I think he's going 2 cancel!

I think he's going 2 cancel!

I am a regular user on these boards, but changed my name to post this issue.

I just had a conversation with my FH and I think he is going to cancel our wedding

He told me that forever is a long time! when I said that marriage to me IS forever, he said he didn't know if he could do that! He has been thinking about it alot lately and he isn't sure if he can do it bc he doesnt see us as having the kind of relationship now that he wants in the future- when I asked him why he proposed to me in the first place-his answer was 'i don't know'

I dunno what to do right now-I'm confused, hurt, stressed, anxiety filled and everything else.


thanks

Re: I think he's going 2 cancel!

I really think you guys should seek a counselor asap!! Could it be that he is stressed about all the wedding arrangements? Good luck and I hope everything works out for the best!!

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Oh no



I am so sorry about this!!! I think he needs his time to think about this. If this isn't what he wants, then he's not what you want. I truly believe everything happens for a reason. My friend just got out of a 3 year relationship recently and she was so upset when she thought it was going to happen and now she realizes it was for the best.

Just keep your head up high for now and see what happens. If you ever need to talk, FM me

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omg.... i am so sorry to hear that you're going through this. what kind of relationship is he interested in having in the future? I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better. Hang in there.

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I am so so so so sorry ...I can't even imagine how confused you mst be feeling right now. I would suggest that you and your FI look into some family/couples counseling and possible put the hold on wedding planning right now ( I do not know how soon your wedding date is scheduled) I would phrase it that this could be cold feet or somethnig more and a therapist may be able to understand where the conversation is comming from


GOOD LUCK

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OMG

I'm so sorry!! I don't know what to say!! You need to talk this out and find out if it's just normal 'getting-married-omg' jitters or if it's real!

Good luck and we are here for you regardless of what happens!!

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I'm soo sorry to hear this!

Definitely try to seek outside counseling, or if FH is against this I'd suggst taking a few days alone, then revisiting the discussion and sitting down to talk to your FH about this again. He is certainly expressing some pretty big doubts that should be taken very seriously... then again, he could just be having a panicky moment and/or cold feet , and just feeling overwhelmed about all the planning ,etc.

I know this is no consolation whatsoever, but its better to figure this out NOW before you get married. Its much easier to cancel a wedding than it is to go thru a divorce. And things do happen for a reason, and in the end if its not meant to be, you will be happier in the long run

Best of luck and we're here for you!!

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I am so sorry!!!! Is your wedding close? Is there a way to go to counseling first? You deserve someone who is happy and appreciates you. Please let me know if I can do anything for you!

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So sorry to hear this. The girls are right...you deserve the best. Hope all works out for you. We're here if you need us.

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I'm really sorry to hear this.

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I am so sorry to hear this!!!!!!!

I hope you and him can work everything out!

Good Luck!!!!!!

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So so so sorry you are going through this. I cannot imagine how you feel........sending you tons and tons of

Re: I think he's going 2 cancel!

The ladies are right, you should try counselling.

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I can't image what you are going through, but I wonder if it could be stress related. Can you guys take some time apart or pause the wedding planning?

Definitely try to seek counseling. Good Luck!

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I think you really need to sit down the 2 of you and talk this through. Maybe you can find a counseler that can meet with you right away so you have someone that can help you figure this out. I am so sorry you have to go through this but like others said, it is better now than later.

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thank you all for the and advice.

I'm lost as to what to do right now. He threw me for a loop... we had a little tiff on Wednesday, he didnt call me or return my calls yesterday AND then he calls me this afternoon and pulls this on me.

Do I call him and try to talk thru it? but when I did that before, he didn't talk back and had a little attitude, but if I dont call him and let him be, will he think I don't care?

God this is soooo high school and I'm over that scene. I don't really get along with his family for me to talk to them about it, if anything, they provoked it with all of their negativity towards us getting married-

I'm just at a loss of words.
We have a 2005 wedding planned, I already have my dress, hall, church-EVERYTHING!

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Is there any way you can talk to him in person and not over the phone?

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maybe it really is just cold feet or maybe he's stressed about something else and relating it to you and the wedding when its really not?

hard as it will be i'd leave him be for the weekend and then call him sunday night and get together to discuss everything. maybe if you dont call him for a few days it'll scare him that he really might lose you?

im so sorry!

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I would say that you guys need to get away from all the daily stress and wedding planning. The two of you should go somewhere overnight or for the weekend and just relax and enjoy each other. Sometimes that helps relieve the stress and anxiety, then figure out where your relationship is going. Good luck.