. It's about my mother and his mother. Nobody listens to what me and FH want. No, actually, FH listens, agrees, and then cowers in front of his mother.

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Tell him to stand up for himself. This is YOUR day, make them remember that!

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Posted by DebsNY

all i keep hearing from my parents is that my in laws have too many guests, but they won't take any guests off...

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FMIL had so many people on her list, we told her we weren't not inviting them... and that was it! We invited who FH knew/wanted at the wedding. She wasn't happy, but it's not her wedding.

I've had MAJOR issues with her, FSIL, my father and my gma about things we (FH and I) do and DON'T want to do.... and we are sticking to our guns! I refuse to look back at my wedding and say, 'I should have done it how we want.' I've also told FH a few times that I should have listened to him and gone to the judge... but I want this wedding and I'm not letting anyone stop us.

Remember this is YOUR DAY YOUR WAY (as quoted from LP). I cried rather often throughout the planning process. Its worth it in the end!

Unfortunately I think that if you want things to start going your way, you are going to have to get forceful and hopefully not make enemies along the way.

At one point I just told everyone the way it was going to be with the guest list, brawled with FH and his family but it worked out.

I tried this threat a few weeks ago, but it didn't really work out. I told my FH he could finish planning the wedding with his mother since she's such an expert on weddings and so interested in her first born son's wedding.

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Posted by MCDO15

are the parents paying for part of the reception hall? this is a touchy topic as you dont wont to offend anybody but now, its too a point where your being offended personally. i would try to have a small dicussion about this as you want everybody to enjoy you and you want people to see the day perfect.

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My parents are paying, his are not.

Oh No Deb.....I am so sorry. You can't give up on being a bride. Its what we've all been waiting for. Good Luck with the families and keeping it togther....you always have LIW.

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Posted by DebsNY

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Posted by MCDO15

are the parents paying for part of the reception hall? this is a touchy topic as you dont wont to offend anybody but now, its too a point where your being offended personally. i would try to have a small dicussion about this as you want everybody to enjoy you and you want people to see the day perfect.

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My parents are paying, his are not.

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hmm...makes it even harder

Dont give up though.. dealing with what we had to deal with, had we stop or pushed it back, we would of missed the best day of our lives

Don't Quit girl I know it is crazy at times but just think in the end you will be married to the man you love It will be o.k.

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Posted by mcaula

Don't Quit girl I know it is crazy at times but just think in the end you will be married to the man you love It will be o.k.

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but we can still be married without the crazy wedding