I want to back out and Elope - LONG

Hi Girls. I had a horrible night last night. First, I went to go for my final fitting and it was an absolute nightmare. To try to make this long horrible story short, I bought my dress at David's Bridal in Carle Place....need I say more. My appt. was for 6pm. When I arrived w/my FMIL at 5:45 they first told me that they lost my bra when I specifically called ahead of time to make sure it was in. Then the girl was trying to get me to take another bra, one that was way too big for me and used. I insisted she find me MY bra and that I wasn't leaving until I had it. She finally found it after 45min. Then I go to the back to try on my dress and they told me to wait 15 min. Well, 15 min turned into 2 hours. It turned out the seamstress was altering my dress right then and there!!! I was mortified !! When I tried it on, it looked terrible. I wanted to cry. It was an absolute nightmare.

Yesterday was our cut off date for rsvps and I get a response from FH's cousin and 'her' baby !! I specifically told them NO CHILDREN !! The only children invited are our nieces and nephews. On top of that, FH's brother (Best Man) who lives out of state, never responded on whether or not he was brining his children (he has 4) and we're still waiting for him to get 2 additional measurements for his tux. FH is so fed up and is refusing to call his brother. He feels that his brother should call and be on top of things. He's right. I feel so bad for him because he's so hurt over this. On top of that, the people he wanted to come aren't coming on the kind of one particular person and now this one person probably won't come because she just broke both of her feet!!! FH and I wish we could just elope and forget this mess ever happened. What happened to 'happy' wedding planning. It's been a disaster from the beginning all starting with my dad, who flat out refused to come to my wedding. Sorry so long, but I'm just so upset right now. Thanks for listening

Don't worry, your wedding day will be here before you know it, and it will be perfect!!!

I hope things get better.

I'm so sorry honey, you sound SO stressed right now. I really think that everything that's going on is really a mess and unfair to yuo and FH, but the thing is yor wedding is so close, you have so much money invested, you have so mnay loved ones who are excited to come see your special day. You can always try to find some white dress off the rack at jessica mcclintock or something, or the BM will have an ill fitting tux, or you hall will try to accomodate a few extra kids. i know it seems so awful when you've put so much time and energy into planning a perfect event, but at the end of the day you and your new *DH* will be blissfully married and that's ALL that is going to matter. I've heard from almost every bride that once the day arrives, you don't care anymore WHAT goes wrong. The day will pass, and then you'll be alone with your DH, your guests will have ha da great time and you'll be MARRIED. I know it seems like a nightmare, and I think ANYONE in your position wouild be feeling the same exact way, but just take a deep breath and try to put it in perspective... In less than a month, you'll be MARRIED!!!

I'm sorry you're so upset.

do you have someone that can make the RSVP calls for you? you shouldn't do that. Also maybe have your FMIL talk to her son about getting his tux measurements, etc. My mom would've kicked my brother's azz if she knew he was causing the bride and groom all this stress

Awwww sweetie I know you've read all my previous posts so I can totally relate to what you're going through. Wanna elope together? Hang in there!!! Don't you wish families would make our lives EASIER and not MORE difficult! FM if you want to chat...I promise I'll write back this time!

I have no idea what to say Laurie. So here are alot of

If you need anything please let me know sweetie.

Carrie

Thanks girls. I really appreciate all your

I just spoke with FH and his mom is crying over this and he is a wreck. It's just not right. This is not how is supposed to be. I just want it all to end !!

Yes, Dawn let's go to Jamaica and elope together. That sounds like a great plan !!

sorry!
Through out wedding planning I had many days like that. But than, there are others where everything just seems right! and bright!

Hang in there for the happy days!

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Posted by halfpintny

Ok...I'll change travel plans...Jamaica it is!!!!!!!!!!!!! Although I hear Aruba is kinda nice this time of year? Or we could just take all the money and go to Bora Bora!

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Yes, Aruba is nicer, but Jamaica is better for partying and that's what I wanna do at this point to forget this mess.

So sorry you are going though this.

Things have a way of working out! Your day will be wonderful and in the meantime we are all here for support!!

Hang tough. If you do go to Jamaica, but a flowy sun dress, get barefoot and have a ceremony on the beach!
If you change your mind, we are with you.
I hope the dress is ok to wear. ?

I understand how you feel - I wanted to quit wedding planning last week! Hope it gets better for you!

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Posted by OctRo05

Hang tough. If you do go to Jamaica, but a flowy sun dress, get barefoot and have a ceremony on the beach!
If you change your mind, we are with you.
I hope the dress is ok to wear. ?

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We originally wanted to get married on the beach in Florida. At that time, we were living in Palm Beach Gardens, Florida and we were looking into places on Singer Island. We then moved back to NY (whole other story) and decided to just have a small wedding here on L.I. Boy, are we regretting that decision now. FH says 'how about we both not show for our own wedding'. Hey, right now, that doesn't seem like such a bad idea.

Again, thank you everyone for your support. I appreciate all the

I'm sorry Laurie...I wish I could help. There is a wonderful tailor right in Smithtown if you want to take your dress there. It is Enzo's and it is right on Main Street.

On another note, I promise I will plan something in Huntington for happy hour early next week so you can drop by for a couple of glasses of wine if you want to or not - no pressure because I know we don't know each other.