I think he's going 2 cancel!

Original post by nervousbride15

Jun 04, 2004 04:37 PM

I am a regular user on these boards, but changed my name to post this issue.

I just had a conversation with my FH and I think he is going to cancel our wedding

He told me that forever is a long time! when I said that marriage to me IS forever, he said he didn't know if he could do that! He has been thinking about it alot lately and he isn't sure if he can do it bc he doesnt see us as having the kind of relationship now that he wants in the future- when I asked him why he proposed to me in the first place-his answer was 'i don't know'

I dunno what to do right now-I'm confused, hurt, stressed, anxiety filled and everything else.

thanks

butterfly20 Posted: Jun 05, 2004 11:30 PM

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im so sorry, i would definately say to seek some counseling... see if its maybe just regular jitters...... you deserve the best

sabella5804 Posted: Jun 06, 2004 12:01 AM

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For what it's worth, I love my husband with my whole heart, but at the end, right before our wedding, I was almost ready to throw in the towel, just because I couldn't handle the stress anymore. I am so newly married that my lazy a$$ hasn't even written my review yet, but I was so burnt that I could have left just for some peace and quiet. I don't know what phase you are in, but IMHO, engagement sucks and it really hard...

Good luck. I know I added nothing but my take on my experience, but I hope it helps.

shelly3950 Posted: Jun 06, 2004 10:16 AM

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First of all

Secondly, I agree with everyone else. You definitely need counseling. It could be just stress, or it could be something else. You need to find out before your wedding. Its better to find out now (no matter how painful) then a few years, a marriage and a child later.

You deserve the best and no matter what, you will be OK! Just remember that!

Maribelle7777 Posted: Jun 06, 2004 10:18 AM

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fall2005bride Posted: Jun 07, 2004 05:14 PM

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MrsK-in-June05 Posted: Jun 07, 2004 05:17 PM

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Try pre-marital couseling, talk it out calmly. You are in my prayers

nferrandi Posted: Jun 07, 2004 05:40 PM

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I know everyone is suggesting counciling, but that will only work if you both want the relationship to work. You need to talk to him and find out exactly where he stands. Was he just blowing up on you because you had a fight? Or did he really mean what he said? If he is ready to let the relationship go, which for your sake I hope he's not, than no amount of counciling is going to make things right. Good luck!