......i wana kick my mil from the wedding...i cant stand it anymore...UPDATE!!!!!!!

Original post by aliska21

Dec 10, 2008 11:41 AM

....so im sitting here..and crying my eyes out...not only she told all our family about our secret wedding..she decided to do the party for everyone..after words... but now she called me and told me that she is cancelling it....because...she doesnt wana deal with anyone....***!!!!!!!!!!!!! i told her that she shouldnt have opened her mouth from the beginning...and that wtta hell am i supposed to tell all my famiily...
im soo tired of dealing with her...it seems like its her wedding ...not mine..and every day ...i have to do stuff for her...i dont want her at our ceremony.......( i know its selfish..but all she does is fk complains...) i wana be happy on my wedding day...and fh to be too..!!!!! ( she even said that she cant close her shop early for that day....coz she will be busy..***..its ur sons wedding...!!!!)))

needed to vent..soorrry girls..

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i JUST TOOK A GLASS OF WINE..AND IT MADE ME MORE RELAXED..MY MOM JUST CALMED ME DOWN..ON THE PHONE..TOO

Suzanner Posted: Dec 10, 2008 02:40 PM

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I'm so sorry about this- I don't know the whole story, but she sounds like a world class piece of work. Stick to your guns and tell FH you refuse- simply refuse- to speak to her at all.

And your idea of giving her the phone numbers of your family is GENIUS.

I'm assuming you were going to have a small private wedding, and she blabbed to everyone? Unforgiveable. And she was going to throw a party afterwards, and she cancelled?? Am I right when I see your date is Dec. 28, and she cancels NOW???

Beyond balls. I'm so sorry. Simply refuse to talk to her.

brunbarb Posted: Dec 10, 2008 02:43 PM

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I'm writing under an assumed name because what I am going to write is just horrible, and I know it, but reading this just got me SOOO mad. How dare she ruin your wedding.

I just want to remind you of something, because a similar dynamic exists in my family.

When (if it is in your plans) you have kids, YOU are the king. Because YOU are the one with the power to keep this woman away from her grandchildren. Believe me, she will learn this soon enough. Revenge is a dish best served cold, my dear, and don't let her forget it.

Okay, I need to take my pills.

elysemichelle Posted: Dec 10, 2008 02:48 PM

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i am so sorry you are dealing with this! vent all you want, we are here for u.

aliska21 Posted: Dec 10, 2008 02:51 PM

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Posted by Suzanner

I'm so sorry about this- I don't know the whole story, but she sounds like a world class piece of work. Stick to your guns and tell FH you refuse- simply refuse- to speak to her at all.

And your idea of giving her the phone numbers of your family is GENIUS.

I'm assuming you were going to have a small private wedding, and she blabbed to everyone? Unforgiveable. And she was going to throw a party afterwards, and she cancelled?? Am I right when I see your date is Dec. 28, and she cancels NOW???

Beyond balls. I'm so sorry. Simply refuse to talk to her.

yea...yea...excatly what u said..all right,..im not even having any more..thoughts about her..its his mother...and i know he loves her..,.so for me hating her..wil hurt him...but i will not be in contact with her or any other ..stuff..i dont have to be...so ill just ignor..and live my life....

aliska21 Posted: Dec 10, 2008 02:54 PM

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Posted by brunbarb

I'm writing under an assumed name because what I am going to write is just horrible, and I know it, but reading this just got me SOOO mad. How dare she ruin your wedding.

I just want to remind you of something, because a similar dynamic exists in my family.

When (if it is in your plans) you have kids, YOU are the king. Because YOU are the one with the power to keep this woman away from her grandchildren. Believe me, she will learn this soon enough. Revenge is a dish best served cold, my dear, and don't let her forget it.

Okay, I need to take my pills.

oo wow..that is horrible...but true...!!!..but at the same time....i am that kind of person ..who will not go so low..as she did ...im not going to go n hate her all my life...ill just let her b..bcoz i cannot change her..n she is not my mother..and i just want piece and quite...but if she does smth really horrible..ill have to do smth like ..lol!!!
but right now...ill not speak to her..at all..hehe..bettter for everyone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ChrissyV729 Posted: Dec 10, 2008 03:11 PM

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That's so horrible .. I can't believe someone would actually act that way !! I am sorry that you have to go through this. You should just make excuses not to talk to her anymore because it is not fair how she is treating you. I hope everything works out

brunbarb Posted: Dec 10, 2008 03:51 PM

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Don't get me wrong- I'm not suggesting you keep her away from her grandkids. That's super cruel. What I'm saying is that once you have kids (if you plan or want to), the power shifts, and she will realize that you are the gatekeeper to the kids. If your relationship is poor, that will be a strain when she sees the kids. It amazes me to see how a previously horrendous MIL whips herself into shape when this is the case. It's effortless revenge. Good luck to you, and I hope everything works out!!

aliska21 Posted: Dec 10, 2008 04:03 PM

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Posted by brunbarb

Don't get me wrong- I'm not suggesting you keep her away from her grandkids. That's super cruel. What I'm saying is that once you have kids (if you plan or want to), the power shifts, and she will realize that you are the gatekeeper to the kids. If your relationship is poor, that will be a strain when she sees the kids. It amazes me to see how a previously horrendous MIL whips herself into shape when this is the case. It's effortless revenge. Good luck to you, and I hope everything works out!!

i understand girl!!! thank you for the advice!...i deff ..plan to have kids...and u right that it will change...!!!!!!!

Utterhappiness Posted: Dec 10, 2008 05:48 PM

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Oh no I am soooo sorry that your FMIL is being such a brat! You do not deserve this BS!!

What did your mom say? My mom would have flipped!!!!!

Im a Pepper Posted: Dec 10, 2008 07:17 PM

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I'm sorry Alisa! That sounds very difficult to deal with! But I'm glad you're calmer now! You shouldn't have to be stressed this close to your wedding!