i REALLY want opinions on this!!!

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Posted by ChristineAaron08

I wouldnt call them..they probably already know. Vendors and non site vendors check regularly

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I agree! Some of my vendors have even contacted me via this site!! They know what is basically said. I have walked into a vendor office where there were printed forums with their names highlighted and they know who is who!

I wouldn't call them. Like it was said before many vendors check this site and the forums anyways. Plus someone's personal issues with a vendors service is their personal opinion.

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Posted by failurebydsign



i should have learned my lesson last week with whatever happend..just dont get why when i say anything it gets turned around..simply becuase im married and really have no place here anymore

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Honestly Dominique, I just read thru the first page of this thread over again, and I think everyone misunderstood your question.

Here's how I interpreted it.

If someone said something about your RH that would potentially hurt any future business there, would you call them to make them aware?

If that was not what you meant, you should have clarified before jumping down everyone's throat that answered you according to your question.

Even in your subject, you asked for OPINIONS... that's what you got... if you don't like what people have to say, than don't ask for OPINIONS.

Perhaps going back to your OP and editing it to make it more clear would help.

NO., theres no way any business is not going to have people not talking about them or giving them some bad rep.

Opinions<----- cant knock someone for having their own., everyone does....so whether its on a wedding forum or word of mouth its going to happen.

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Posted by Soon2beAlberti

uhhhhh.no.
1) i don't care enough to spend my time worrying about that

2) everyones entitled to their opinions and if they feel they had a bad experience it doesn't necessarily mean they are a bad vendor. I'd have to read quite a few bad reviews before writing off a vendor.

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Agreed!

Edited because someone else said it better!

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Posted by ant n tilde

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Posted by failurebydsign

im over it..i dont care..anything i ask some how gets turned into dramai..

how..ill never know..im the most easy gonig person you will ever meet and nothing ever offends me or gets me upset
but this is just starting to get crazy

i dont get it anymore..i ONCE AGAIN should not have even said anythingon a forum where i knew my words were going to get turned around

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can you read through this thread please? you are the only one causing drama

i like you, i really do and i am glad that we are NWs together

but sometimes i feel like you are reading a different thread . . . no one was attacking you and if you want to communicate with all these different people and personalities you have to stop being so sensitive

sorry, i am just being honest

no one answered like YOU were going to call everyone was speaking VERY generally. . as an outsider reading this i can see that and i dont know why YOU cant

did you want everyone to answer:

'well, if hypothetical person 'A' wanted to call hypothetical hall 'B' ((this is is no way a reference to the original poster and is not intended to be)). . . .'

No, people are going to say 'you' as in the general UNIVERSE of 'you' meaning anyone.

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ITA! Very well said on all accounts

ETA: I wouldn't call. I may point things out at a meeting, like I noticed them myself, or make it clear exactly what I expect from them (Haha- I wish I had done this with several of my vendors)
But- I wouldn't mention this site at all.

Besides, many vendors check the boards regularly. My photographer asked me to remove posts I made because they were negative (although deserved) and I did b/c I posted them before I let them fix the problem (which they never really did, and can't anyway)

though it stinks that people might not give glowing reviews for all the RH out there, everyone is entitled to their opinion, whether is positive or negative, but like all things in this world, you would hope as a reader you would take their opinions with a grain of salt. I've heard a lot of positive and negative things about some vendors and would use my own judgement to make a decision on them.

Everyone has a different idea and look that they want for their wedding and thats why there are a million RH out there, what might be my cup of tea, might be the ugliest place someone else has ever seen. Tough luck to them, cuz this is whats going to make me happy. so even if people say negative things about your RH, if you love it, then screw that they have to say, don't let other people bring you down!!

YUP... I would ask my BM whats going on? Is it true? I would tell him that I heard that and its making me worry.

That happened to me and I told me BM. I didnt tell him who it was but I need him to reassure me that it would not be a problem at my wedding. He did and it was fine. But if I didnt talk to him about it I would have been worrying about if you the whole year.

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Posted by failurebydsign

people are taking it as if im about to do this or have done it and its not like that

i simply asked a question

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OMG!! this entire thread seemed to have snowballed!!

I wouldn't.

What's done is done. You can't prevent people from saying what they have to say.

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Posted by Maria31

Absolutely Not.
I think everyone is entitled to their own opinion.
The beauty of this site and other wedding sites, is that you get HONEST opinions. If everything were positive all the time, I don't think people would even bother reading bride's reviews and other posts.

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I would say with negative opinions that 75% of the time they are legitimate complaints and. The other 25% are people with ridiculous expectations, or people that do not know what to expect out of other people regarding weddings and service.

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Posted by jonsgirl04

I wouldn't call them, because i believe in the freedom of speech, and everyone has a right to their opinion. I actually just went through this. I posted something on here asking girls opinions about my centerpiece and just last week my vendor called me and complained to me about it , looking bad for his business and wanted the post removed. I just said its just opinoins, and it was not removed. I was actaully so upset that i was stalked and tattled on, i cried. My Fh had to call up and talk to them because i was embarrassed,sad, and confused and felt that why cant i voice my opinion and why cant others?? I def wouldnt tell on them.It just seems wrong. This site is for advice, and opinions and if we could no longer feel speaking our minds, because of someone that is going to 'tell' on me, I would not want to post on here anymore. JMO.

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that is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard in my life

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Posted by failurebydsign

this is a serious question

if someone on here was talking bad about your reception hall ( which you love) and was saying things that could possibly destroy future business for them , would you call them and tell them whats been being said on here??

just so they could be aware about the possible bad mouthing or rumors being spread??

dont hold back..i wanna know

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lemme just say that all i did was read your original post and i know exactlyyyy what thread you're talking about i cant beleive all that was said there, but then again, if the hall has been promising these same exact things for years now (as someone has said.. forgot who), then i kinda feel like the hall deserves to be a lil bad-mouthed at that point... granted its kinda petty stuff though esp when you're not even booked with them yet

my answer is that NO i personally wouldn't call.

DOM that doesnt mean 'OMG NO You cant call you are wrong if you do so' i think thats how you took it when NOBODY meant it like that. Nobody directed it at you and said 'why would you call, whats wrong with you?' you asked what people would do and they answered what they would do and why. If you choose to do so or if anybody chooses to do so thats their problem and its fine. How you handle a situation differs from one person to another. If you notice the posts start off saying 'i wouldn't call' they are giving their opinion only. You really took it the wrong way bc i just read the whole thread. Dont get upset bc nothing to get upset about

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Posted by MrsK2008

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Posted by jonsgirl04

I wouldn't call them, because i believe in the freedom of speech, and everyone has a right to their opinion. I actually just went through this. I posted something on here asking girls opinions about my centerpiece and just last week my vendor called me and complained to me about it , looking bad for his business and wanted the post removed. I just said its just opinoins, and it was not removed. I was actaully so upset that i was stalked and tattled on, i cried. My Fh had to call up and talk to them because i was embarrassed,sad, and confused and felt that why cant i voice my opinion and why cant others?? I def wouldnt tell on them.It just seems wrong. This site is for advice, and opinions and if we could no longer feel speaking our minds, because of someone that is going to 'tell' on me, I would not want to post on here anymore. JMO.

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that is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard in my life

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My vendor wasnt saying anything about me he was calling me to say he wanted another girls post removed because he didnt like what she said. He actually said he was going to call Ron over it. All the girl said was if your vendor can not make you happy I would drop them? I still do not know why he called me???? Just upset me? Mostly because someone showed told and showed him the post. It really is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard!